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I missed my train home and my partner said it would be okay for me to stay and go in the morning

 

She set up a blow up bed for me to sleep on, not to make her friend feel awkward as they shared a room.

 

Before i met her friend my partner was pulled into the kitchen and spoken down to i felt very awkward and so did my partner.

 

I said i would respect her friends space and leave i did not want to create a situation.

 

Her friend then said any one her friend loves she loves and would not want me to be out late on my own.

 

The next morning i got up early and left.

 

The 2nd time i met her friend was when my partner cooked dinner for me, we had a good convo with my partner present in the kitchen but as soon as my partner left the room i was blanked and ignored until my partner returned from doing what she needed to do, it felt awkward

 

Since then when my partner stays at mine her friend will call late at nite and sometime at one in the morning to speak to my partner

The phone is so loud I over heard the convo and her friend making judgments about me and our relationship.

 

Yet again i ignored it as i don't want to cause trouble or make my partner feel in the middle

 

I have let go of her friend dictating the time that we spend and the intimacy we have for each other

As well as the comments about myself as it my partners friend and i don't want to loose someone i love

 

I have arranged places to go out and invited her friend to join me and my partner to try and bridge the gap but with no succsess

 

My partner will be living with me for two months when she returns from her travels i openly said that her friend can visit and i will go out so they can spend time together

 

The tipping point was last nite when my partner wanted to use my netflix account

 

I joked about the film she wanted to watch and it turned out that her friend would be the one watching the film.

 

It ended up in a debate after my partner said she felt awkward about me making fun of the film and it upset her friend.

 

With that i said

 

So it is okay and not awkward when she dictates my relationship with you and makes comments about me and ring late at nite when we are sleeping to do so, but making fun of a film is outrageous.

 

Now i don't know what to do i'm lost

 

Does anyone have any advice?

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