ldnstar Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Ive posted on here a couple of times. I always seem to have dramas and nothing ever seems to be simple when it comes to women. Its doing my head in. Theres a girl at work who has a bf, she works in a completely different department to me and i only speak to her on the odd occasion if im passing through, just general chat nothing more. There was a work night out a while ago and she told me that tho she has a bf she really likes me, i was a bit shocked but its cool, she cant help it if she likes me right. Theres since been another work night, people have found out she likes me, cue a massive argument. Getting jealous i "flirt" with all the girls but its ok because shes with her bf. As far as im concerned ive done nothing wrong but just talk to her like i do anyone else now i feel so awkward and dont even want to speak to her now tbh. Whatever i say or do i cant seem to win. Its always something, usually with people at work, everyone makes everything their business and it makes things difficult. I cant talk to anyone without everyone thinking its more and tbh one usually does want more. What is with these girls with blokes wanting someone else but claim they are perfectly happy in their relationship? if i did like id be a "typical bloke" no doubt. I just want no drama for once, as far as work goes i think i just need to keep myself to myself now as being "just friends" dont seem to work opinions?
GemmaUK Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 Start by keeping away from work colleagues and anyone who has a boyfriend as potentials. But..it kinda looks like you have flirted with other colleagues because you got jealous..which is bound to spark off some office chatter. In all honesty it sounds like this new drama wasn't just down to her. You would have avoided any drama had you thought about what might ensue and just kept her at a massive distance after she told you she liked you. You didn't. You also did flirt with the others. You can only control how you react to things.
Author ldnstar Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 I didnt see her as a potential. But yes i probably should have just stayed away, i am going to now.
Stumble Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I doubt that she is happy in her relationship. Otherwise she would have not told another guy she likes him. I have seen it with some of my friends, stuck in an unhappy relationship because they are scared of being alone. They stay in the relationship waiting for a new guy to come and and sweep her off her feet, waiting (or begging) her to leave her bf. If the new guy is better than her current bf she would say adios to the old then jump into the new. That way she will not have a gap of being single. I'm not saying I'm 100% correct but just from what it seems. You did nothing wrong, you are single you can flirt with whoever you want. Don't worry about it, just a work drama.
Author ldnstar Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 I doubt that she is happy in her relationship. Otherwise she would have not told another guy she likes him. I have seen it with some of my friends, stuck in an unhappy relationship because they are scared of being alone. They stay in the relationship waiting for a new guy to come and and sweep her off her feet, waiting (or begging) her to leave her bf. If the new guy is better than her current bf she would say adios to the old then jump into the new. That way she will not have a gap of being single. I'm not saying I'm 100% correct but just from what it seems. You did nothing wrong, you are single you can flirt with whoever you want. Don't worry about it, just a work drama. Cheers mate
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