ktya Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/488026-infuriating-friend-situation I post above link in dating so i dont have to write it all out again. This all went down Tuesday night and i havent heard a word back from her not even a text. Might not be all over yet but its looking that way. Everything was going great until this prick friend of mine had a chat with her "trying to help". Sure helped... To get her to dump me.
FortunateSon Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 To be fair, after reading your original post it didn't sound like the healthiest situation(you 37, her 25, her breaking up with a boyfriend while with you, I love you that fast, that much time together so quickly). If you are looking for a long term RS, it might be best to let this one go... 1
Author ktya Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 I was more just looking for more of the fun we were having. While i wouldnt rule out long term or serious she wasnt looking for that and i wasnt either. She broke up with the bf because he was pushing to move in together along with other reasons. If it just lasted the summer i would have been cool with that. Just didnt want it to end like that... Stupid reason and not even my or her fault. I wish i could talk to her and let her know this isnt the first time hes tried to gut one of my relationships.
OwMyEyeball Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 Not sure what to tell you. When a relationship starts with that many fireworks it tends to fizzle out pretty quickly. When the show finally ends - and it always does - both partners start to wonder "What changed? Why is this different?" Even from what you've described, it sounds as though you've lost a really fun FWB, not an actual partner. The actual relationship issue in all of this seems more to be with the one between you and your "friend"? Who is this guy? A long-time tight friend? And how did he meddle in your previous relationship? You forgave him for that so I imagine you guys must have some kind of bond.
Author ktya Posted August 2, 2014 Author Posted August 2, 2014 Knew him for 26 years since i was 12 Not sure if i want to know him alive anymore. 25 yo fun girls dont grow on trees at my age This is the third time screwing up for him
hoping2heal Posted August 2, 2014 Posted August 2, 2014 I was more just looking for more of the fun we were having. While i wouldnt rule out long term or serious she wasnt looking for that and i wasnt either. She broke up with the bf because he was pushing to move in together along with other reasons. If it just lasted the summer i would have been cool with that. Just didnt want it to end like that... Stupid reason and not even my or her fault. I wish i could talk to her and let her know this isnt the first time hes tried to gut one of my relationships. You were looking for fun, she was looking for more- or at the very least, the potential for more down the road. I think she realized after talking to your friend that there was no chance of a serious, stable future with you. Regardless of her claim to not want more, it wouldn't have put her off so much to realize you can't be taken seriously if she truly didn't want more / potential for more. In fact, it probably would have been a relief to her what the friend said if she was looking only for a good time.
erklat Posted August 3, 2014 Posted August 3, 2014 Also take into account that it could be that he just gave her an easy way out.
Author ktya Posted August 3, 2014 Author Posted August 3, 2014 She was pretty clear that atm she didnt want more, just fun and friends. I offered more when she was ready but didnt push on it given the circumstances.
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