BeholdtheMan Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Any thoughts? Yeah...you're monumentally selfish 5 Link to post Share on other sites
Btrade Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Sept 23 2016. My perfect lover is acting strangely.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 In your post in the 'infidelity' sub-forum, you typed, "I cut communication off totally so that she and I could work on our marriages if that is what we are going to do." So...why would you expect your affair partner to get in contact with you after you cut off communication? And, why would she contact you if she actually is working on saving her marriage? In any case, I don't know how you can turn a mutually consensual affair into a case of the other person "using" you? You were not absent from the decision to indulge in the first place, and you knew what it was all along. Yes spot on. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Seems like when two married people engage in an A, "fall in love" and then get caught, it then becomes a contest of "I'm not leaving my marriage unless my AP leaves theirs first". Just holding off until the other pulls the trigger first.... Of course, neither end up doing it because they are busy doubting and waiting for the other. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
goodyblue Posted September 25, 2014 Share Posted September 25, 2014 Never, ever, EVER divorce for another person. Divorce because you want a divorce and don't count on your AP being there when you do. If she is there, great, but you will need time to be on your own, to recover from the divorce etc. Divorcing for a person never works. You have to divorce because you are unhappy and want out of the marriage. If you don't, and things don't work out with your ap you will be resentful. Take the AP out of the situation. If you still want to leave, do it. But be sure to do it for you alone. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted September 26, 2014 Share Posted September 26, 2014 Seems like when two married people engage in an A, "fall in love" and then get caught, it then becomes a contest of "I'm not leaving my marriage unless my AP leaves theirs first". Just holding off until the other pulls the trigger first.... Of course, neither end up doing it because they are busy doubting and waiting for the other. True love. Link to post Share on other sites
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