Art_Critic Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 super big gulp while at the movies That'll get her the money for sure As long as you know that it is a red flag and there will be more then your eyes are open, if she has sex with you then asks for money again then it is all a ruse...
Under The Radar Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 That'll get her the money for sure As long as you know that it is a red flag and there will be more then your eyes are open, if she has sex with you then asks for money again then it is all a ruse... *UTR Shakes Head* Let's keep the movie PG-13, dude LOL
Toodaloo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I'm going to play devils advocate on this one...I have been asked for money from friends before, and I have three rules that I abide by 1) The amout is $500 or less 2) I give them the money, it is not a loan 3) If they decide to take the money, they can never ask me again for any money I mean, it's only $100. It seems like you guys have fun together and you would probably spend that on one date anyway. The devils advocate in me says, just give her the money, let her know that she can never ask you again, have some fun, and if she asks for money again, drop her. Those are great rules. I have similar in that I never loan more than I can afford to give. Then its a gift rather than loan. If I get it back great if not I am not bothered and I am also not bothered if a friend needs help again to get out of a tight spot. This woman is someone he has met twice! What would any of us think if a random stranger asked? That is what this is! This is not a "friend". I also think its really shallow to ask a guy that you have just started dating for money because you want to quit your job. Sorry but that is not a good reason. You go and find a new job then quit. Drop her like a rotten bone please and have some RESPECT for yourself!
Ajax Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 This situation is wrong on several levels. Her asking for money while you were cuddling and fooling around is... not classy. In fact it sounds... illegal. Secondly, you met in a parking lot when she had car trouble? I'd be afraid I was a mark and being taken for the proverbial ride. Let this one go, she has trouble written all over her. 1
iiiii Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 She has just shown you how little she thinks of you - because unless she has been living under a rock for all of her adult life, she knows that asking strangers for a loan is going to make them feel desperately uncomfortable. Yet she did it anyway. That's how little she thinks of you; the chance of getting $100 is worth more to her than making you feel comfortable. Run, please. 1
Keenly Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 I would tell her a flat out no, and that before she quit her job she should have thought a little further ahead than a week or two.
azureorb Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 A girlfriend, knowing she's in-between jobs and has to pay some bills, while it's not a financial hit on you -- and it wouldn't be difficult for her to get another waitressing job? OK. She's not your girl. She can be sincere in the moment -- but you, "easyguy", are very well in a position where in the end, you're going to be option #20 to pay back. It's not going to be important to her if you just dole it out. I would say this to a gal if I was in your shoes: "Oh... they say not to talk about politics, religion, or sports like MSU vs UM too early. Money? Yeah, well, this is definitely too early for that. I'm not the one to ask for that. It's going to be WAY too difficult and possibly ruin the mood of everything with someone you're just on the cusp of dating or hanging out with, ya know? Do you have some friends you could borrow $20-$40 bucks from each, or some parents to chip in? If it's something that's going to put you out on the street or your phone to go off -- I'd consider... but it'd ruin the mood for me to say and keep in the air that you'd have to be paying me back Stat -- over makeup, shoes, etc -- and to put an extra effort to find a decent waitressing job quick. If you were a GF, I would know/forsee what was up. We're in a different spot, so I have to say let's enjoy ourselves and keep our money issues to the ones we already know really well."
Toodaloo Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 Easyguy... I have just seen that people "like" my posts... looking through the most likes by far are on my initial comment of DON'T DO IT. Please don't bother taking her to the cinema. Go find someone worth your time and energy who isn't going to use you for all they can get out of you. You are worth better than this.
Diezel Posted September 24, 2014 Posted September 24, 2014 So everyone's confident it'll be a next time. I wont doubt it but since she dropped it I think she at least thought it over that asking after 2 dates was inappropriate.r. You honestly think THAT is why she dropped it? If she didn't think it was inappropriate to ask in the first place...
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