fred123 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 it is vital to ask confrontational questions so that you know where you stand. get an answer asap to avoid being played.
Fondue Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 I think most of the more seasoned daters and "adults" on this board would say yes. Especially some of the women. But I would have to say that you should be careful with it. A lot of confrontational questions, or the "hard hitting" questions can be a little difficult and offputting. Or at least, make things uncomfortable. While I agree that people need to be specific and find exactly what they want, I do think you should still be cautious and try not to scare the other person off. FOr example, someone might be looking for a life partner just like you. But I believe you can't go on the first date and be like, "hey listen, I'm looking to get married in two years and have a baby in three. I am looking for a wife/husband and I need to know whether or not this is something you're interested in as well, otherwise this is a waste of time." While some people might find that direct approach completely acceptable and support it, I think it's a bit cuckoo. 2
Author fred123 Posted June 17, 2014 Author Posted June 17, 2014 i had an experience with a girl once who i talked online fir 2 months and she used to say things that led me to believe she liked me for example i have feelings for you, calling me babe etc etc. wen we finally met after she flew in she acted like she didnt know me and said to me a year later you acted like you wanted more than friends with me. i was thinking are you serious?!! if only i said before to her i like you more than friends and thats why im coming to see you. from now on i say this to every girl i like
Gaeta Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 it is vital to ask confrontational questions so that you know where you stand. get an answer asap to avoid being played. Confrontational questions? no Being clear on your objectives: yes Confirming you are both working toward the same objective: yes 2
Assasda Posted June 18, 2014 Posted June 18, 2014 Well, dont ask, needy confrontational questions. ie. Questions for validation. Ask questions, because you sincerely want to know the other person's opinion on the topic. I say, Later on in the relationship, right before you guys become an Item, these questions should be asked 1
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