ktya Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I'm gonna have to disagree with you here. I did my share of OLD, and the people you meet from there are definitely more likely to flake out on you. Just part of the game. Agreed. I cant say i ever recall approaching a girl and having them look back at me like a mime. Ive been both graciously accepted and rejected, and also rejected not so graciously. But ive never been met with a wall of silence. 1
TigerLilly78 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 I'm gonna have to disagree with you here. I did my share of OLD, and the people you meet from there are definitely more likely to flake out on you. Just part of the game. I guess that's my prob ive never seen dating as a "game" as a result ive had some lasting relationships meh go figure...
Author abby_tx Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 You might meet more flakes online, but there will still be some pretty good ones out there. 1
thekid36 Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 So, I have a silly question.I went on three amazing dates with a guy. He's a few years younger than me which at first bothered me (to the extent I almost didn't go on the date with him). But he's amazing and our connection is undeniable. I haven't gone out with anyone since I met him because there simply haven't been any other guys I was interested in meeting. Until today. Here's the back story: 2 months ago, a guy showed up in my matches who lived hundreds of miles away. I usually don't message people who aren't in my city, but he had such a great nose I messaged him that I needed a sculpture made of his nose. Just as a joke. We messaged back and forth a bit, but knowing we'd never meet, I let it die out fairly quickly. Today he messaged me to say he got offered a job in the city I live in and is moving here in a week. He wants me to show him around town. I really don't know what to do. My relationship with the younger guy has been slow because he's been out of town for work a lot and we've had to wait a week+ for our next date. But as of Friday, the traveling for his job is over and we should be able to see each other more. I guess what I'm asking is at what point should I not be meeting other guys? This has never usually been an issue with me because there's never been any other guys I've been interested in while getting to know someone else. I can be pretty picky. Okay, so I am ready to be ridiculed by some about this. Still, I want to give what is my own opinion. It seems as if some treat dating as some sort of game. Almost like a kind of buffet. A little of this, a little of that. All at the same exact time. Yes, I know that dating by it's name does suggest exploring. That could involve multiple people. Sure, you do not have to be exclusive with someone until you have that talk that has been mentioned. This means that each is free to do whatever is wanted. You are not married or anything like that. Which in itself suggests freedom. But, here is the thing. Why does a person have to be against being committed to someone he/she likes just because exclusivity has not been discussed? Should some things not simply come from within? You should not have to do some things because you have to. It should be because you want to. If you really like this younger man, why not wait things out and see what develops with him before you move on to showing someone else around the town? Just because you have been burned before does not mean it is going to happen again. I suppose that being a hopeless romantic has partly to do with these specific sentiments. I just don't think it is fair to show interest to more than one person at a time. But then again, as long as both parties are aware of what the status of the relationship is, then this is all that matters. 1
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