saalnu Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 My last post explains the background, http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/500584-ex-fully-ignoring-me -- It's been a month since the breakup. Yesterday, my ex gf sent me some clothes I'd left at her place, and texted me that our thing is over; told me to be fine and keep living my life. Is this definite? Haven't responded yet, since I don't know what to write. Whenever I read it again, I can't believe it. Can't believe these words came out of her head and heart. It hurts like hell, I can't stand the fact that we're not gonna see each other again, since I met her 6 years ago. I thought it was the love of my life and now it's over. Although I thought I had gotten past over the breakup, I always felt that there was hope. Now I don't and I am having very bad thoughts, feeling like I don't want to live anymore. I still feel the need to ask her the reasons why she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I can't believe this is happening, I feel like we are meant for each other and that she's not gonna find anyone else that's better than me. Picturing her with another guy feels like a stab in the chest. Can't let go of her, it feels stronger than me. Wake up in the morning without wanting to wake up and start the day. I got to admit that I have thought of giving up on living.
SycamoreCircle Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 I would say it's definite. But...you know that. You broke up with her for a reason. Be patient. People who talk about ending their lives are not the people who end their lives. You're going to get through this. Be happy for the things you have right now. Job, friends, family. Re-invest in those things. Right now you're in a museum looking at a painting with your nose pressed to the thing. In 6 months, going NC, you'll be standing about 10 paces back. The painting will look very differently.
preraph Posted November 10, 2014 Posted November 10, 2014 She's done. She's told you she's done and wants you to move on. To do otherwise would be a tragic waste of time and energy. I'm sorry for your pain.
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