I love my current boyfriend, but I suddenly can't stop thinking about my ex-bf!

[gemstone1]

I was with my ex-bf for about 3 years, and we had a good relationship for the most part. However, as time went on, I realized we were two very different people and just couldn't see myself with him anymore. Due to this, I broke up with him. Shortly after that (10 months ago), I met another man, who I fell madly in love with. He was everything I was looking for, and we hit it off well. While with my new boyfriend, I maintained a friendship with my ex. However, the friendship faded away, as he was still in love with me - and I was in a new relationship. About 2 months ago, I cut ties with my ex and moved on as I felt I wasn't giving it my all to my new relationship. Since then, my relationship with my current boyfriend of 10 months has been wonderful. My bf is madly in love with me, and treats me like a queen. However, since about a week, I cannot stop thinking about my ex. I ended up messaging him (despite my current boyfriend and I agreeing not to continue contact with our exes) to tell him I was so sorry about how things ended between us. My ex replied by saying he had nothing against me anymore, and he wishes me all the best in life. I thanked him for replying, and he said 'no problem' and that was that. I love my current boyfriend, I really do. He keeps me so happy. But my mind keeps wandering to my ex, and I really want to talk to him more. Although, I think my ex has made it clear through his straightforward responses that there isn't much left. I don't know why I'm feeling this way! In the 10 months, I not ONCE thought of my ex this way. But now, out of nowhere, I can't stop thinking about him no matter what I do. Should I try to talk to my ex again, despite my current boyfriend's agreement not to stay in touch with exes?

[todreaminblue]

so follow your heart and let your brain have a rest in that heart felt emotion that you have now

[marcjb]

I was with my ex-bf for about 3 years, and we had a good relationship for the most part. However, as time went on, I realized we were two very different people and just couldn't see myself with him anymore. Due to this, I broke up with him. Shortly after that (10 months ago), I met another man, who I fell madly in love with. He was everything I was looking for, and we hit it off well. While with my new boyfriend, I maintained a friendship with my ex. However, the friendship faded away, as he was still in love with me - and I was in a new relationship. About 2 months ago, I cut ties with my ex and moved on as I felt I wasn't giving it my all to my new relationship. Since then, my relationship with my current boyfriend of 10 months has been wonderful. My bf is madly in love with me, and treats me like a queen. However, since about a week, I cannot stop thinking about my ex. I ended up messaging him (despite my current boyfriend and I agreeing not to continue contact with our exes) to tell him I was so sorry about how things ended between us. My ex replied by saying he had nothing against me anymore, and he wishes me all the best in life. I thanked him for replying, and he said 'no problem' and that was that. I love my current boyfriend, I really do. He keeps me so happy. But my mind keeps wandering to my ex, and I really want to talk to him more. Although, I think my ex has made it clear through his straightforward responses that there isn't much left. I don't know why I'm feeling this way! In the 10 months, I not ONCE thought of my ex this way. But now, out of nowhere, I can't stop thinking about him no matter what I do. Should I try to talk to my ex again, despite my current boyfriend's agreement not to stay in touch with exes?

 

No. If your current boyfriend is not comfortable with either of you talking to ex's then you shouldn't be talking with them. It seems you are something that thinks the grass is greener, wanting what you no longer have. That's not to say that you are one in a million, because apparently there are way too many people that have this problem.

 

If you continue to pine over your ex, then you need to be honest and breakup with your current boyfriend before anything might progress with your previous partner once again. I'm sure if that happens though, things will just once again go in reverse and then you will pine over your new ex (your current partner).

 

Moral of the story is be happy with what you have, not with what you don't.

[HeartbrokenNewbie]

Because u made peace.. Now the bad feeling is resolved what is left.. The good feeling & memories. You have opened a can of worms here x

[Gaeta]

I have noticed that when I am with a man and I catch myself thinking of another one it's because something is missing in my current relationship.

[gemstone1]

No. If your current boyfriend is not comfortable with either of you talking to ex's then you shouldn't be talking with them. It seems you are something that thinks the grass is greener, wanting what you no longer have. That's not to say that you are one in a million, because apparently there are way too many people that have this problem.

 

If you continue to pine over your ex, then you need to be honest and breakup with your current boyfriend before anything might progress with your previous partner once again. I'm sure if that happens though, things will just once again go in reverse and then you will pine over your new ex (your current partner).

 

Moral of the story is be happy with what you have, not with what you don't.

 

In every relationship I've been, I've always looked for better. I feel like I'm never satisfied. I know if I get back with my ex, I will go through the exact same thing that I am going through right now. Plus, there are way to many unresolved issues with my ex, which is why I left that relationship in the first place. My current relationship is absolutely perfect, so there is nothing lacking in that regard. In fact, even when some things were going downhill between my current bf and I, I NEVER missed my ex. Despite things being perfect, I don't know why I feel the way I do. I feel guilty for putting my ex through the break-up. It wasn't fair to him. I just don't know why I'm suddenly feeling sorry for him now, and have this sudden urge to have him back in my life. I'm really trying to fight these feelings for the best interest of my current relationship, but I feel like I'm going to fail! I don't know what to do with myself.

[Love_Sharer]

I think that if you are happy about your current relationship and are as in love as you say you are, you would leave your ex behind you and move on. Remember that he is your ex for a good reason, so do not make yourself feel guilty for ending things with him. I think that it is the guilt that keep bringing you back to him. Let go and respect your rules with your new bf about the no contacting exes. Find your own happiness, it seems like your ex moved on based on his response. Best of luck!

[Daisy-oliviaWentcher]

Only we ourselves can give ourselves closure. Once a relationship has ended I personally think the friendship should die too. He's now over you it appears. Don't open Pandoras box. Keep that lid shut tight. The relationship your now in is the one you should focus and channel all your energy in.