Sundancev1 Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 (edited) Not sure if this is posted in the correct area. Long story short my ex and I have been broken up for 7-8 months now and I was the one dumped. Admittedly we had a pretty bad breakup and she isn't friendly at all. Since the breakup shes been spreading lies and other things. I do ignore every interaction with her, so I don't buy into this stuff. Her and her friends spread lies to everyone (my friends, mutual friends, ect) and they make a scene. Recently I was at a local bar with my friends and a girl im currently seeing. All my ex and her friends did was stare at myself and my new partner, talk bad about me loudly enough for everyone to hear, trash talk me in the bathroom while my partner was in there. My partner was also saying my exs friends were discussing "who is she? how does he know her?" referring to me and my partner. They were also saying "it must be hard for her (my ex) to see him all the time" which I don't really understand due to her saying "shes never been happier" and she acts like she hates me. There was also another incident on the same night when a girl friend of mine came and sat next to me (at this stage my ex and her friends were at my table with my friends (few of them are mutual friends thus they joined us). When my girl friend sat down she introduced herself to my ex and her friends and they looked at her in disgust and treated her like dirt. I don't understand what's going on ? Why is she still acting like this after all these months ? I even tried around 2-3 months ago to settle everything and be friendly but she ignored my attempt. Im coping well and I have moved on, although I still care a lot about my ex and do think about her sometimes. Im just struggling with the fact that shes now targeting my friends and partner and im worried that this could cause a big incident. Any advice or insight would be fantastic. Thank you Edited June 22, 2014 by Sundancev1
JahnJahn Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 She is immature and cannot stand your happiness. Just ignore her and try and avoid places where you two will end up meeting. Don't overthink her childishness and continue living your life. She will eventually stop doing it once she sees she is getting no attention from you. But try your best to avoid seeing her or sharing the same space as her. She does seem like she wants to sabotage your happiness.
Author Sundancev1 Posted July 13, 2014 Author Posted July 13, 2014 (edited) Ive recently returned from a month away and have thought a lot about my life and what I want. I realised I need to make peace with my past. Long story short we are both 21, been broken up for 9 months and she left me. We had a terrible breakup (her friends/family got involved), we work together at a firm and go to the same college. We sometimes run into each other on night outs and she is nothing but bitter, rude and downright disrespectful to my friends (only the girls), my new partner and myself. She and her friends spread lies, rumours and everything you can think of to hurt me. We have been in no contact for around 2-3 months and over the past 5 months ive tried twice to smooth things over in which she has ignored. Is it worth trying to smooth things, confront or just leave it like ive done so far ? Edited July 14, 2014 by Sundancev1
I am Bud Posted July 14, 2014 Posted July 14, 2014 Dear Sundancev1 Sounds like what you need to do is stay well clear from this girl because she is just a nasty piece of work. She does not possess any qualities that you want in a partner or a friend and if you do then you are setting yourself up for a whole bunch of misery. You don't need to have her blessing in order to move on because from the sounds of it you are not going to get it. She would relish the chance for you to crawl and beg and she would use every bit of it to tell her friends that she was right about you. Don't give her any more ammunition which she can use to justify her bad behavior. A vindictive personality is hard to change so for your own peace of mind avoid her at all cost. The next time that she disrespects your female friends/partner tell her that her behavior is unacceptable and for her to grow up and move on. All the best - Bud.
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