Juswantmore Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 This is so difficult! I have a bf who loves and cares for me deeply! He has some issues that truly bother me! Like to the point where I think it strongly affects my respect for him as a man, a father! Amoung his financial issues and jealous issues he has recently decided to completely alienate his entire family! Deleted them from his fb and the whole deal! His mom is crazy and I can understand him keeping his distance but in my eyes it's still his mom, appease her, visit her, do wherever it tAkes to mend the relationship at least enough to where they are at least tAlking... We live in a small town and she lives 5 minutes away, once he moved out of her house he refuses to call her, see her, answer her calls or texts or anything! He barely sees his children, hasn't paid child support in months, and stopped talking to his aunts and cousins and step dad because he thinks they all talk to his mom and they are all against him! He says if his mom cared should would stop hanging out with his ex wife, that's a whole other issue but it's mostly done to help his kids since he's not around to do it! Where is he? With me! Always!!! I try and encourage him to visit his kids, talk to his family but he gets meAn and defensive! His best friend stopped talking to him cause he thinks this is all my fault when I'm the one encouraging him to make things better!!! So ...in my eyes I can't have respect for a man that walks out on his family, his kids, his own mother, and is losing friends and family because of me, supposedly! There is a respect issue but also I feel like if I walk away from it all he will have to mend his relationships, and he will see his kids a lot more since I won't be around to occupy his time! Please give your opinions I'm just so torn!
David87 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Well he put you on a pedestal and he refuses to see you in other way, you are the most important person to him at the moment. Try talking to him about this issue. Do you intend to dump him?
Author Juswantmore Posted June 28, 2014 Author Posted June 28, 2014 I truly care for him and we mostly have a great time together but with all these issues it makes him a very unhappy miserable person and in turn makes things very hard for us! I don't know what to do!! I try talking he gets defensive and upset and has communication issues! I don't want to lose him but don't want to live like this! This relationship is not healthy!!
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