Lolalo Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 My partner of 2 1/2 years broke up with me a few days ago citing that he is falling out of love with, is confused, and isn't sure he wants a relationship any more. The only reason this happened is because I noticed he had been acting strange for a week or so. I outright asked him what was going on and he admitted his feelings. He works away and he said he had intended on taking the next six weeks away to figure things out and see how he feels (he was intending on doing this before I spoke to him). He then decided that he didn't think his feelings would change in the six weeks and that it was over and he was sorry. He told me still loves me, loves spending time with me, he sees me as the mother of his children and wife but right now he doesn't want it and he doesn't know why, something's just changed he says. He says he doesn't want to feel this way but he does. I'm grateful for his honesty. But I just can't seem to stop myself thinking this isn't really the end. We've had an immense amount of external pressure on our relationship for 6 months or so around work, money, our neighbours, and my father passing away. I can't help but think it's these things that are making him feel the way he does, and that maybe if we constructively put things in place to change our life structure we'd be able to be happy. I know I've been unhappy but not with him just with life in general., he was the one thing that was keepin me going. I know it's probably stupid to think like that, but I've got 6 weeks to either use to move on, or prepare to move on but live in hope he might realise out there that we can work on it. I just don't know what to do. I've been left with a house and car I can't afford alone and our dog. So I need to sort out practicalities too, it's a lot to compute.
ForHer Posted June 28, 2014 Posted June 28, 2014 "If you love him let him go" I'm sure you know about the no contact rule? Once he leaves let him go. It's going to be hell and your most likely going to break down and text him but try not too! I read once that your or the dumper start missing someone at a peak at 3/4 weeks which I never really believed HOWEVER my ex I just had a baby with has been gone 4 weeks and has just now started texting me and joking. So I do kind of believe it. And also some strange advice, rearrange the house, the living room, bed room. I did this when he left and it helped so much, just the change. If you don't let your emotions get the best of you and this is just a bump in the road he'll be back. And of course, I believe they always come back at some point.
Author Lolalo Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 "If you love him let him go" I'm sure you know about the no contact rule? Once he leaves let him go. It's going to be hell and your most likely going to break down and text him but try not too! I read once that your or the dumper start missing someone at a peak at 3/4 weeks which I never really believed HOWEVER my ex I just had a baby with has been gone 4 weeks and has just now started texting me and joking. So I do kind of believe it. And also some strange advice, rearrange the house, the living room, bed room. I did this when he left and it helped so much, just the change. If you don't let your emotions get the best of you and this is just a bump in the road he'll be back. And of course, I believe they always come back at some point. Thank you for that advice I've taken today to move all his stuff in to the spare room and close the door. I've arranged to move in with my mum but I've had to email him to ask whether he is happy for me to sell the car and household items in order to afford a kennel area. I did it as non emotionally as I could. Hopefully get the nod from him and then just start moving out. He has no money and neither do I right now, so I'm left with the financials to sort. I think I can then initiate NC. Just so sad at the moment. I'm sorry to hear of your situation too it must be so hard with a child involved.
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