Kristine Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I found out some stuff about my boyfriend that I can't share with family because they're already freaking out about certain things with his past. Well I asked him flat out if he's ever been in prison and she answered yes, for 6 1/2 months. The judgement was for 48 months so he got off early. This was a crime from 11 years ago. It was for a white collar crime, and I'm from a white collar family so it really shock me to my core. Embezzlement was the charge, he told me his story and it wasn't actually him he says, but the company he was working for at the time and he was the manager and 3 of them were charged. I honestly am not sure how to take this information. I'm seeing my therapist for an emergency session tomorrow. Because I'm really not sure if I should continue a relationship with him or not. I do love him, no question, and he loves me more than any guy I've been with, but I just don't know what to do here.
jay1983 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I think you might be overreacting. What about it frightens you so much?
Under The Radar Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I found out some stuff about my boyfriend that I can't share with family because they're already freaking out about certain things with his past. Well I asked him flat out if he's ever been in prison and she answered yes, for 6 1/2 months. The judgement was for 48 months so he got off early. This was a crime from 11 years ago. It was for a white collar crime, and I'm from a white collar family so it really shock me to my core. Embezzlement was the charge, he told me his story and it wasn't actually him he says, but the company he was working for at the time and he was the manager and 3 of them were charged. I honestly am not sure how to take this information. I'm seeing my therapist for an emergency session tomorrow. Because I'm really not sure if I should continue a relationship with him or not. I do love him, no question, and he loves me more than any guy I've been with, but I just don't know what to do here. Well, it was 11 years ago and he said yes to being in prison. Is he being completely honest about his involvement versus taking a fall for the company. In other words, is he owning any criminal behavior on his part or saying he was in the wrong place at the wrong time with his management position? What other things from his past is your family freaking out about? Are those things red flags to you? How long have you two been dating?
Author Kristine Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Well it scared me that if we marry it could hurt my career. It scared me initially that he may be trying to embezzle money from me.
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Well it scared me that if we marry it could hurt my career. It scared me initially that he may be trying to embezzle money from me. If you're even having thoughts of this, this relationship isn't for you. That fear will never go away. Combine his travel and the family factors (his ex wife marrying his son ) yea, run. Fast. 2
Author Kristine Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 He owes back child support for his now 20 year old son. Only the amount is being charged interest and it's a large sum of money. They say he lacks integrity and well I'm finding that they are right. 1
Author Kristine Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 Well he gives me money often, but his credit is crap he says because of the back child support. It's over 50K he owes. And my family says he's being manipulative because he's slowly sharing things and so far nothing has been good. 1
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 He owes back child support for his now 20 year old son. Only the amount is being charged interest and it's a large sum of money. They say he lacks integrity and well I'm finding that they are right. He owes back child support for his twenty year old son, who is now married to hi ex wife. Really? Good lord. Have you called Jerry Springer? You can't make this stuff up (why would anyone want to?) Um, yea, he's working up to getting at YOUR money, if you have any. 2
Author Kristine Posted June 19, 2014 Author Posted June 19, 2014 I just don't want to believe that, is the real truth, and so many good things have happened in my life since I met him. I just can't break things off. He makes me feel happy. Except when I'm trying to process the crap. Yes I told him to call Jerry Springer, he'd rather not. My nic name for his ex is in fact, child molester. She doesn't know it but he does. That is why I need my therapist, she'll give me good advice. He has really been good for me, despite his horrible history. So I'm really curious what she'll say about all this.
jay1983 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 If you're even having thoughts of this, this relationship isn't for you. That fear will never go away. Combine his travel and the family factors (his ex wife marrying his son ) yea, run. Fast. Okay ah, there are some things I didn't know about. Never mind my first comment, just run! 2
ja123 Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 This and the other thread you have about the guy's ex-wife marrying his son should give you your answer: RUN!
Under The Radar Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 Note...if he spent that much time in jail, it was unlikely such a simple story. There is more to it or he had some previous offences. This is more about YOU, not him. Good you are seeking help. Why are you attracted to such a pathetic person? Yeah, this was what I was curious about too. OP admits that unsavory aspects of his past are being disclosed in bits and pieces. Who knows what the whole story is, what's true, and what else he's hiding. Even with epic sex it's just not worth it. I wonder if the six months in prison honed his backdoor skills. :/
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2014 Posted June 19, 2014 I wonder if the six months in prison honed his backdoor skills. :/ Funny you should say that.
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