Beautiful Kisses Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He always says things like "do you miss daddy"? "Show daddy how much you miss him". (Usually wanting a bj) recently he told me that he expects me to tell him good morning daddy each morning, even if I'm replying to his good morning text. He calls me his baby girl. I don't really mind that much, but I do wonder what makes him call me that. We've been talking now for 3 months. He's 34 and I'm 23
ses Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Sounds like a fetish for him. Due to the age difference it could also be a way for him to assert his masculinity/dominance over you. My first partner wanted me to call him "master" while we were in bed together, but I consented to it as part of our experimental fling with BDSM. We never took it beyond sexy time. Are you comfortable with the power dynamic? If not, then you need to tell him and establish your boundaries.
Priv Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He wants you submissive, or more likely he wants to feel more dominant I think and adored like a father figure. Thankfully in my language we have no daddy equivalent. Only papa and father. So no daddy nonsense. I usually demand to be called Master Priv, destroyer of worlds. Except on the weekend, where I prefer to be called Ahab. 7
Priv Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Sounds like a fetish for him. Due to the age difference it could also be a way for him to assert his masculinity/dominance over you. My first partner wanted me to call him "master" while we were in bed together, but I consented to it as part of our experimental fling with BDSM. We never took it beyond sexy time. Are you comfortable with the power dynamic? If not, then you need to tell him and establish your boundaries. Beat me to it there Ses... grrrrrr
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Hey maybe doing it because he sensed you needed it. Do you have need for a daddy ?
gaius Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He's always had the fantasy of having a daughter then sleeping with her. 2
mammasita Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 IME, it's daddy issues. I had an ex that liked for me to call him daddy during sex. "Oh yeah, this is your pu$$y daddy" etc etc LOL He grew up not knowing his father, so that's my non expert deduction.
evanescentworld Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I had a neighbour, many years ago whose husband wanted this kind of name-calling. It turned out to be a not-very-healthy fantasy for him, as actually, he had a penchant for younger ladies. And I do mean, "Younger". It may in all innocence be a game. But he may also have latent and as yet unexposed likings for those a little too innocent for sexual games. He would probably never act on it, but in your shoes, (based purely on my [not personal] unsavoury experience), I would tread warily and proceed with caution. If other tendencies emerge (getting you to dress up in younger clothes, insisting on your total hair shaving, 'young girls' porn) I would question his motives very seriously.... 6
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 (edited) insisting on your total hair shaving, 'young girls' porn) I would question his motives very seriously.... Hmm, I cannot agree with this. Shaving has nothing to do with the interest in children. Shaving offers a better view on the most stimulating part of a woman, and an adult woman's features are quite different to that of a child. I dare to say some men are naturally repulsed by non-adult features such as red colouration and lack of fully developed inner lips. Children are not only protected by law. Nature itself also offers protection. Edited October 5, 2014 by LoneIsland
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 Who said anything about shaving?
dreamingoftigers Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Why do some men do this "Daddy" thing. Because they are gross..... True story. I have no idea why any women think thats okay at all. 2
LoneIsland Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Why do some men do this "Daddy" thing. Very possibly they were excessively suppressed as a child. So they wished and wished they would become a big daddy when grown up. I am not convinced their interest is in children, rather they want to be respected as a daddy whose every word is the law.
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I call my german shepherd "Daddy". He's the only non-father figure that would get that privilege. Wait...Bradley Cooper. I would call him Daddy too. 3
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Lol role play!!! And I dont think you need to have "issues" to have dirty fantasy's.
Ninjainpajamas Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He's 34 and I'm 23 You're like a "child" to him...it does NOT have ANYTHING to do with you personally, the guy has issues, this is not your own personal cutsey name he created just for you. 1
Fondue Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 It is a dominance/submissive thing. I have my lady call me "sir" in the bedroom. Especially when I take control and she submits to it. It's a real big turn on for both of us. SHe loves being submissive, and I fortunate love to dominate.
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 People who keep saying he has issues you dont know enough about him to say that. It may just be a pet name. eg my first bf I called him daddy a few times for fun or sexually he was older, I dont have daddy issues my dad has always been around nor do I think father daughter relationships are sexy. There is nothing wrong with dirty role play. THE ONLY time I would get concerned if he starts requesting you only address him as that even in public. If you dont like it tell him and im sure he could think of something else to roleplay with. 1
michellew Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Maybe he thinks he's your sugar daddy and feels entitled to it. (Back to dominance.) Does he take care of you financially?
LuckyLady13 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Personally, I always found the idea of this very gross and seeing your age difference? Sometimes...someone who is actually a father likes to keep that in the forefront of his mind and when he wants his wife to call him daddy, he means the daddy of their children, the grown up man of the house and tends to call his wife mama or hot mama or something similar meaning mother of their children. And that's one thing. But in any other context? I really think the guy has deep issues (that totally repulse me). Apparently there's some people who aren't bothered by this. That confuses me. Always has. The thing is though, BK, you have every right to just say no and not do it if you don't want to.
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Apparently there's some people who aren't bothered by this. That confuses me. Always has. Im one of those people maybe I can explain. I am a type to do roleplay and I would need proof or clear indication of disturbance to link it to actual reasoning before id find it creepy or upsetting. Until that's given I see it as something harmless with no meaning or motive other than spicing things up.
evanescentworld Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I never SAID it was a definite I merely cautioned to not exclude the possible. It happens. It happened to my neighbour. And there are sufficient numbers of people in this thread who also feel uncomfortable considering the situation. If more than one person has an opinion, in the same vein, it's worth considering and proceeding with caution. 1
sid3 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 This thread gives me the ****in creeps. Agreed. Rationalization and speculations aside, it's wicked creepy. 1
Zahara Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 https://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/496405-he-just-using-me-sex-he-has-me-so Which is more concerning to you -- the fact that you're someone he uses for sex or that he wants you to call him daddy? 1
Recommended Posts