ForHer Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I was in a long term Relationship and we had a baby, the stress was crazy and my hormones all over the place, Me and my boyfriend got in a fight and he said he's moving out for good. Our daughter was only 6 weeks old(he still sees her) I cried I begged I got mad Went back to crying At first he said it will work out he needs time to think I pressured is to get back together Cried ,begged etc Now he says "he dosnt want to be together" After 3 weeks of not being together I find out he's now dating a girl he JUST met two weeks ago. Our daughter is now 9 weeks old If I start lC and gaining control of myself and try an act like I'm moving on will he miss the three of us being a family. I've acted EXTREMELY in control of myself around him ever since he got a new girlfriend. Please help. Do you think it's rebound. Do you think he'll question leaving? Will he want a family. He said he never picture it like this until the day of our fight (Fight being about him needing to help out more and put other activities on the back burner) Help...please
ExpatInItaly Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Unfortunately, I have a feeling he didn't just meet her two weeks ago. It's an awfully fast relationship if so. Had he shown signs of pulling away before this fight? I hate to say it, but something tells me he was looking for an out to explore his feelings for someone else. In any case, I would get into IC to help you cope. Don't make your focus getting him back. Make it about strengthening yourself and doing what's best for your baby. I know that's so much easier said than done, but you really need to try. Do you have family and friends nearby to lean on?
Author ForHer Posted June 24, 2014 Author Posted June 24, 2014 She just started at his work two weeks ago so he didn't even know her before. And yes I do have family but they are so negative by best friend tries to be supportive. Every ounce of me feels I need to call and yell and say we should be a family but I know it won't help
ExpatInItaly Posted June 24, 2014 Posted June 24, 2014 She just started at his work two weeks ago so he didn't even know her before. And yes I do have family but they are so negative by best friend tries to be supportive. Every ounce of me feels I need to call and yell and say we should be a family but I know it won't help Nope. You don't need to be calling him. He left. If anything, it should be the other way around. And yelling will only solidify his decision, so bad idea there. I sense that he's wanted out for a little while and jumped ship at the first opportunity. Like I said, it's awfully quick to move on. You say your family is so negative - why? What do they think of him and your relationship?
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