Dallers Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 So. Another girl another potential for nothing. But I like to know everyone's opinion. So met X and hit it off. She was really into me and I played it cool and she gave me her number and said if I am interested message her sometime. I did. We spent a few days chatting none stop and getting to know one another. Cutting a long story short it has been 4 days we both went out on a night out last night (separately) I decide that I would today pull the trigger and ask her out today. I sent a simple message confirming I like her and that I would like to take her out this Friday for drinks. X replies that she is working Friday and then also working Saturday and then flying home for 10 days. She did not mention anything about the date, rearranging or a chance of meeting when she gets back and was just super excited about going home. Killed it for me obviously. Without any possible chance of a try again later or a back-burner I deleted her number. The only thing that sticks out apart from her being young (21) and me being (28) is that she is inexperienced in dating and maybe I was being rash, she also mentioned to begin with when she was really showing interest that she was fed up of being single. It seems she has been single for a while. Obviously I have deleted the number now but do you think I should have continued to walk my way into the friend-zone? I think I made the right choice. Getting fed up going round in circles but the walk away always seems the right choice. Thoughts?
ThorntonMelon Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 Only difference would have been you could have said "call me when you get back if you'd like to get together". But other than that, your instinct was fine.
Author Dallers Posted June 15, 2014 Author Posted June 15, 2014 Only difference would have been you could have said "call me when you get back if you'd like to get together". But other than that, your instinct was fine. Yes, I guess that is always a thought that runs through your head. But if you put yourself in their shoes, does it really make a difference me saying that? I just said that there was something about her I really liked, (from the way she had been and her actions it was pretty clear she liked me) and that I wanted to take her out. Her reply spoke only that she was too busy working and that she was going away for 10 days and couldn't wait. That is all well and good but she did not mention the fact that I was asking her out at all in her reply, or the chance of another possibility. So if she comes back and then wanted to meet up it would be on her anyway so me giving her additional options at this point would make me look an easy option, and nobody likes an easy option. I guess I am slightly disappointed on this occasion. I genuinely liked her, but we cannot allow ourselves to be taken advantage of can we
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