bu2002 Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 What were you feeling after your first date with your SO? Did you have that immediate giddiness or attraction? Did you know that he/she was the one? Also, indicate if you are male or female.
Assasda Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 This question is asked soooo much. its like people dont know what they're supposed to feel. Its getting to know someone new. There was no giddiness. Not even thinking about "the one" 1
Smilecharmer Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Female. Yes, I was besotted, on the clouds, fireflies were fighting butterflies in our tummys and our first date didn't end until the wee morning. We are married now for eighteen years. I think. I'm terrible with anniversaries. 1
xxmusical Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Female. Yes, I had that "giddiness," although it was probably from my excitement and nervousness of being on a first date with a cute, attractive guy I was all smiles throughout the date. But no, I did not know that he was "the one." First date was too early to tell.
veggirl Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I don't believe in The One but my heart dropped when I saw my bf for the first time. Yes I was super giddy after our first date. There was also a feeling of ease and comfort, never for a second did I wonder if he'd call again etc.
Gaeta Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 I had more than 1 SO in my life and it was different with each of them. Ex-husband attraction was instant, second SO it slowly built over the course of a few months.
Mrin Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 No. It took until the second date and not until the kiss. I'm a dude. You can read it here.
Candy_Pants Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 Female here. My H and I had romantic/sexual feelings for each other for many years before our first date as adults. Actually our first date wasn't even supposed to be a date!! He didn't think I would be interested in him *like that* and I didn't think I wanted a boyfriend!! Then, he kissed me on the beach. It was the best kiss I'd ever had. I asked him to be my boyfriend and he was speechless. We've been together since and are expecting our first child in a month or so .
Mrin Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 More: Aside from the lady I am with now (see above post), I've had three other SO's in my life of any consequence: 1. First (grad school): instant but we were friends first. Instant even when I met her as a friend. 2. Ex-wife: developed over time. Marriage was more friendship based than passion or romance. 3. Recent - 3 month flame: this was instant. But almost chemical and definitely sexual. Flamed out after 3 months. It could have gone longer, way longer, but I saw beyond the romantic chemistry to see that I would tire of her later down the road. Wasn't enough there there if that makes sense.
d0nnivain Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 My 1st meeting with one Ex he shook my hand & I swear I felt electricity up my arm. I thought for sure this is what my mother meant when she promised me I'd just know when I met the one. I wasted almost 12 years on a man who didn't treat me all that well because I thought fate couldn't be wrong. My 1st date with another EX was more of a hook up at a grad school dance. He told me we met months earlier when I walked out of one of my shoes coming up the front stairs into the building & he slid it back onto my foot ala Prince Charming. I have no recollection of that event. Upon 1st laying eyes on my husband I thought "oooh yummy. . . Player." I could use a fun flirty date with a gorgeous man. Turned out my husband was the farthest thing from a player. I thought our 1st date was awful. I talked too much. He didn't talk at all. (A pattern for our marriage -- lol ) When he gave me a brief hug goodnight, I left the restaurant drove to another bar & cried all over the shoulder of a good male friend.
leavesonautumn Posted August 8, 2014 Posted August 8, 2014 (edited) I'm a female. With my first boyfriend, we were acquaintances for the whole school year of Grade 10 and became official in the summer before Grade 11. It wasn't really an immediate attraction or chemistry, it was a slow build but I had always liked him. Broke up because he moved to another province after Grade 12. Second boyfriend, there was actually never much chemistry between us but we were buddies and on the same page in regards to the relationship. We kind of met on Myspace as he noticed I was going to a show he was going to and started to talk to me. I did meet him at the show and we got along really well. We were exclusive (even though I'm sure he did something with his ex but it didn't bother me). It worked because we were looking for the same thing and nothing serious. We didn't even really break up but again, he moved to another province. Still friends. Third and most recent ex. The moment I laid eyes on him I just KNEW that there was something big that would happen between us. I've never ever felt that way about anyone in my life and probably won't feel that strongly that soon again (in fact, I hope I don't!). He had the same feelings. He wasn't what you'd call conventionally attractive but there was just something about him and he was so sexy to me. However, we based our whole relationship on this intense chemistry and amazing sex. Yes, we were best friends and did everything together but we could not figure out how to communicate. Proof to me that instant chemistry doesn't always mean you're meant to be. Edited August 8, 2014 by leavesonautumn
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