How to adjust to her being so different?

[john1682]

Hey guys,

 

I've been dating this new girl for about a month. Throughout this month, I've noticed so many different characteristics that I've never come across. At the beginning she was so afraid of intimate contact, slowly but surely she's opened up more & more. But, I feel like everything is limited because of the "thirst" label. I get the feeling like she doesn't want to come off to clingy, but it limits her in so many areas...

 

So i'm wondering if I should bring this up to her or just go with the flow and see how long this will last?

[Gaeta]

Please explain with concrete example.

 

What is this thirst label?

[GemmaUK]

I'm curious too.

 

More detail required.

[Potz4prez]

She doesn't want to come off as thirsty, needy, whatever.

 

I doubt that though. Her interest level may be low, or maybe she has baggage. How long has she been single?

[john1682]

Please explain with concrete example.

 

What is this thirst label?

 

 

 

Thirst label basically means you're clingy, needy, showing to much attention to one party.

[john1682]

She doesn't want to come off as thirsty, needy, whatever.

 

I doubt that though. Her interest level may be low, or maybe she has baggage. How long has she been single?

 

 

I don't think so. I'm not trying to brag or be cocky but she's into me. She's just different... & I'm trying to figure her out. I think her last relationship was about a year ago.

[ktya]

Youve only been seeing her a month. She just likes to take it slow.

[GemmaUK]

Maybe she isn't clingy?

 

In your other thread you're concerned when she asks 'if you want to?'

 

I only ever ask that if it's something I like and I get engrossed in and if he won't enjoy it as much he will focus on me...which can drive me nuts.

 

I have uninvited a few guys from things when it's clear they are only agreeing to go to an event or something because I am going.