BaselineLeaner Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 But i know not to do it. It is just so hard. She broke up with me about 2 months ago and we dated 4 years. She said she wanted to figure her self out but yet started dating a week later. I know I don't owe her anything and I have been no contact since. She has texted me on my birthday and graduation and I simply said "thanks" to both. That is the only contact we have had. Why am I all the sudden getting an urge to text her? I don't owe her that because she is the one that ended.
marcjb Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Definitely do not text, or contact her. She did not start dating a week later, she started dating before you guys broke up. She has G.I.G.S. She will probably try and contact you after she realizes the new guy isn't what she thought. At that point it will be your decision as to whether or not you are going to take someone back that thinks of you as a back up plan. 1
gj13 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 I feel ya! I had the same urge this weekend but it goes away. Just distract yourself. I know its hard but youve come far, dont give in. It really isnt worth it and youll feel so much better about yourself
JoeFallkon Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Think about it. you ask her how she is.. She might just give you a short answer, then youre gonna be asking more or stop texting her and wont do you any good. youre gonna have to start NC again from the start.
jbelle6 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 But i know not to do it. It is just so hard. She broke up with me about 2 months ago and we dated 4 years. She said she wanted to figure her self out but yet started dating a week later. I know I don't owe her anything and I have been no contact since. She has texted me on my birthday and graduation and I simply said "thanks" to both. That is the only contact we have had. Why am I all the sudden getting an urge to text her? I don't owe her that because she is the one that ended. I feel like biting all your fingers off. Every one of you who is tempted to break contact. No joke. She didn't start dating a week later, she just went public with dating a week later. She checked out way before. When they say they need to find themselves, they usually mean find themselves under the new person. You will contact her, she will maybe not respond, if she does it will be cold and make you feel like utter hell. As for why you have the urge? I suspect that for the first month a lot of people harbor hope that they will come back, that they will call and beg for you back. Reality starts to sink in after a bit and that can be hard to face. It will get worse, then it will get better. The best thing ever is to have NO hope. No expectation of them coming back, this is when you will truly move on.
ConfusedHumanBeing Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 But i know not to do it. It is just so hard. She broke up with me about 2 months ago and we dated 4 years. She said she wanted to figure her self out but yet started dating a week later. I know I don't owe her anything and I have been no contact since. She has texted me on my birthday and graduation and I simply said "thanks" to both. That is the only contact we have had. Why am I all the sudden getting an urge to text her? I don't owe her that because she is the one that ended. If it helps, she doesnt care.
whichwayisup Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 But i know not to do it. It is just so hard. She broke up with me about 2 months ago and we dated 4 years. She said she wanted to figure her self out but yet started dating a week later. I know I don't owe her anything and I have been no contact since. She has texted me on my birthday and graduation and I simply said "thanks" to both. That is the only contact we have had. Why am I all the sudden getting an urge to text her? I don't owe her that because she is the one that ended. Just come here every single time you feel the need to contact her and say what you want to say to her, here. You're still grieving the loss and she was a part of your life for 4 years, so of course you still care on some level. But, she's moved on... She shouldn't be texting you happy bday. From now on, if she texts you, ignore it. If possible can you block her?
ProcessingThisBU Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Feeling the same right now. 2 yrs relationship. 1 month NC. These last days I'm having the urge to contact her. Let's be strong.
gj13 Posted June 16, 2014 Posted June 16, 2014 Feeling the same right now. 2 yrs relationship. 1 month NC. These last days I'm having the urge to contact her. Let's be strong. In my case, 10 days NC and i found that the 7th and 8th day was the absolute WORST. Seriously, it was a sort of physical need to hear from him and i planned out different ways and different scenarios. Gave up realizing how stupid i was to even consider it, but seriously... i'm so proud of myself for not stalking with Twitter (the only way i could actually do it since its not private).
Amy74 Posted June 17, 2014 Posted June 17, 2014 Also, there is a thread under coping, "Post here instead if contacting your ex." That helped me through a craving earlier today. 1
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