looking forward 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 (edited) Hi I'm new to forums. I would like to know if I have scuppered any chance of a reconciliation with my ex partner. She ended the relationship In february this year after stating that she couldn't trust me to be open emotionaly and be honest with my opinion's. I have never been able to be emotionaly open with anyone not just her, Due to the fact that i was abused as a child and that caused me to shut down my emotions,and i am a quiet person where as she was out going and a strong character she is everything that i'm not that's why i fell in love with her. When we first met i worked night's and very long hours working 15 1/2 shifts. At first she was ok with this but as the months went on she said that she felt like she was still single as i was always tired, She also felt that i wasn't earning enough money to support us,She was not working. I made several positive suggestions about changing my work ect at first she was ok with this then she would as me not as she would see less of me as i was working four on four off. After the break up I emotionaly fell apart and made all the mistakes of texting her everyday for 4 weeks. they where not threatening or abusive or violent in nature just pleading to try and save the relationship. At week 5 she got the police involved and i was arrested and charged with harrasment without violence. I have now got a criminal record and have since lost my job ect. The mad thing is i still love and miss her and would like to have a reconciliation with her. There was no violence or abuse in our relationship. any advice would be appreciated.. we were engaged to be married. Edited June 17, 2014 by looking forward 2014
zhaulk Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I don't think you have made any mistakes that would ruin your chances of reconciliation. I just think it's time for you to move on, buddy. There's no hope for that relationship, anymore.
jbelle6 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Hi I'm new to forums. I would like to know if I have scuppered any chance of a reconciliation with my ex partner. She ended the relationship In february this year after stating that she couldn't trust me to be open emotionaly and be honest with my opinion's. I have never been able to be emotionaly open with anyone not just her, Due to the fact that i was abused as a child and that caused me to shut down my emotions,and i am a quiet person where as she was out going and a strong character she is everything that i'm not that's why i fell in love with her. When we first met i worked night's and very long hours working 15 1/2 shifts. At first she was ok with this but as the months went on she said that she felt like she was still single as i was always tired, She also felt that i wasn't earning enough money to support us,She was not working. I made several positive suggestions about changing my work ect at first she was ok with this then she would as me not as she would see less of me as i was working four on four off. After the break up I emotionaly fell apart and made all the mistakes of texting her everyday for 4 weeks. they where not threatening or abusive or violent in nature just pleading to try and save the relationship. At week 5 she got the police involved and i was arrested and charged with harrasment without violence. I have now got a criminal record and have since lost my job ect. The mad thing is i still love and miss her and would like to have a reconciliation with her. There was no violence or abuse in our relationship. any advice would be appreciated.. we were engaged to be married. Someone not working complaining about you working hard and has the gall to complain about your wages? Then she has you arrested for being upset at the breakup? You want that back? 1
loversquarrel Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 The best advice I can give in your described situation is to stay away from her. She had you locked up - that right there says it all - she's done and any thoughts of reconciliation with her at this point will get you locked up for stalking.
Mr.Pine Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 ...At week 5 she got the police involved and i was arrested and charged with harrasment without violence. I have now got a criminal record and have since lost my job ect. I am perplexed, flummoxed and positively puzzled why you would even think about reconciling with a person that got you arrested and saddled you with a criminal record. Like herpes...that crap don't ever go away. Unless you can get it expunged. But that crap takes years. Brother, there is NOTHING to salvage. By having you arrested for harassment, she is basically telling you she wants absolutely NOTHING to do with you...ever again. I guarantee if you try to contact her again, you'll be right back in the clink. Don't do it. Move on and work on getting your arrest expunged. 2
Author looking forward 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 Thank you for your advice I guess love is a strange thing..
Author looking forward 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Author Posted June 18, 2014 Someone not working complaining about you working hard and has the gall to complain about your wages? Then she has you arrested for being upset at the breakup? You want that back? I think I am just still grieving the break up and still not thinking clearly. I'm sure that i would probably be better off just walking away and washing my hands of it. Love is a strange thing.Thank you..
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