BlueIris Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 Seeking a partner to handle this for you will be frustrating and self-defeating for you, too- not just for them. Because only we can overcome our own internal challenges, expecting that anyone else could ever be able to do it for us is handing potential partners an impossible job, a Sisyphean task. Most potential partners will realize this, some quickly, some eventually. But you’re harming yourself too by believing this can be outsourced. Every single potential partner will fail, disappoint, and frustrate you so long as you believe they should be able to do something that is impossible. In the meantime, the time spent believing or expecting that anyone can handle these things for you is only going to delay you in resolving things for yourself, while you become more and more frustrated with others. Believing that someone or something “out there” ought to be able to fix it for us is a painful belief. On the other hand, knowing that you CAN do this yourself can be very empowering, even if frightening at first. Do it for yourself. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I would just add that therapists, though empathetic, are also trained to remain detached from their patients or they would be under too much stress. So that wouldn't work in a relationship. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I don't think the OP is coming back. Link to post Share on other sites
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