Beautiful Kisses Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 (edited) I'm 23 and he's 34 we met through a mutual friend 3 months ago at the bar, it was almost instant attraction, we exchanged numbers and the next day he called me early in the morning. We talked and met up again the following week at the park. We talked kissed and held hands. Then about 2 weeks later we went out for drinks and after we wwent to his house. One thing led to another, I ended up giving him a bj twice because I was on my montly , so we couldn't have sex. It was good, he liked and so did I. Then after that 2weeks went by we didn't see each other until one night he texted me telling me he missed me a lot and wanted me to meet him at his hotel room. I came to see him we had sex, he came really quick and actually wanted to cum inside me, but I told him no.After I had to go because the next morning I had work. A couple weeks after that he started acting flakey. Eveytime Iwould ask him to meet up & hang out he had an excuse. I starred to get frustrated because we live in the same town, so its not like there's distant between us. I eventually gave up, stop contacting him and wouldn't answer his text or calls. Then he texted me telling me he missed me and really needed to see me. I gave in, and met up with him. We were really happy to see each other since it had been a month since we last seen each other. we hugged , kissed got in his car in started talking. Then about 5 min later he pulled out his d*ck and said "show daddy how much you miss him". Requesting a bj. I did it and we both enjoyed it. We talked a little more , kissed and went our sepeate ways. The next day he texted me good morning (which he has done everyday since we met) I replied good morning and he replied and said "I want you to text me good morning daddy from now on, at least when you reply". I said OK. Then I asked him if he wanted to hangout after I got off work that night (this past Friday). Guess what? He ignored me. I still haven'theard from him since. He usually disappears on the weekends. This is the exact reason I started to ignore him before because he kept blowing me off. I called him. No answer. Then he text me yesterday saying hello. I said hey what's up , how come you ignored me? He text back and said I wasn't.I said well it sseemed like you did. He never responded. I just feel used and idk what to think about him anymore. I really like him, but every time I want to hangout he doesn't want to, but then if I leave him alone he begs me to meet up. What should I do about him? He also calls me his "baby girl" and tells me how much he cares about me and is interested in me, but he doesn't act like it. Edited October 5, 2014 by Beautiful Kisses
2sunny Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 He isn't calling asking to take you OUT ON DATES... So yes, you've allowed yourself to become his sex call. Next time he contacts you ignore it! Ignore! Ignore! And look for a guy that takes you out and gets to know you before doing sexual favors for him. 4
LostOnes05 Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Guy sounds like a Grade A *******, but you like him...smh. I never understand women. Treat them like crap (as this guy is treating you) and they love you for it. Be good to them and they either get scared and run, or you're not their type. This guy sounds like trash. Maybe you should reevaluate the "relationship" because frankly there is none. Remember that actions speak louder than words. To me (27 yr old guy) his actions say "I'm getting all the sex I want from a woman, when I want it, and how I want it. And I don't even have to take her out, she comes to me! All I have to do is dial the number!" Get out of this now, you're just wasting your own time. Wish you the best (call me...I'm jk)! 1
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 (edited) He is using it for sex now yes. But I cant help but wonder the first few dates went well until you started doing sexual things there's no mention of you contacting him ever sounds like you waited for him to contact you each time and then you followed each time you were together with giving him sex, he might of thought you had no interest in anything else at this point. I just state this because in your post for the few few weeks you only describe him being the one to contact and non of yourself till after hes grown distant. Its just a theory. If you did contact him in return without him always starting it then yes id say hes a douche. Edited October 5, 2014 by Omei
Author Beautiful Kisses Posted October 5, 2014 Author Posted October 5, 2014 I said that I WAS THE ONE mainly contacting him, and every time I contacted him talking about hanging out like going somewhere together he always had an excuse why he couldn't. I was the one who was always trying to innitiate everything, that's why I said I gave up and just stop asking him out.
Omei Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I said that I WAS THE ONE mainly contacting him, and every time I contacted him talking about hanging out like going somewhere together he always had an excuse why he couldn't. I was the one who was always trying to innitiate everything, that's why I said I gave up and just stop asking him out. Yes I read that part, but your contact was only discribed in the following weeks of his flakiness so I came up with that theory. I would just dump him, ignore it may of started off good but somewhere down the line it became just about sex the only thing I could suggest is next time maybe move even slower. I have a guy also that says he misses me etc but he always finds ways to bring up sex each time and its total bs and then I go back to ignoring his texts for months. 1
Cristo Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 I'm 23 and he's 34 we met through a mutual friend 3 months ago at the bar, it was almost instant attraction, we exchanged numbers and the next day he called me early in the morning. We talked and met up again the following week at the park. We talked kissed and held hands. Then about 2 weeks later we went out for drinks and after we wwent to his house. One thing led to another, I ended up giving him a bj twice because I was on my montly , so we couldn't have sex. It was good, he liked and so did I. Then after that 2weeks went by we didn't see each other until one night he texted me telling me he missed me a lot and wanted me to meet him at his hotel room. I came to see him we had sex, he came really quick and actually wanted to cum inside me, but I told him no.After I had to go because the next morning I had work. A couple weeks after that he started acting flakey. Eveytime Iwould ask him to meet up & hang out he had an excuse. I starred to get frustrated because we live in the same town, so its not like there's distant between us. I eventually gave up, stop contacting him and wouldn't answer his text or calls. Then he texted me telling me he missed me and really needed to see me. I gave in, and met up with him. We were really happy to see each other since it had been a month since we last seen each other. we hugged , kissed got in his car in started talking. Then about 5 min later he pulled out his d*ck and said "show daddy how much you miss him". Requesting a bj. I did it and we both enjoyed it. We talked a little more , kissed and went our sepeate ways. The next day he texted me good morning (which he has done everyday since we met) I replied good morning and he replied and said "I want you to text me good morning daddy from now on, at least when you reply". I said OK. Then I asked him if he wanted to hangout after I got off work that night (this past Friday). Guess what? He ignored me. I still haven'theard from him since. He usually disappears on the weekends. This is the exact reason I started to ignore him before because he kept blowing me off. I called him. No answer. Then he text me yesterday saying hello. I said hey what's up , how come you ignored me? He text back and said I wasn't.I said well it sseemed like you did. He never responded. I just feel used and idk what to think about him anymore. I really like him, but every time I want to hangout he doesn't want to, but then if I leave him alone he begs me to meet up. What should I do about him? He also calls me his "baby girl" and tells me how much he cares about me and is interested in me, but he doesn't act like it. How is this even a thread? Yes. It's very clear that he just wants sex from you.
isisisweeping Posted October 5, 2014 Posted October 5, 2014 Eew. Don't let a guy treat you like that. If he' interested in sex and can't be bothered with normal communication and hanging out without sex, don't bother with him. Not for a moment. 1
Adele0908 Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 Actually, this situation is pretty easy. All you have to do is decide what you want right now. Do you want a booty call, a boyfriend, your independence, or love, etc. Once you decide what you want, not from him, but in GENERAL, just go from there. So just go with the flow, and try to figure out what you want right now. If he is not giving you what you want, express what you want. If he doesn't reciprocate, then keep it moving.
Assasda Posted October 6, 2014 Posted October 6, 2014 I dont know what OP wants to here. She knows her relationship is just a shallow one. So, you either continue with this shallow relationship, that is based on sex, or you give it up - its easy 1
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