tobeover Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 So I was thinking, and I'm going to get right into this: let's say your appearance is average or ugly, according to societal standards. Yet you're full of confidence (but not too much so that you appear cocky) and you're assertive, and all that. That could be a sign that YOU think that your appearance is nothing to worry about, and that could rub off on the potential partners, who then think the same thing. That is, your appearance is nothing to worry about. Many times I have seen people who don't have the best looks, or don't have the greatest fashion sense, and yet they're brimming with confidence, which tells me that since THEY think that their appearance doesn't matter too much, I shouldn't worry about their appearance as well. So I don't worry about their appearance, and in the end, I have good impressions of them. Is this true? Tell me if this doesn't make sense, and I will phrase it differently. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 woot woot you got it.....fighters that are beat up attract women, jockeys attract women and they have a short stature.....sportsman attract women.soldiers attract women no matter what they look like...the commonality is confidence,and much guts..... sometimes as in my case i see it when they are not projecting confidence and its a puzzle.so i go jigsaw mode and attempt to puzzle it out........because i know they have it...so i work on them and bring it to the front...every guy i have gone out with exudes confidence......either upfront and i date them or i can find it in them because they have mad skills they dont use them, i get them to use them by support and motivation.......hopefully...and i dont give up......doesnt make me a light weight either that i dont take front seat i often see better in the back ...i have enough confidence that i enjoy a supporting role/......guys see that eventually...i am supremely confident ...my past is proof enough..just not stuck up to think its all me i can be gifted...and i have blonde moments i accept them all makes me confident.......deb 1
DArtagnan2 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 confidence doesn't have anything to do with appearance, altho a lot of people gain confidence or become confident when they get in better shape, get a new hairdo, etc. Because they feel some sort of inadequacy with what society labels as important in a person. Sure, you should shower, take come care of what you wear and smell like but confidence comes from within and how you feel about yourself, your morals, character and what you walk through in life daily. 1
littleplanet Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Of course. Character and personality. Something that is genuine you. A presence. These are things that can leave a greater lasting impression than just looks. I can't think of how many times (especially in clubs where I play) I've been yakking between sets with two women.......one, a looker - and the other one something less than glamour puss... - and the looker is sort of attending the scene (possibly even shy) and kind of expecting her looks to do her talking for her.................. and meanwhile the something less...... .......is cracking me up with the most wicked sarcastic humor on the planet. Sharp wit. Bang-on commentary. Come-backs that leave me breathless. Personality to beat the band (well....figuratively...) Which of the two exudes confidence? Which of the two has the courage to be herself, of her own personal design and invention? Enough to make me feel like I'm actually engaging with an interesting human being. (and glamourpuss fades into the background.....drifting toward the dudes that want to "engage" with that glamour.) And later, during the next set - which of the two is scrutinizing the tunes...paying attention.....making me feel like someone is actually listening out there, and getting it? Hint: Elvis has already left the building - with glamourpuss.
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