anissawolf Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 So, I've been in love with my best friend for 12 years. We both just got out of 6 year relationships. Anytime he's single I'm the first person he calls and we are pretty much inseparable. He has been staying with me, and I'm wondering if he might finally be interested in more. He's been talking about getting jobs together and sharing an apartment. He takes me out to eat and wants to cook for me. We spend every waking minute together. We are intimate and just the other night we fell asleep holding each other. Unfortunately, my ex still lives with me... He's pushing me to make my ex leave. He even offered to take care of it for me. He's going to sell his car so that we can use the money to fix mine and pay some bills... I don't know. I want to see this heading somewhere but I don't want to lie to myself either. Opinions? Advice?
David87 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Why on earth would you risk a 12 year friendship.?????
Author anissawolf Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Yes, I am SO utterly and completely, irrevocably and unconditionally in love with my best friend. And I believe that best friends make the best lovers. We both made the mistake of dating people we just met for the last 6 years. I don't think it could ruin the friendship, but only make it stronger. I believe with all my heart that he is my soul mate. Shouldn't your lover be your best friend first?
Strength in Healing Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 This is why men and women can't be friends
HeartbrokenNewbie Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I tend to agree I think being friends will be the basis of a great RS BUT you need to makesure that you both want this because there will not be any going back after... the amount of married people I hear that say their partner was "right under my nose the whole time" is ridiculous so you wont be the first and you def wont be the last! Good luck, would be great to hear how your story pans out x
deathandtaxes Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Leave well enough alone. If he were interested, he would ask you on a proper date or make a move or let that interest be known. You have a rock solid friendship. Those are rare, especially as long as you've been friends. Enjoy being friends. I would suggest NOT SHARING an apartment with this guy. You will only get worse if/when he lands another gf and you have to be around everyday to witness it.
Author anissawolf Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Thanks! I hope it does turn in to more. I want to know how he feels but I'm afraid to put pressure on him since he is still dealing with his breakup. I guess we'll see...
Elle1975 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 So, I've been in love with my best friend for 12 years. We both just got out of 6 year relationships. Anytime he's single I'm the first person he calls and we are pretty much inseparable. He has been staying with me, and I'm wondering if he might finally be interested in more. He's been talking about getting jobs together and sharing an apartment. He takes me out to eat and wants to cook for me. We spend every waking minute together. We are intimate and just the other night we fell asleep holding each other. Unfortunately, my ex still lives with me... He's pushing me to make my ex leave. He even offered to take care of it for me. He's going to sell his car so that we can use the money to fix mine and pay some bills... I don't know. I want to see this heading somewhere but I don't want to lie to myself either. Opinions? Advice? Start by asking the ex to find another place to stay. That's where I would start. Don't get involved with someone, your friend or anyone, with the ex still hanging in the bedroom next to yours. 1
Author anissawolf Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Start by asking the ex to find another place to stay. That's where I would start. Don't get involved with someone, your friend or anyone, with the ex still hanging in the bedroom next to yours. I know it. I am making my ex leave in a week or so.
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