Woman with breast enhancement attract men for said reasons

[Emilia]

YOu don't get it, it's ok.

You could always just explain it, this is a messaging board after all.

[SummerDreams]

You could always just explain it, this is a messaging board after all.

 

I can't explain it with words, it's like trying to explain to someone why you feel the need to cry for things, there is just no explanation.

[Emilia]

I can't explain it with words, it's like trying to explain to someone why you feel the need to cry for things, there is just no explanation.

Not sure about that. I can usually explain the need to cry for things: sorrow, expression of anxiety, emotions affected by hormonal fluctuations (PMT), etc.

 

I suppose I want to understand what one person's burden has to do with a complete stranger's self esteem and happiness.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

When someone tries to argue on a message board, people tend to grasp at straws. This particular "What if you were born with out a penis" is just a strawman argument.

 

Really!?!? I was born with no breast tissue.. Wanna reword that!?

[Priv]

Can I just say I like breast implants.

 

 

I also like how they feel, though that might have been my mind playing tricks on me a little because I knew they were there. And even though I am no superexpert on breasts and boobjobs, there is something incredibly arousing knowing one had one. Maybe it has something to do with the woman very consciously enhancing her sexuality/femininity. And I am not even into big breasts. So please don't keep that a secret to your date. Call me a pig if you feel like it, that is ok.

[SummerDreams]

Not sure about that. I can usually explain the need to cry for things: sorrow, expression of anxiety, emotions affected by hormonal fluctuations (PMT), etc.

 

I suppose I want to understand what one person's burden has to do with a complete stranger's self esteem and happiness.

 

Sometimes you cry for no obvious reason, but anyway.

 

Sometimes when you are having a kind of expensive meal or very long vacation or you buy a really expensive car, don't you feel a little bit guilty towards the "strangers" in Africa who die out of hunger and poverty? Do you see my point?

[OwMyEyeball]

Sometimes you cry for no obvious reason, but anyway.

 

Sometimes when you are having a kind of expensive meal or very long vacation or you buy a really expensive car, don't you feel a little bit guilty towards the "strangers" in Africa who die out of hunger and poverty? Do you see my point?

If in some way may actions contributed to their suffering, then yes, I would feel guilt.

 

Otherwise I find it better to feel thankful for what I do have and enjoy, rather than burden my mind sympathizing with the millions who at any point in time are suffering for any variety of reason. That only diminishes me and prevents me from doing anything meaningful to enrich the lives of those around me who I can and do effect.

 

I believe misplaced guilt, while certainly the sign of a caring and open heart, can do more harm than good.

 

Think global, act local.

[OwMyEyeball]

Is this something like "Teasing" - she doesn't want cat-calls but to feel 'desired' by men or to feel good

 

Maybe its just too insular-focused, but a woman might not realize, understand, or comprehend that when "Men see Big Boobs, they are going to be sexually aroused"

 

As I said, "breast implants" are a "sexual product" and a woman might get them so she can feel sexy looking in the mirror.

 

But the breast implants will "provoke a reaction" from the men and women in society, whether intended or un-intended.

So then going back to the original argument of why women choose to get implants, you can understand that their decision can be driven by more than a desire to be objectified. That their decision has unintended consequences does not invalidate their reason for making it.

 

I pursue my career because it gives me a deep sense of satisfaction and contribution. I also get paid for it. One consequence, while an important portion of my decision to pursue my career, does not all together determine my reasons for having chosen it.

[MidwestUSA]

I found out Friday that my dad has colon cancer.

 

Sackcloth and ashes for everybody. He needs the laugh.

 

 

 

I'm SOOO sorry to hear that.

[MidwestUSA]

Yeah, a lot of women get implants after the divorce because they no longer feel desired by a man, or physically attractive to a man. Its a big confidence booster to feel that a man or an ex-husband will begin to sexually desire you again. Congratulations on the implants!

 

Thanks. They are fourteen years old now, and as I said, I wasn't trying to recreate anything with my husband. We had four sexless years at the end, and I absolutely did not dress to show them off around him. Nor was I planning for any future potential relationships.

 

 

I'm just glad I didn't have to split them up during the divorce!

[Tayla]

to the OP- Since you brought this up, perhaps you can research the studies on this - Average age of recipient, medical reason, Cost and average healing time. This can give you an idea of what the reality is for this market and some of its patients. Worked with Breast cancer survivors some of them prefer the prosthetics some prefer to simply accept the change. Its an elective surgery and one that comes with risks. There are actually women who get reduction done because of the back problems and the social awkwardness. I do hope you don't judge them as well.

[MidwestUSA]

How big were you before and after?

 

Well, with all the confusing breast measuring threads that have been started here, I honestly don't know how to express my size!

 

I'll have to search pics of random women and see what I can come up with for comparison.

 

I can still sleep on my stomach and walk upright.

 

ETA: This comes pretty close. A to C.

 

 

http://www1.plasticsurgery.org/before_and_after_photo_gallery/case.aspx?id=9559

Edited September 25, 2014 by MidwestUSA

[jay1983]

Well, with all the confusing breast measuring threads that have been started here, I honestly don't know how to express my size!

 

I'll have to search pics of random women and see what I can come up with for comparison.

 

I can still sleep on my stomach and walk upright.

 

ETA: This comes pretty close. A to C.

 

 

Photo Set

 

Those are some really nice A's too. lol

[Got it]

Again, these women are either "extremely naive" or just stupid not to comprehend that Implants will provoke a reaction from the men around her. She might even get some cat-calls depending on a low-cut outfit.

 

Big Implants are seen as a "sexual product" whether the woman wants to feel "self-love" in the mirror, or to arouse jealousy from other women, or to attract compliments from men.

 

There is no denying that "Big Implants" are "Sexual Products" that will arouse the attention from men and women in all circumstances and situations.

 

Do you have any concept how dangerous and sexist this post is?

 

Then this is saying showing any legs is a "sexual product", any hair, any swing in one's step, it is saying that everything and anything about a women is being set up to be evaluated and judged as a sexual product for men.

 

You understand that women's sole existence is not as sexual products for men, right.

 

Sheesh. This is frightening.

[Got it]

Sometimes you cry for no obvious reason, but anyway.

 

Sometimes when you are having a kind of expensive meal or very long vacation or you buy a really expensive car, don't you feel a little bit guilty towards the "strangers" in Africa who die out of hunger and poverty? Do you see my point?

 

I never cry for no reason. That doesn't make any sense? How does one not know why they are crying?

 

And no, I don't feel guilty. Do you just go through life feeling guilty or do you do something about it? Do you donate all your time and money to the starving people in Africa?

 

I have never felt the need or responsiblity to have to own all the ills of the world. Sounds a little too omnipotent to me.

[RedRobin]

I have friends who are very athletic and legitimately flat who got implants... but later had them removed because... seriously... there just isn't enough tissue to cover anything but the smallest implants and look natural. I definitely believe them when they said they did it for themselves. Noone wants to feel like an outlier.

 

 

When I was younger, I went through a phase when I considered it. Am glad I didn't. Also lucky that my booty is pretty much prize winning, though. And my eyes are a really pretty green. And my hair is pretty amazing too. And my parents paid for some top notch orthodontics back in the day. And that my body is healthy enough to do just about anything I'd like to do (1st marathon in three weeks! Woot!) Lots to be proud of without the silicone.

 

 

When I was doing OLD, I'd show a pic of me from the front with a great big smile and say "If you are a boob man, you are out of luck, haha"

 

 

Got tons of likes for that picture. I believe them when they say they prefer a woman who is confident with her body. If the only way a woman would feel confident is to have plastic surgery, then I can't really judge. I've had orthodontic work (as a kid) AND had my tubes tied. The orthodontic work was medically necessary... but the tubes getting tied was totally voluntary and a major medical event. I've never regretted having my tubes tied either. My sex life is much better because of it.

[jay1983]

I have friends who are very athletic and legitimately flat who got implants... but later had them removed because... seriously... there just isn't enough tissue to cover anything but the smallest implants and look natural. I definitely believe them when they said they did it for themselves. Noone wants to feel like an outlier.

 

 

When I was younger, I went through a phase when I considered it. Am glad I didn't. Also lucky that my booty is pretty much prize winning, though. And my eyes are a really pretty green. And my hair is pretty amazing too. And my parents paid for some top notch orthodontics back in the day. And that my body is healthy enough to do just about anything I'd like to do (1st marathon in three weeks! Woot!) Lots to be proud of without the silicone.

 

 

When I was doing OLD, I'd show a pic of me from the front with a great big smile and say "If you are a boob man, you are out of luck, haha"

 

 

Got tons of likes for that picture. I believe them when they say they prefer a woman who is confident with her body. If the only way a woman would feel confident is to have plastic surgery, then I can't really judge. I've had orthodontic work (as a kid) AND had my tubes tied. The orthodontic work was medically necessary... but the tubes getting tied was totally voluntary and a major medical event. I've never regretted having my tubes tied either. My sex life is much better because of it.

 

lol You know guys online will bang anything right? A lot of average women don't understand that and let all the attention go to their head.

[Priv]

I think the whole question of whether one does something for themselves or for others is pretty much moot anyway. Our whole identities are derived from how others percieve us. Doing something for yourself versus others is impossible to debate.

[TheGuard13]

(looks at the thread title)

 

In other news, water is wet.

[Tayken]

What about the ones with the butt implants????

[jcrew11]

Do you have any concept how dangerous and sexist this post is?

 

Then this is saying showing any legs is a "sexual product", any hair, any swing in one's step, it is saying that everything and anything about a women is being set up to be evaluated and judged as a sexual product for men.

 

You understand that women's sole existence is not as sexual products for men, right.

 

Sheesh. This is frightening.

 

Again, women seem incredibly naive or stupid about most men's intentions, and really the potential for rape in certain situations. Is it safe for a woman get drunk and walk down dark alleys at 3 am?

 

I think its more frightening that you don't "comprehend or realize" that there are unscrupulous men that will leer and view women with big boobs as sexual objects. That is my point entirely. That is not sexist, if anything it says that men can be pigs or rapists.

 

If a woman gets "Big Implants" she WILL RECEIVE A LOT OF ATTENTION FROM MEN if she wants it or not. Its just a side effect of having large breasts.

 

Also, you can blame the media for "sexualizing breasts" - but I think everyone here can acknowledge that breasts are "sexual objects" just like a male penis is a "sexual object"

 

Breasts cannot be shown on TV and is considered "NUDITY" in most countries. Legs can be shown on TV. I think I have explained the you the difference in human anatomy and what is considered a sexual organ by the FCC censors. If boobs can be shown on TV, then janet jackson wouldn't have been fined a ton of money.

[jcrew11]

So then going back to the original argument of why women choose to get implants, you can understand that their decision can be driven by more than a desire to be objectified. That their decision has unintended consequences does not invalidate their reason for making it.

 

I pursue my career because it gives me a deep sense of satisfaction and contribution. I also get paid for it. One consequence, while an important portion of my decision to pursue my career, does not all together determine my reasons for having chosen it.

 

But I think its dangerous and delusional for a woman who wants a C or D cup to not understand that their are A LOT, dare I say MOST, men who will view her as a "sexual object" and physically attractive and won't literally see past her boobs.

 

You think Strippers get implants for themselves, or because they want male customers to pay them more money???

 

Men have been conditioned through the media and society to view Big Breasts as objects of lust and desire. You're not going to change the minds of a the whole male gender and tell men not to look at a woman's breasts.

 

There are also a lot of men or rapists, that will mistake a girl with big implants for being a "slutty" girl who wants to be a pornstar/stripper who seeks out male attention.

 

You're not going to change society, Men are going to objectify and get aroused by big fake implants!!!

 

I would warn girls with big implants just to be safe of your surroundings and to watch out for dangerous men. Especially if drinking alcohol is involved, there will be men who are more sexually aggressive and violent.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I'm going to weigh in and swing this discussion WAY over to the other side.

 

I was "blessed" with big boobs. I blossomed very young which caused a lot of problems for me because I was still a child trapped in a woman's body. I received a LOT of attention for the way I looked my whole life to the point where I became VERY self conscious about my chest. The guys would gawk and relentlessly tease while the girls behaved cruelly out of jealousy or envy I can only assume. I had no idea how to win at this and it took a toll on my self image and esteem.

 

I was also very athletic BUT there came a point when my boobs got in the way so much I used to bandage them up just so I could out perform the girls and most of the guys.

 

Eventually I learned to HATE my breasts. Honestly. I felt like no one ever took serious noticed ME and only noticed my boobs.

 

After years of dealing with this I eventually decided on a breast reduction. It was a very hard decision to make because of the risks including the fact that I would never be able to breastfeed a child. I weighed all the pros and cons and opted for the surgery when I turned 20.

 

I can't even begin to tell you how the surgery changed my life! For the first time in my life I felt "normal" and no longer looked like some over inflated blow-up doll. It was the absolute BEST decision I ever made and I would do it all again.

 

So the moral of the story is that we ALL can find some fault in our appearances. Too big, too small, too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, whatever. People can be insensitive. Society can be cruel. And as much as we say we're not affected, that we can rise above it all, it's hard. Very hard.

[irc333]

Hm, were you kind of built like London Andrews?

 

 

I'm going to weigh in and swing this discussion WAY over to the other side.

 

I was "blessed" with big boobs. I blossomed very young which caused a lot of problems for me because I was still a child trapped in a woman's body. I received a LOT of attention for the way I looked my whole life to the point where I became VERY self conscious about my chest. The guys would gawk and relentlessly tease while the girls behaved cruelly out of jealousy or envy I can only assume. I had no idea how to win at this and it took a toll on my self image and esteem.

 

I was also very athletic BUT there came a point when my boobs got in the way so much I used to bandage them up just so I could out perform the girls and most of the guys.

 

Eventually I learned to HATE my breasts. Honestly. I felt like no one ever took serious noticed ME and only noticed my boobs.

 

After years of dealing with this I eventually decided on a breast reduction. It was a very hard decision to make because of the risks including the fact that I would never be able to breastfeed a child. I weighed all the pros and cons and opted for the surgery when I turned 20.

 

I can't even begin to tell you how the surgery changed my life! For the first time in my life I felt "normal" and no longer looked like some over inflated blow-up doll. It was the absolute BEST decision I ever made and I would do it all again.

 

So the moral of the story is that we ALL can find some fault in our appearances. Too big, too small, too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, whatever. People can be insensitive. Society can be cruel. And as much as we say we're not affected, that we can rise above it all, it's hard. Very hard.

[OwMyEyeball]

But I think its dangerous and delusional for a woman who wants a C or D cup to not understand that their are A LOT, dare I say MOST, men who will view her as a "sexual object" and physically attractive and won't literally see past her boobs.

Based on that concern you should be lobbying your government to cover breast reductions for all C+ sized women out there who may dare to be objectified by the rampant hordes of hyper-sexualized men who are incapable of basic human decency.

 

You think Strippers get implants for themselves, or because they want male customers to pay them more money???

No. But thanks for the strawman. Maybe I'll fashion him into a hat.

 

Men have been conditioned through the media and society to view Big Breasts as objects of lust and desire. You're not going to change the minds of a the whole male gender and tell men not to look at a woman's breasts.

Do you have proof of that or is this more wild speculation?

 

There are also a lot of men or rapists, that will mistake a girl with big implants for being a "slutty" girl who wants to be a pornstar/stripper who seeks out male attention.

Hide yo kids, hide yo wife!

 

You're not going to change society, Men are going to objectify and get aroused by big fake implants!!!

Weren't you just saying that most men are conditioned by society to do XYZ? Wouldn't it be prudent to then believe that they, or at least their progeny, could be reconditioned?

 

I would warn girls with big implants just to be safe of your surroundings and to watch out for dangerous men. Especially if drinking alcohol is involved, there will be men who are more sexually aggressive and violent.

What about the naturals? Should they just stay at home with a shotgun under their pillow to protect them from all them rapists just rarin' for a good rape?