krista28 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Ok so....I went out with this guy for a date on tuesday night. It went really well. ..good conveesation...he took me out for dinner...was a total gentleman. It went good..... then we went to his house and his roomate was there...and he showed me around. We kissed for a bit and then I thought I should go he dropped me off and said that was a really nice night "ill talk to you later"? Not really sure on what yhat means....its been since tuesday night....haven't heard from him yet. ...and I know on Saturday hes going away for work. Two weeks on....one week back home...I just dont really know what to read into it or if im gonna hear from him again...maybe since hes leaving hes not looking for a relationship.
Assasda Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Interesting. Is he in the oil field. I gotta say I use "talk to you later" when I'm not feeling it. So this doesnt sound very good. Are you sure the date went as well as you thought it did?
thekid36 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 Ok so....I went out with this guy for a date on tuesday night. It went really well. ..good conveesation...he took me out for dinner...was a total gentleman. It went good..... then we went to his house and his roomate was there...and he showed me around. We kissed for a bit and then I thought I should go he dropped me off and said that was a really nice night "ill talk to you later"? Not really sure on what yhat means....its been since tuesday night....haven't heard from him yet. ...and I know on Saturday hes going away for work. Two weeks on....one week back home...I just dont really know what to read into it or if im gonna hear from him again...maybe since hes leaving hes not looking for a relationship. Going to take a stab at this one. And, this may be one of the more positive possibilities. Perhaps 'talking to you later' means that this man will be in touch with you when it is convenient for him. And, when he is looking for something specific from you. I will refrain my own opinion as to what that may be. But in theory, no matter what his reason really is. Do you really want to be waiting around for someone to call you who happens to be so selfish? I stick with the story that someone who is really interested in you unconditionally is going to be in touch with you within a day. After a supposed awesome date, I mean.
Leigh 87 Posted June 27, 2014 Posted June 27, 2014 The date went well for you. If a date goes really well for a man, he normally gets in tough after the date to say " hey, had a great night, hope to do it again sometime'' Most men set up the next date at the end of the first date if they are really into a girl. Some men are aloof and may very well be into you yet take days to get back to you, but it is NOT the norm; not when a guy REALLY felt it on the date with you... He is not that into you from the sounds of it.
Author krista28 Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 recently I went on a date with a guy. he had asked me out and the night went well. we had dinner drinks etcetera. he paid. then we went back to his house and had some red wine. we were kissing and then he asked me to stay over, I didn tknow but I agreed. so we ended up sleeping together a bit but we stopped...he couldn't stay hard, or get hard enough and things seemed off. I am not sure why this happened...anyways we kissed the next day and it seemed sensual/romantic. so he dropped me off at my place and said I will talk toyou later...its now been 4 days and I haven't heard from him. to add in there, he is moving to another province for 2 weeks on one week off here in town. I feel like crap..and I wish someone here could help me..is there anything I coulda done different for him to like me? now I am also hearing from someone I know one of my exes that he is a dirty guy. that hes been with lots of girls and just is a womanizer...I found that hard to believe with how sweet he was being... can anyone help me feel better.....I facebooked him and wished him luck in alberta...I hope that's all I needed to say and will at least get a response...
travelbug1996 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 You went out on one date and slept with him?? First mistake. He thinks you're like that with every man even though you may not be. Next time don't let your flesh take over. Wait before having sex. 2
stillafool Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 The fact that he couldn't stay hard may be an indication that something about you (maybe) turned him off. I think that is why he hasn't contacted you. I don't mean to get personal but were you clean? If he has a bad reputation as a player be glad he didn't contact you again. 1
GemmaUK Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I think you may have had your first lesson in why not to sleep with a guy on a first date. Write him off. Take a deep breath. And condom or not go get tested. Condoms don't cover you for everything whther he stayed hard/came/didn't come.
Cynicalme Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 It could be he's embarrassed about not being able to "keep things up." 4
Assasda Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 It could be he's embarrassed about not being able to "keep things up." I doubt it was that. She said nothing about him acting weird the next day. plus, the guy was having DRINKS, it happens to the best of us.
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 i was definately clean...he said the condom made him not be hard....so i am hearing now from a mutual friend..that he does thsi all the time...has sex with a chick then never contacts her again...
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 a mutual friend told me he knew this was going to happen...that id go out with him..and id have to much to drink maybe sleep with him..then hed never talk to me again.. and im definately clean.
Elle1975 Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 recently I went on a date with a guy. he had asked me out and the night went well. we had dinner drinks etcetera. he paid. then we went back to his house and had some red wine. we were kissing and then he asked me to stay over, I didn tknow but I agreed. so we ended up sleeping together a bit but we stopped...he couldn't stay hard, or get hard enough and things seemed off. I am not sure why this happened...anyways we kissed the next day and it seemed sensual/romantic. so he dropped me off at my place and said I will talk toyou later...its now been 4 days and I haven't heard from him. to add in there, he is moving to another province for 2 weeks on one week off here in town. I feel like crap..and I wish someone here could help me..is there anything I coulda done different for him to like me? now I am also hearing from someone I know one of my exes that he is a dirty guy. that hes been with lots of girls and just is a womanizer...I found that hard to believe with how sweet he was being... can anyone help me feel better.....I facebooked him and wished him luck in alberta...I hope that's all I needed to say and will at least get a response... I hate to say it but you shouldn't have accepted to go to his place. To me, that's what you should have done differently.
SmartDude Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 we had dinner drinks etcetera. he paid. then we went back to his house and had some red wine.... Drinks + Food + More Drinks(wine) + Condom = Limp Penis ...Maybee he feels like a failure and that he blew it so why even bother contacting you?
stillafool Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 a mutual friend told me he knew this was going to happen...that id go out with him..and id have to much to drink maybe sleep with him..then hed never talk to me again.. and im definately clean. Then why or why didn't you listen. I think the guy drank too much or sleeps with so many women he wasn't in need of sex. 1
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 The limp peepee thing was odd never happened to me before. .and I dont think the guy felt like a failure....I kissed him the next day....showed I was into it...now I just hate him...why are guys such losers and use women
Allumere Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 The limp peepee thing was odd never happened to me before. .and I dont think the guy felt like a failure....I kissed him the next day....showed I was into it...now I just hate him...why are guys such losers and use women Because huni for a laundry list of reasons women let them. All guys aren't losers. You just picked a bad one. Just take it as "lesson learned" and move on. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 If this is what this guy does it has very little to do with you. You are simply the next notch on his bedpost. He's not worth the effort you have already invested being upset about him.
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 I called him out on the loser he is ...called him a piece of ****...and that he should stop ****ing girls and that hes a loser. Few that felt good.
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 I recently went out wuth this guy on a date. He paid etc asked nive questions. We had wine went back to his place and ended up sleeping together. He dropped me off in the morning and said ill talk to you later....fuve days later still no word. I didnt understand thats never happened to me in that way before. So...I investigate and my friend tells me the guys a loser that uses women. How do I get back at him....hes had gfs before so how do I know what he really is. I told him off on facebook then blocked him telling him he was a pos and that he should stop using women and that hes a loser. Sigh...pls help.
Lernaean_Hydra Posted June 29, 2014 Posted June 29, 2014 I recently went out wuth this guy on a date. He paid etc asked nive questions. We had wine went back to his place and ended up sleeping together. He dropped me off in the morning and said ill talk to you later....fuve days later still no word. I didnt understand thats never happened to me in that way before. So...I investigate and my friend tells me the guys a loser that uses women. Wow ok well first of all, he didn't use you and taking to facebook to tell him off and call him a loser was, well, sad. Second, he didn't use you in the least. Like...at all. Unless he lied to you and told you he wanted a relationship and somehow placed you under the impression things were definitely going to progress further, he did nothing wrong. He didn't take a blood oath or make you any promises...he said he'd talk to you later. If that's not the most vague, flippant goodbye I don't know what is. Hell, he didn't even say he'd call you the next day...just that he would...at some point. Perhaps he planned to call you in a week or so? You had casual sex, a one night stand after a first date. It happens, but if that's not something you're looking for don't do it again. You're simply not mature enough to handle something like that so stay away from having sex on the first date moving forward. How do I get back at him....hes had gfs before so how do I know what he really is. You don't. I mean how old are you? 2
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 It sickens me that you think this was ok. Yes a very flippant goodbye. You are saying usung women is ok?
Author krista28 Posted June 29, 2014 Author Posted June 29, 2014 You are so brutal..its obv guys writing this.
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