Pandalee Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Me and my boyfriend broke up but I decided to give it another chance if he actually shows improvement and does all the things we agreed upon for us to work. We've been back together for a week and he promised to go to counselling and rehab for a drug problem and that we were going to work on things and he was going to stay out of trouble because he has a court case coming up and spend weekends with me again and cut ties with all bad influences. He said this, not me. (I know he sounds like GREAT catch but he was going through a bad time and this isn't his normal behaviour). However, he's decided to start hanging out with one of the worst influences again, he's completely cancelled plans with me to help "protect" this guys girlfriend from being bashed and something happening to their baby (which isn't his problem to begin with, if it's that serious they should tell the cops and she shouldn't stay at home) and if he does anything stupid he will be arrested and as he's already on bail actually get sent to jail. Of course I'm fuming because I don't believe he isn't doing drugs and drinking while he's there and I think it's absolutely stupid to get involved with dramas that aren't his. He's putting other people's issues before our own and I don't know if I'm overreacting.
David87 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 No you are not overreacting , you need to talk to him about this issue.
sterlingarcher Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Talking and agreeing on something obviously didn't help, you need to act. How long did the last breakup last? If it didn't last too long I suggest you break it off completely until he has straightened up his act. edit: You are not overreacting. You aren't reacting at all if all you're doing is fuming.
d0nnivain Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Actually you are under-reacting. There is only one response to this: Leave.
Chi townD Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Actions speak louder than words. His main goal in life is to get off the drugs, to handle his court appearances to get that straightened out and to work on the relationship with you and become a productive member of society. He's back with the bad influence again; thus, putting his freedom in jeopardy again. This is the path he's choosing, you don't have to follow after him. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Another no brainer I'm afraid. Is sobriety is NOT his priority and either are you. Time to move on and find your happily-ever-after elsewhere. Hugs to you.
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