Gagirl Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Next weekend, my husband is going to visit family. I would like to go so we could stop by a festival on the way up and to just spend some time on the car ride up. The only problem is the blatant rudeness of his family. His mother will not say hello to me or even acknowledge that I'm in the room. If she does, it's only to make a mean, hurtful comment. My husband acts like he doesn't notice. I have spoken, begged, pleaded and screamed at him over our 24 years together to acknowledge it and make it stop to no avail. So knowing this is what I'm in for, should I go and enjoy the festival or just stay home?
Mr. Lucky Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 My husband acts like he doesn't notice. I have spoken, begged, pleaded and screamed at him over our 24 years together to acknowledge it and make it stop to no avail. No sure why you'd ask your question this way since you seem to have bigger marital problems than a road trip. But no, I wouldn't go. Can't see how any festival is worth the abuse you describe... Mr. Lucky 1
Smilecharmer Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Go, and stay in a hotel and only visit with his family members who treat you like you exist. 24 years seems like a long time for your husband to accept bad behavior from his mother.i think it would turn me completely off being married to someone who doesn't know how to place boundaries with his mother. If my parents treated my husband like that, I wouldn't accept it and they wouldn't be in my life anymore. My husband is my partner, and he deserves respect because he is a very good man. Your husband sounds like a pushover. 2
pink_sugar Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I agree, the festival doesn't sound worth dealing with that kind of treatment and abuse. I'm surprised you're still married to this man who has done nothing about this situation for many years. I would stay home. 1
central Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Why not go to the festival yourself? Or perhaps stay home and find something fun to do locally by yourself or with friends. Perhaps you even have a girlfriend who'd go with you? It doesn't sound like it's worth visiting his family. I wouldn't have anything to do with his family whatsoever, going forward - I'm surprised you've tolerated their behavior and his acceptance of it for so long. (And if they ever visit you, give them a hefty dose of their own medicine.) 1
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