rov Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Hi, I added a girl on Facebook on Sunday, we have friends in common, that is why I added her. I started to chat with her and we chatted all day long on Monday, she was quite polite with me. Then I asked her if she would like to go for coffee on wednesday or thursday. I think she fell asleep because she read my message till tuesday at 10 am and answered it two hours later. I thought that she wasn't going to reply when she saw the message and didn't answered immediately but she did answered two hours later and replied: I can't go with you for coffee on wednesday because it is the anniversary of my parents and on thursday I will go to dinner with my friends from high school, but next week it is 100% sure we will go for coffee you and I. When I saw this I felt relief and I replied that next week it would be great to see each other and also said to her to enjoy the world cup football games because she likes football. Yesterday I sent her a message saying: have a great day. she saw the two messages I sent her and she didn't replied anything. Should I ask her whats wrong with her, if she is angry with me or maybe she was busy?. I was thinking in waiting till sunday to contact her again to arrange the coffee date for next week. Any advice? . thanks
umirano Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 No, just chill and see what happens next week. Don't come off as needy by pestering her. She's got a life on her own. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Although it would have been nice, 'Have a great day' doesn't require a reply. She just laid out how she's busy with other stuff, stop with the pesty messages until you're ready to set the details for your meet. 2
Author rov Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Would it be that maybe she is not interested?
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Would it be that maybe she is not interested? Not necessarily. It could be that she said she'd have coffee with you next week, and is busy now with other things. Do you use Facebook for all of your contact with girls? Kinda lame, really.
Author rov Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Not necessarily. It could be that she said she'd have coffee with you next week, and is busy now with other things. Do you use Facebook for all of your contact with girls? Kinda lame, really. I didn't asked for her cellphone yet to avoid being clingy and desperate. You are right if she had no interest she wouldn't have told me to go for coffee next week or maybe she would have blocked me from Facebook. don't you think?
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I didn't asked for her cellphone yet to avoid being clingy and desperate. You are right if she had no interest she wouldn't have told me to go for coffee next week or maybe she would have blocked me from Facebook. don't you think? Please don't send your same replies here to my PM. That's twice now. I'm getting a good idea of why you're coming off clingy and pesty. Don't you have any patience? Wait for the other good people here to also give you some advice. Please. I'd rather not report you.
d0nnivain Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 It's FB. She agreed to go for coffee with you next week. That does not obligate her to be at your beck & call. Get off your computer. Go do anything else. If you are active you will have more stuff to talk about when you see her next week. 2
Author rov Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 I noticed something rare in this girl´s facebook. She has several pictures with a guy but it doesn't say in her Facebook that she is in a relationship with him whereas in the guy´s facebook page it says that they have a relationship. When I started talking with her she never mentioned she had a boyfriend and she agreed to meet me for a coffee next week. I don't know whats going on here
Author rov Posted June 20, 2014 Author Posted June 20, 2014 That guy is her BF. She has her options set up so that not everyone can see her relationship status, making it easier for her to cheat. yeah you are completely right. Thats why she hides the relationship status with the guy. So it would be better to let her go and not go to a date with her?. I noticed that she never writes in her boyfriend´s wall and never posts anything.
jbelle6 Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 yeah you are completely right. Thats why she hides the relationship status with the guy. So it would be better to let her go and not go to a date with her?. I noticed that she never writes in her boyfriend´s wall and never posts anything. Hmmm, that's interesting. So his wall says "in a relationship with (her name)" and her status is completely hidden? She must have her privacy setting on her relationship status to custom so only her boyfriend can see it? Or maybe just certain groups? Crafty fox.
Assasda Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 You are clingy and needy and impatient. I hope the girl dodges the bullet. "How are you" is such a clingy, needy question. Never ask it. Its simply stupid, and doesnt deserve a reply. You dont even know the girl yet, you barely talk to her, yet youre already jealous in your head. Control your emotions and maybe you'd get somewhere 1
Shaun-Dro Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Hi, I added a girl on Facebook on Sunday, we have friends in common, that is why I added her. I started to chat with her and we chatted all day long on Monday, she was quite polite with me. Then I asked her if she would like to go for coffee on wednesday or thursday. I think she fell asleep because she read my message till tuesday at 10 am and answered it two hours later. I thought that she wasn't going to reply when she saw the message and didn't answered immediately but she did answered two hours later and replied: I can't go with you for coffee on wednesday because it is the anniversary of my parents and on thursday I will go to dinner with my friends from high school, but next week it is 100% sure we will go for coffee you and I. When I saw this I felt relief and I replied that next week it would be great to see each other and also said to her to enjoy the world cup football games because she likes football. Yesterday I sent her a message saying: have a great day. she saw the two messages I sent her and she didn't replied anything. Should I ask her whats wrong with her, if she is angry with me or maybe she was busy?. I was thinking in waiting till sunday to contact her again to arrange the coffee date for next week. Any advice? . thanks I haven't read other's replies, but I'm sure we're all going to be in some sort of agreement that you're going about this all wrong because you're coming off as desperate to get with her and she sense's this. Also, she doesn't even know you outside of random Facebook chats, which is pretty meaningless to many women. I feel her response was only in kind. I don't think you'll be hearing from her again except if you keep bugging her and she finally just says to you that she's not going to be available any time soon, which equals women's code for: thanks but no thanks/not interested. Leave this one alone.
NYC-BigKat Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 You are clingy and needy and impatient. I hope the girl dodges the bullet. "How are you" is such a clingy, needy question. Never ask it. Its simply stupid, and doesnt deserve a reply. This is mean . I say things like this to people all the time & u wanna say that its just a really stupid question to ask someone u care about?
nerdlingZA Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Would it be that maybe she is not interested? Yes it could be. I wonder how u going to set a date with her next weeîk since sending her a 3rd msg without her replying appear as needy
nerdlingZA Posted June 20, 2014 Posted June 20, 2014 Would it be that maybe she is not interested? Yes it could be. I wonder how u going to set a date with her next weeîk since sending her a 3rd msg without her replying appear as needy. When someone ignores my msg I kinda delete them right away or wait a few days.
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