littleplanet Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Is that really how guys think? I told a guy friend that had no girlfriends, and he was amazed. The last ex thought it was weird. This is the first time ive heard of it being called arrested development. Some women are fine by themselves. Most of what I do or want to do does not require a second person. Really, I dont have a lot of friends, period. In fact, I could live out in the woods by myself and be fine. Im glad youve seen the good friendships. The issues arise when the friendship is about to end. So theres a different perspective. I'm not surprised he was amazed, if he had no girl/women friends. Of course it's not how 'guys' think. It's how I think. (and yes, I happen to be a male of the species) I actually do know quite a few women who are very independent (a trait I admire greatly) In fact - it's the "hen clusters" I've always tended to avoid. I've found that independent 'loner' women tend to make great friends. Straight talk. No hanky panky. No............................issues. (lord!) But the quip about arrested development really - just reminds me of highschool (and that was a long, long time ago.) The rest of it....just always felt too much like divide and conquer - (while the men ran the show.)
SolG Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I have very few people in my life that I categorise as true friends--amongst their number females and males. And to think I wouldn't have half of them if I wandered through life thinking I couldn't be friends with one gender or the other. Makes no sense to me whatsoever to be so close minded. 1
hotpotato Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 I have very few people in my life that I categorise as true friends--amongst their number females and males. And to think I wouldn't have half of them if I wandered through life thinking I couldn't be friends with one gender or the other. Makes no sense to me whatsoever to be so close minded. Oh it makes perfect sense. That being said, there is a good reason I have few male friends, and they also live far away. Being friends with straight men has its own issues.
serial muse Posted July 9, 2014 Posted July 9, 2014 Well, I can only speak to my own experience, as each individual can. And I have always had good female friends; some of them have been enriching my life for more than 30 years! I've certainly met women who are mean, but since I've also met plenty of women who aren't, I am not inclined to judge my entire gender by a few rude people. Why would I do that? Eh, to each her own. But I admit I'll never understand this "women are catty and two-faced" business. Not in my experience. And as I said earlier, I think if you go into a situation mistrusting people and putting up walls, they sense it and respond accordingly. Sure, there are individuals who behave badly. But if you are always encountering this issue, I think it's worth looking within. 1
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