Smurf03 Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 I've posted my story on here before, here is it: https://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/471559-ex-depressed-inappropriately-reaching-out-updates We have been broken up for 3 months. He was the dumper. The longest we were NC was about a month. He got into contact about 1.5 months ago. We talked a little bit then i said we had to stop because i couldn't settle for just being friends if that's all he wanted. He then told me he loved me and missed me, then suggested seeing how things went for a couple of months then reevaluating our situation. I agreed to this (probably a stupid idea, i know, and i don't need reminded thanks haha!). SOOO the time has come for our 'reevaluation'. We are having our chat tomorrow. I have decided that come tomorrow i will only settle for 'I want to be with you and i want to give us another go'. Anything less than that, i will go no contact, accept it's over and move on. I can't deal with not knowing where i stand any longer. He either wants to try again or he doesn't. All of the contact we've had these past couple months has been positive. We've been in regular contact and he has expressed how being in contact has made him happy. We are long distance just now, and we have a plan to see eachother if all goes well tomorrow. This plan was suggested by him. Anyway i'm looking for advice. This chat is tomorrow and i obviously want him to say that he wants to start a new relationship with me. A lot has changed for me which i think could really make us work. Any do's and dont's? Has anyone been in a similar situation and if so what was the outcome? What i really don't need just now is anyone saying how it was a mistake of mine to stay in contact etc etc. I am fully aware, and it's not helpful. What's done is done now! So, any advice or input from people who have had a similar experience would be much appreciated
mangetout Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 My only advice is to make sure you tackle any past issues with a different angle. Put the past behind you, let go of anger and resentment and stay as objective as possible. I am on my third try with my ex and its working out so far
Author Smurf03 Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 My only advice is to make sure you tackle any past issues with a different angle. Put the past behind you, let go of anger and resentment and stay as objective as possible. I am on my third try with my ex and its working out so far I completely agree. I am so ready to put the past behind us and I want to let go of all negatively and focus on rebuilding a positive relationship. The question is....he ready for that? guess i'll find out tomorrow haha. Glad to hear things are working out for you
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