carl777 Posted August 21, 2014 Share Posted August 21, 2014 They don't always come back and I would argue it's better when they don't (speaking from personal experience). Link to post Share on other sites
Feelbettersoon Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 LakersFan81 - tried to pm you on here but it says you do not allow the feature. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Lakersfan81, I am sorry you are suffering like this. Many of us that post here have been where you've been and it isn't a nice place to be. Please, please, please don't put your life on hold on the off-chance that she may want to come back. Do you really want to be her second choice? Do you really want to her back-up plan when whatever she does doesn't work out? Remember, even if she did want to come back, she would still be the same girl who dumped you by text. Who says she wouldn't do it again if another temptation took her fancy? She probably did love you, but she doesn't now because she dumped you. 2 months away from her has given me a long time to sit back, and realize what needed to be fixed individually with me to be successful in life, good thinking. and also what it takes to get our relationship back to where things were. not-so-good thinking. If you want to do work on yourself, you must do it for you, not for your ex, your mother or the old-bag-lady-over-the-road. Stay strong. Good luck x Link to post Share on other sites
Justletgo Posted September 28, 2014 Share Posted September 28, 2014 Love doesn't just 'go away'. The 'in love feeling' might. But love for a person will always stay there, maybe slightly buried. But it will stay. Atleast that is my experience. I had an ex 2 years ago, we had been together 5 years. It hurts but you learn to live with it. You try not to think about it etc. Have dated since, in all RS's I just couldn't REALLY open up anymore. The girls didn't notice, but I did. My heart will be walled forever. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LakersFan81 Posted September 29, 2014 Author Share Posted September 29, 2014 LakersFan81 - tried to pm you on here but it says you do not allow the feature. Where do I go to change that? I looked under my profile options, and couldn't find anything. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LakersFan81 Posted September 29, 2014 Author Share Posted September 29, 2014 Love doesn't just 'go away'. The 'in love feeling' might. But love for a person will always stay there, maybe slightly buried. But it will stay. Atleast that is my experience. I had an ex 2 years ago, we had been together 5 years. It hurts but you learn to live with it. You try not to think about it etc. Have dated since, in all RS's I just couldn't REALLY open up anymore. The girls didn't notice, but I did. My heart will be walled forever. That's what I have been worried about. I am worried I will never be able to open up my heart completely to someone again. I will always be cautious after the way this relationship ended. Oh well. Link to post Share on other sites
Feelbettersoon Posted September 29, 2014 Share Posted September 29, 2014 Where do I go to change that? I looked under my profile options, and couldn't find anything. My profile / CP on top left Settings and options Edit options Enable pm Link to post Share on other sites
Author LakersFan81 Posted September 29, 2014 Author Share Posted September 29, 2014 The option isn't there for me. Maybe it's because I have only been a member on here for a couple of months. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Feelbettersoon Posted October 1, 2014 Share Posted October 1, 2014 The option isn't there for me. Maybe it's because I have only been a member on here for a couple of months. Ah yes, you need a certain amount of posts now I think! Was going to PM because our situations both so similar Link to post Share on other sites
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