Gaeta Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 You know how he obsesses over ridiculous things, this is just one more of them. Laugh it off and shave it or not, as per your liking. By the way it's the most entertaining thread ever lol !! Laughing out loud in my office here ! 2
preraph Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I hope this isn't his sly way of working up to wanting you to do anal. But yes, by all means, if you can reach it, shave it! What's probably happened is he's watching porn with all those women who have been waxed and also bleached in that area so it's not dark and is thinking he'd like that. So don't be surprised if the shaving alone isn't the end of it. And if it isn't, tell him you wish he'd stop watching porn because half of what he sees there has been changed digitally.
stillafool Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 I can understand your being embarrassed. He may think it looks masculine. I think he asked you to shave it and he would do his as a compromise. I don't have much body hair and don't even have to shave my legs but; I would imagine shaving that area would be uncomfortable. Perhaps you should splurge and get it waxed. I believe him that he thought it would be more embarassing for you if he told you this face to face. There is no easy way to tell a woman this sort of thing and perhaps it has been bothering him for a while.
Imported Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Um, yea, not text material. Maybe he should pay for a waxing session for you? What next? He'll want you to bleach? I say do it all in one fell swoop. I'd pay for that! Get a whole spa day along with the wax and bleach treatment. Good point Midwest. 2
spiderowl Posted June 25, 2014 Posted June 25, 2014 Dump him! There will be plenty of guys who will not find your hair a turnoff and will not be so insulting as to text you about it. What will it be next? How far do you have to go to 'please' this guy? It's a character trait - you shave the body hair and next he will complain about the dress you're wearing, how you are putting on weight, or your haircut. You really don't need this. It would be a thousand times easier to find a guy who is really attracted to you as you are than to spend your time trying to please this nitpicking guy. 1
Imported Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 And here I thought this was a perfectly acceptable first date conversation. 3
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) I wax Brazilian style and it doesn't hurt there, in fact it hurts less to wax that area than your bikini line. I understand that people have preferences and you said somewhere else that the relationship is good otherwise. But I find this a bit um .... don't know.. finickity? Almost controlling perhaps? Not in the sense that you can't have an opinion about your partner's body but something so minor. Dunno... seems a bit overtly fussy in a 1am text message. I've had plenty of body hair conversations with men over the years but never to this detail. First, EVERYONE has butt hair and if you tell me you don't, you're a liar. Shaving those delicate parts of your body is NOT a good idea for many of the reasons you already mentioned. I go for a Brazilian regularly and when my Brazilian Queen is done doing her thing, she flips me over and does a courtesy clean up right where the sun don't shine Waxing or sugaring (which is what I prefer) is the better option if you can afford it. It leaves you squeaky clean and who doesn't enjoy that?! And as already said, getting your anus waxed/surgared isn't painful at all. As for your man and his obsession with perfection he sounds borderline OCD indeed. You may be able to justify it all away right now but trust me, his constant and unrelenting nitpicking will get the better of you and may even damage your self-esteem and self-worth. Be careful. I get it that we all have preferences with regards to how we like things to look and be and behave including our partners. It's natural BUT can't we also say that if we truly love and care about the people we've chosen to be with, shouldn't we love them as they are and at their worst too? And before anyone puts me on blast thinking this is just a cop out for letting ourselves go (God forbid after all), it's NOT. It's about loving deeply. When we love with only our eyes, we miss out on so many other amazingly beautiful things that make our partners who they are. One of my FAVORITE movie scenes that kind of encapsulates this very point is from Good Will Hunting about "Idiosyncrasies"; Good luck hun. Edited June 26, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle 3
todreaminblue Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 i once had an ex who worked away and he said once before he comes home he had a surprise for me and that i would be really really pleased....i thought he had bought me a llama......i got really excited....turns out he shaved all his hairs off in his private regions...i was rather disappointed for two reasons.....one it wasnt a llama that was first......second was ......he was a a body builder who looked like a boy when he took his undies off....didnt look natural .......what has this got to do with this post lots of things.... one llamas are more important that anal hair......or pubic hair.... two my ex was too shy to say what he had done and would never have suggested that over the phone or by text for me to do......if he did it would be a total turn off...... adn thirdly its not natural to be completely hairless unless you are naturally hairless.....porn is not real.....and the only time a guy worries about anal hair is when he is basically wanting to rim you..to me that's the only reason it would matter so you didnt get hair down your throat....so is he expecting to part your cheeks and see if you listened....deb 6
CaliGypsy Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 ^todreaminblue horrifying! The Llama would have been a much nicer surprise! 1
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Went through the few seconds of trouble in finding you a new avatar for your profile on LS whatisthiss 5
Omei Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) All toilet paper flakes no matter kind, they have wipes esp made for that area for women, and baby wipes can come unscented, towels work best. Jesus why yall getting up on this man? Sorry but most men do not like hair anywhere on a woman, esp during sex. I wouldn't call it obsessive or worth dumping him for, he was just being honest. If I was a lesbian I wouldn't want my gf to have leg hair, pit hair, bum hair, vag hair, not even arm hair!!! Edited June 26, 2014 by Omei
ascendotum Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I cannot help but be curious how he even noticed this! Can you make a pigtail with you, er, hair there? How much is there!? Also, I am not sure how much time he spends, well, down there, but damn I am now thinking I should more closely inspect my girlfriends "area"! If you don't notice, then no need to go lookin, but you don't have to 'go down' there, if you enjoy doggy style, and I guess it depends how much you want to lift your head or how big her butt is, as to the view you get when it comes to 69. hilarious thread. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 If I was a lesbian I wouldn't want my gf to have leg hair, pit hair, bum hair, vag hair, not even arm hair!!! Well, good lord! You'd have to dip her in a vat-o-wax. Or Nair! That would be stinky, even the baby powder scented stuff. Keep her head out of it. (Says the girl who had the hair lasered off her great toes ) 2
CaliGypsy Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Went through the few seconds of trouble in finding you a new avatar for your profile on LS whatisthiss I appreciate that a lot. Gave me a MUCH needed chuckle. Thanks for sharing that!
Glinda.Good Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 one llamas are more important that anal hair......or pubic hair.... They're also quite hairy. 3
Els Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 You have touched on EXACTLY the reason why I am still feeling off about this today. I woke up feeling that I can't always be perfect. I am an easy-going kind of girl and throughout all the relationships I've had, not one man has ever mentioned this issue. More than that, no man has ever mentioned the AMOUNT of enhancements or adjustments that this one has. Most men have actually been perfectly happy with me the way I am. This is compounded by the fact that I don't have much money right now and to shave a new area for the first time, I want a better razor and maybe some cream or something… I can't afford that stuff right now. I'm trying to figure out how to pay my rent this month while he's texting me about this. Actually at the moment that he texted me this , I was researching important stuff for my future, and somehow getting a text about my hair seemed pretty unnecessary in that moment. I definitely need to have a conversation with him about how all his expectations and his need for pointing them out are affecting me. Yep, I think this is a good idea for the long-term. And if you're struggling to pay rent this week, don't splurge on additional shaving products. Priorities, priorities. It's really so much better to be with a non-nitpicky man, as Emilia says. I'm glad you have prior experience, so you know that your bf's behaviour is not necessarily the norm. My SO doesn't sweat the small stuff either; there is so much more to sex, a relationship, and LIFE, than whether someone's eyebrows are 100% perfect or whether they have a perfectly hairless anus. There may be people who disagree with this; that's all well and good, we don't have to date such people. All the best! 1
kaylan Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) Jeezus christ...all this over hair? Just freaking shave it. Its not nitpicky or a big deal. If my chick preferred that I trimmed up my pubes more, Id do it. I see no big deal about maintaining hair in a manner thats more sexy to my mate. And for the record, I can deal with hair almost anywhere on a girls body...but if she has too much on her butt (esp near her crack or booty hole lol), then its just a turn off. And Im saying this as a guy who doesnt mind fuzzy vagina or a girl who doesnt shave her arms or legs bare all the time. Edited June 26, 2014 by kaylan 4
Omei Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 (edited) I dont think its a big deal, he came to you with a desire and I think most people would just shave it, no need to get creamy fancy I shave my arse with my basic 4 month old razor and a bar of soap. In your last post if you start making this into a huge ordel with where you need to discuss how this is effecting you and his expectations your taking a small request and blowing it out of proportion now first it was how he mentioned it now its how he shouldn't be asking because past bfs did not the only thing you're going to gain from making this into a problem that needs to be discussed is hes going to see you being uptight (because now you are) and for sure push him in the direction of not coming forward any longer. He came to you as your partner with a request that he would prefer, have you never done that to him ever? Its likely you have. Its a few days later now and if your still talking about this with him id say that's giving him hell and hes gonna think twice before coming to you again with something so personal and that would be a shame. Btw like I said its nice that he feels he can come forward your past bfs may have never mentioned it because they were never that comfortable with you, they very well may have just put up with disliking it. Edited June 26, 2014 by Omei 1
ascendotum Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Jeezus christ...all this over hair? Just freaking shave it. Its not nitpicky or a big deal. If my chick preferred that I trimmed up my pubes more, Id do it. I see no big deal about maintaining hair in a manner thats more sexy to my mate. And for the record, I can deal with hair almost anywhere on a girls body...but if she has too much on her butt (esp near her crack or booty hole lol), then its just a turn off. And Im saying this as a guy who doesnt mind fuzzy vagina or a girl who doesnt shave her arms or legs bare all the time. I agree. I have been asked by a gf to do this, and I was fine with it. She is down there, she preferred it, she's happier, makes sex for her more enjoyable, makes me happier. I'm surprised at some of the outrage here and the interpretation that a simple request is nit picking or going to lead to a cavalcade of more invasive requests or is an affront to his acceptance of her. The way he went about it was not exactly classy but its not an outrageous request, nor is it a put down of his gf. I found it strange that one woman here does it already but if her bf suggested it she would be pissed off. Have a conversation with him about it. Couples should feel comfortable to have an open, no taboos, no incrimination, no admonishment discussion about any & all things concerning the relationship and their appreciation of each other. Well that's what I like anyway.
Els Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I agree. I have been asked by a gf to do this, and I was fine with it. She is down there, she preferred it, she's happier, makes sex for her more enjoyable, makes me happier. I'm surprised at some of the outrage here and the interpretation that a simple request is nit picking or going to lead to a cavalcade of more invasive requests or is an affront to his acceptance of her. The way he went about it was not exactly classy but its not an outrageous request, nor is it a put down of his gf. I found it strange that one woman here does it already but if her bf suggested it she would be pissed off. Have you actually read the thread? She has said that he ALREADY comments about multiple other minor things - one hair out of place on her eyebrow, and barely visible peach fuzz on her lips. It's not just hypothetical conjecture. I don't know about you, but to me it's abnormal for a partner to nitpick to that degree. 5
guest569 Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I would find that really insulting, to have a guy nitpicking about my appearance. An eye brow hair? What sort of bloke cares about that crap. How long have you been together? I find it worrying that you are boyfriend and girlfriend but he seems to be unhappy. There are bigger issues here than a bit of hair if you ask me. 2
kaylan Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 Have you actually read the thread? She has said that he ALREADY comments about multiple other minor things - one hair out of place on her eyebrow, and barely visible peach fuzz on her lips. It's not just hypothetical conjecture. I don't know about you, but to me it's abnormal for a partner to nitpick to that degree. Either the guy is "nitpicky" or the OP is a rather furry gal
kaylan Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I dont think its a big deal, he came to you with a desire and I think most people would just shave it, no need to get creamy fancy I shave my arse with my basic 4 month old razor and a bar of soap. In your last post if you start making this into a huge ordel with where you need to discuss how this is effecting you and his expectations your taking a small request and blowing it out of proportion now first it was how he mentioned it now its how he shouldn't be asking because past bfs did not the only thing you're going to gain from making this into a problem that needs to be discussed is hes going to see you being uptight (because now you are) and for sure push him in the direction of not coming forward any longer. He came to you as your partner with a request that he would prefer, have you never done that to him ever? Its likely you have. Its a few days later now and if your still talking about this with him id say that's giving him hell and hes gonna think twice before coming to you again with something so personal and that would be a shame. Btw like I said its nice that he feels he can come forward your past bfs may have never mentioned it because they were never that comfortable with you, they very well may have just put up with disliking it. Haha. My kinda gal. I couldnt see myself paying someone to manage any of my body hair. I simply use a pair of electric clippers to take down the hair on my body...and a cheap disposable razor if I want smoothness on my chest and abs
Emilia Posted June 26, 2014 Posted June 26, 2014 I would find that really insulting, to have a guy nitpicking about my appearance. An eye brow hair? What sort of bloke cares about that crap. How long have you been together? I find it worrying that you are boyfriend and girlfriend but he seems to be unhappy. There are bigger issues here than a bit of hair if you ask me. That was my other thought.
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