djcos25 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I've had my eye on a girl at my new job, I work at a call center. One of the women who is training me noticed this and said something to the girl, saying I thought she was cute. In her words, she "giggled and said maybe we can sit together on break." So on break I asked to sit with her (she was eating). We talked, had good conversation, seemed to flow, made her laugh a bit. A good friend of mine who works there came in, so I said hey, but he came over and started talking to us (not what I wanted). He mentioned to the girl he's known me since we were like 5. She mentioned she wanted to see 22 Jump Street, as my friend said he saw it. She had to get back and told me, and she said bye to my friend. At the end of the day, we ended up clocking out at the same time. We work the same days and same hours. She asked me how my calls were for the day. I asked her what her plans were for the rest of the day, she replied, with a little laugh, "organizing my life." I didn't know how to respond so I made no remark. She said bye to me but I said "Oh before you go, was wondering if you wanted to grab dinner sometime, maybe catch 22 Jump Street after." I didn't get a vibe off her like she was unsure or didn't want to. She replied "Yeah definitely" and to me she sounded upbeat that I asked. I got her number, she told me when I text, to let her know its me. We didn't set a day/time yet. That night I sent her a quick text around 7:30 saying "Hey ___ its Dave." Its the next day, 5:30 and no reply. I did not see her today at the call center, so maybe something happened? I'm only guessing because of her comment last night "organizing my life." I honestly have no idea what to do now. I would have thought she would text me back saying hey at least. Should I call/text her? Wait? I won't see her until Sunday. If she didn't want to give me her number she could have said I have a boyfriend or something right?
MidwestUSA Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Was that the entire content of your text? Hey, it's Dave? 1
Dallers Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I've had my eye on a girl at my new job, I work at a call center. One of the women who is training me noticed this and said something to the girl, saying I thought she was cute. In her words, she "giggled and said maybe we can sit together on break." So on break I asked to sit with her (she was eating). We talked, had good conversation, seemed to flow, made her laugh a bit. A good friend of mine who works there came in, so I said hey, but he came over and started talking to us (not what I wanted). He mentioned to the girl he's known me since we were like 5. She mentioned she wanted to see 22 Jump Street, as my friend said he saw it. She had to get back and told me, and she said bye to my friend. At the end of the day, we ended up clocking out at the same time. We work the same days and same hours. She asked me how my calls were for the day. I asked her what her plans were for the rest of the day, she replied, with a little laugh, "organizing my life." I didn't know how to respond so I made no remark. She said bye to me but I said "Oh before you go, was wondering if you wanted to grab dinner sometime, maybe catch 22 Jump Street after." I didn't get a vibe off her like she was unsure or didn't want to. She replied "Yeah definitely" and to me she sounded upbeat that I asked. I got her number, she told me when I text, to let her know its me. We didn't set a day/time yet. That night I sent her a quick text around 7:30 saying "Hey ___ its Dave." Its the next day, 5:30 and no reply. I did not see her today at the call center, so maybe something happened? I'm only guessing because of her comment last night "organizing my life." I honestly have no idea what to do now. I would have thought she would text me back saying hey at least. Should I call/text her? Wait? I won't see her until Sunday. If she didn't want to give me her number she could have said I have a boyfriend or something right? Oh the days of girls and the call centre....many years of my life I wish I could write off. Honestly, these girls will hurt your relationships later on because dating work colleagues is really bad for you. Keep your work life and social life separate there is no good advice to be had here. 1
Author djcos25 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 Was that the entire content of your text? Hey, it's Dave? Yeah, "Hey (girls name) its Dave." I mean I would have expected a text back of hey at least, no? Granted I didn't ask any questions or anything, maybe she figured 'alright I got his number now." She is not stuck up or anything, very kind and friendly. That's what attracted me to her, because all the girls I've been meeting lately seem to have an attitude or show interest in you then won't text back after. The woman who helped me said "not to worry and that she wouldn't have given you her number if she didn't want to be bothered." 1
todreaminblue Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 she said she was organizing her life send another text saying hey, got any days off or want to catch that movie on such and such at this time...... bite the bullet be a man.....and be upfront.....make an effort in other words than just hey its dave...she likes orgaination..... so organize.....be that confident, have a plan stan.....smilin....best wishes..........deb 3
rester Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 You can't expect a reply when you don't text anything to reply to. I would give her a call and ask her out. She already said she'd go with you. Pick a place and a time and call her. Some might argue that asking her out via text is fine, but I find that to be weak. 5
Author djcos25 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 Thinking of calling her later today. If there's no answer and it goes to voicemail what should I do?
Wisecrack Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Yes, be very very committed to the point, if things go sour, you're willing to cop it so that nothing hurts you career wise. First thing you did wrong: messaged her straight away. She gave you her number, you guys are in date mode now. Should have given it a day or so or wait til you see her next and organise it out then (this I think is your best course of action). Her not rocking up could mean anything. Don't look into it. This is your second problem: over analysing everything: you can tell from how you have picked out every little detail. Drop that attitude because it won't help you in the long run. If you go out with her, have fun. If not, don't worry. Don't chuck your eggs in one basket then cry when they hatch crocodiles. And lastly NO. Don't call. Don't act desperate or clingy. CHill it. You guys work together, so you will see her soon. Stop being in a rush to do this and that. YOu've got to let things build. Go do a puzzle or pick up a new hobbie.
Author djcos25 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 Yes, be very very committed to the point, if things go sour, you're willing to cop it so that nothing hurts you career wise. First thing you did wrong: messaged her straight away. She gave you her number, you guys are in date mode now. Should have given it a day or so or wait til you see her next and organise it out then (this I think is your best course of action). Her not rocking up could mean anything. Don't look into it. This is your second problem: over analysing everything: you can tell from how you have picked out every little detail. Drop that attitude because it won't help you in the long run. If you go out with her, have fun. If not, don't worry. Don't chuck your eggs in one basket then cry when they hatch crocodiles. And lastly NO. Don't call. Don't act desperate or clingy. CHill it. You guys work together, so you will see her soon. Stop being in a rush to do this and that. YOu've got to let things build. Go do a puzzle or pick up a new hobbie. Wow, little harsh, no? She told me to text her, so I did. Not like I texted her wanting to start a conversation, all I said was hey its me. Whats the harm in that? I don't believe there is a "set" rule when you should text someone. If you like them then do it. That's how I feel. I'm not over-analyzing everything. Between the "organizing my life" comment she made, then her not being in work the next day I just hope nothing happened. That's all.
Omei Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 OP you didnt do a single thing wrong its up to her to text back... Texting her on the day she gave you her number was fine....saying hey its Dave is fine tho you could of added in what day do you wanna hang out or something. There's nothing wrong with calling also. Seriously this thing that guys have about ignoring a girl for a certain amount of days before contacting her, yall watch too many movies where the guy gets the girl no matter what he does. You've texted, you're gonna call after that there isn't anything else to do, but you haven't been desperate. 1
clia Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Thinking of calling her later today. If there's no answer and it goes to voicemail what should I do? Is this a trick question? Leave a message. "Hey, its Dave. I was wondering if you wanted to grab dinner and go see 22 Jumpstreet on ______ evening. Give me a call or text back and let me know. My number is _______." 5
GemmaUK Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Your thread title 'New job, new girl, same problem' Do you always go for girls you work with? Same problem as in no reply? Do you always text something that doesn't need any answer? Many people just rule out dating someone they work with as it can be a real minefield - I've seen it go so very badly wrong many times. I wouldn't necessarily answer a text such as that. I wouldn't know what to reply..'it's Gemma..but you already know that' would feel a bit dumb! Lol! 1
Author djcos25 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 I usually don't go for girls I work with. At my other job there are a lot of girls wgo are stuck up and have attitude problems. With this girl, how friendly and down to earth she is, thats what attracted me to her. The 'same problem' I meant the no reply. I understand I didn't ask anything in the text. But again, I figured I'd get a 'hey whats up' at the very least.
Author djcos25 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 Alright so I waited a week, I didn't call or text her. I did see her today at work. I had to talk to my supervisor twice, both times she was standing with her so I'm assuming that's why she didn't say hi. Later in my shift I had to walk over to dispatch, I passed by her desk, she was just coming back and she smiled and said hi to me. I didn't get the vibe like she was forcing herself to say hi. Seemed like her face 'lit up' when she saw me? I guess? Her eyes got a bit big when she saw me and said hi. Sorry to sound corny lol. Thinking of calling her maybe tonight? Thoughts?
MidwestUSA Posted June 22, 2014 Posted June 22, 2014 Alright so I waited a week, I didn't call or text her. I did see her today at work. I had to talk to my supervisor twice, both times she was standing with her so I'm assuming that's why she didn't say hi. Later in my shift I had to walk over to dispatch, I passed by her desk, she was just coming back and she smiled and said hi to me. I didn't get the vibe like she was forcing herself to say hi. Seemed like her face 'lit up' when she saw me? I guess? Her eyes got a bit big when she saw me and said hi. Sorry to sound corny lol. Thinking of calling her maybe tonight? Thoughts? Only if you're going to have the guts to go ahead and ask her out. If you get voicemail, don't just leave a 'hey, it's Dave'. See Clia's post above. Good luck.
Author djcos25 Posted June 22, 2014 Author Posted June 22, 2014 Only if you're going to have the guts to go ahead and ask her out. If you get voicemail, don't just leave a 'hey, it's Dave'. See Clia's post above. Good luck. Oh of course. If it went to voicemail I would be going by Clia's post. Thanks. If I do call I'll post here afterwards. Just was wondering if it was a good idea to call, seeing I'm gonna see her the next 2 days. Then again, there's no guarantee I'll catch her on break or when we're leaving. Like today for example, I'm heading out and she was still on the phone (we come in and leave at the same time).
NYC-BigKat Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 she said she was organizing her life send another text saying hey, got any days off or want to catch that movie on such and such at this time...... bite the bullet be a man.....and be upfront.....make an effort in other words than just hey its dave...she likes orgaination..... so organize.....be that confident, have a plan stan.....smilin....best wishes..........deb She's gonna reject him I just know it 'cause it always happens to me since I am a nice guy & since he's nice like me she wont date him .
Purepony Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 She's gonna reject him I just know it 'cause it always happens to me since I am a nice guy & since he's nice like me she wont date him . Hahaha I'm sorry that's just funny 1
Author djcos25 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 Left her a message last night about 7:30 for dinner and a movie Thursday. I said to call or text back, no rush. Its the next day and nothing. I go in about an hour and a half, don't bring it up if I happen to go on break with her or whatever?
Author djcos25 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 No. However, both of you'd have poor writing skills and this would be a common issue for rejection. I sure hope English is the second language of some posters. If not, yikes! Is this directed at me as well?
Author djcos25 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 I was on my phone and its very hard to type without something screwing up. I just wanted to get my point across before I went into work. Look at all my other posts, they're from my computer.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 You're too available, moved too quickly on this
Author djcos25 Posted June 23, 2014 Author Posted June 23, 2014 You're too available, moved too quickly on this How? I asked her to go to dinner and a movie, she said yes. I waited a week, called last night and left a voicemail asking to set something up for Thursday night. What's wrong with that?
clia Posted June 23, 2014 Posted June 23, 2014 Left her a message last night about 7:30 for dinner and a movie Thursday. I said to call or text back, no rush. Its the next day and nothing. I go in about an hour and a half, don't bring it up if I happen to go on break with her or whatever? I think you should bring it up if you see her and it seems appropriate. Don't force it, but if you are on break with her, you can say "hey, did you get my message?" Surely she's seen it by now. She could be waiting to tell you when she sees you, or is figuring out her plans for the week. I don't think you should sweat it yet.
Author djcos25 Posted June 25, 2014 Author Posted June 25, 2014 (edited) So on Monday we saw each other for a split second. She was walking around looking for a supervisor while I was at my cubicle taking calls. Tuesday I saw her but she didn't see me. Both days we had break at different times, and we didn't see each other on the way out. No way in hell am I waiting for her at the door to talk to her. It comes off as creepy, needy and desperate. Its Wednesday, almost 4pm and I haven't even heard from her phone wise. Don't understand why she would give me her number only to not answer. She could have said "oh sorry I have a boyfriend" or something. What do I do now for next week, just pretend I didn't ask her out? I just don't want to make things weird or act stupid lol. I got a date tonight and another one potentially Friday night anyway, just wanted to get some opinions. Thanks. Edited June 25, 2014 by djcos25
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