Col1 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 When a couple decides on no further children (or any children), does the guy usually get a vasectomy? Or, do they usually keep using other birth control methods to prevent pregnancy?
Silly_Girl Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 When a couple decides on no further children (or any children), does the guy usually get a vasectomy? Or, do they usually keep using other birth control methods to prevent pregnancy? I know several couples in their 30s or 40s who've elected for vasectomy. It would be my preferred option in my marriage, too.
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Interestingly enough my ex didn't want a vasectomy the doctor suggested he have one as i do not respond well under anesthetic...instead i was the one who had a tubal litigation.......makes me sad actually for it was his idea i have it done as he was scared to (so he says)....because there were dangers to me falling pregnant and he didn't want more children anyway....i was firmly told to not have more children.....i have five and some that did not make it to term...i think it is a simpler operation for a man to get than a woman...and honestly if he really cared for me he would have got one and not risked me having to go under anesthetic weeks after having a baby under general. Vasectomies i think are done under twilight not sure .... 5
Trimmer Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Interestingly enough my ex didn't want a vasectomy the doctor suggested he have one as i do not respond well under anesthetic...instead i was the one who had a tubal litigation.......makes me sad actually for it was his idea i have it done as he was scared to (so he says)....because there were dangers to me falling pregnant and he didn't want more children anyway....i was firmly told to not have more children.....i have five and some that did not make it to term...i think it is a simpler operation for a man to get than a woman...and honestly if he really cared for me he would have got one and not risked me having to go under anesthetic weeks after having a baby under general. Vasectomies i think are done under twilight not sure .... Twilight? Only for pussies... I had it in my urologist's office with just a couple injections of a local in the area. We talked and BS'ed through the whole thing (which wasn't all that long), then I walked out and drove home. Used some bags of frozen peas to minimize any swelling, and wore a jockstrap for a few days to keep things from bouncing around uncomfortably. Definitely way less complex, invasive, and risky than a woman getting her tubes tied. 8
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Twilight? Only for pussies... I had it in my urologist's office with just a couple injections of a local in the area. We talked and BS'ed through the whole thing (which wasn't all that long), then I walked out and drove home. Used some bags of frozen peas to minimize any swelling, and wore a jockstrap for a few days to keep things from bouncing around uncomfortably. Definitely way less complex, invasive, and risky than a woman getting her tubes tied. I thought so...that it would have been easy for him........thanks for the information.....good to know...in hindsight....smilin........deb
Trimmer Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I thought so...that it would have been easy for him........thanks for the information.....good to know...in hindsight....smilin........deb Sorry to break it to you. Although even some fairly macho guys are awfully weak when you bring a cutting instrument anywhere within a foot of their dicks. But c'mon dude... man up! 1
Els Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Vasectomy is definitely far less invasive (with fewer potential serious complications) than tubal ligation, so if it is a choice between the two then it should be the vasectomy. Some people just continue using non-permanent contraception though. 3
thefooloftheyear Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Im really not a fan of surgical procedures that are elective in nature....Its bad enough when they are needed... There are all kinds of ways to prevent unintended pregnancies without resorting to surgery...And while this is just a quirk of mine, I like to have everything functioning as it should on my body....may not be 100% logical, but its just my opinion.. TFY 1
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Im really not a fan of surgical procedures that are elective in nature....Its bad enough when they are needed... There are all kinds of ways to prevent unintended pregnancies without resorting to surgery...And while this is just a quirk of mine, I like to have everything functioning as it should on my body....may not be 100% logical, but its just my opinion.. TFY had i taken the option of vow celibacy and abstain from sex maybe a relationship that needed to end would have ended year and years earlier, but my nympho refused to have any part of that as did my ex.....so it wasnt even considered an option. all in all there were years after that had many laughs and good times.....everything happens for a reason and lessons learned from lack of hindsight is often more appreciated and understood in the future than the past...such as if only is...at least i would nto have to ask a guy to put a sharp object near his penis....that's a positive for the avoidance of an awkwardness i guess they may appreciate...i appreciate the thought of adopting a global community of kids apoents dotn want or requite due to lack of vasectomy....if i so had a mansion it would be full of animals and kids....maybe not a guy because that would drive most men to drink....and i already am up on the animals minus two turtles who escaped during a very rainy week...they just slid on out of their tub..herman and gilbert..when it filled to the brim...i hope they are very happy turtles...i worry about the three legged one he was an orphan and not very fast for a turtle....lol...ahem sorry .....feeling goofy..because of sulfur crested cockatoos....i think i have effectively taken this off topic ...oh yes vasectomy...there back on track.....slinks off thinking about dancing cockatoos i am considering seeing if they will sell them to me......sigh i dont think they will who would they dance like they dont care what you think and know how cool they are....lol all the while talking and chuckling with you and screaming at you when you say goodbye to them because they are starved fro attention, they talk in muted tones.....i swear one said fark ya when i walked away.... because they hear voices and laughs from far away..it was muted howevr and not affronting mae me a little sad then he started saying by bye bye bye as i said the same.i would give my right arm fro those cockatoos it is causing me pain anyway....i am still laughing....sorry again... yes vasectomy...nods wisely..deb
No Limit Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 (edited) I believe plenty of guys who are against vasectomy consider it equally to loosing their manhood altogether. Still probably the safest method there is to prevent pregnancies. Wouldn't have surgery done on me though, I had to go through an operation following an appendicitis last year and I didn't take it very well, laid in bed for almost 2 weeks, barely able to drink, eat or walk upright. Not to mention the pain reaching through the whole torso whenever my pills lost their effect on me. And like described above, for men it's 'just a few cuts'. Edited June 13, 2014 by No Limit 1
WasOtherWoman Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 My husband's wedding present to me was getting a vasectomy! Love him for it! 2
Radu Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I believe plenty of guys who are against vasectomy consider it equally to loosing their manhood altogether. Still probably the safest method there is to prevent pregnancies. Wouldn't have surgery done on me though, I had to go through an operation following an appendicitis last year and I didn't take it very well, laid in bed for almost 2 weeks, barely able to drink, eat or walk upright. Not to mention the pain reaching through the whole torso whenever my pills lost their effect on me. And like described above, for men it's 'just a few cuts'. That is one aspect i heard reported, but there are others : - pain in the area ... small chances but still there over long time - testicles do not change size anymore [between empty and full] - i don't know about others, but in a relationship my gf got a ton of satisfaction out of seeing me dry - testicles become hard, actually they get surrounded by a hard layer Let's not forget that volume drops too. 2
Michelle ma Belle Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I use an I.U.D. which is highly effective (99.9%), non-invasive, no worries about having to remember to take it, once inserted, it's good for 5 years at a time PLUS it altogether halts a woman's period or reduces it significantly (LOVE this!) and there are no monthly cramping or PMS symptoms! Who wouldn't love this?! The only way to go in MY book 2
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 (edited) I use an I.U.D. which is highly effective (99.9%), non-invasive, no worries about having to remember to take it, once inserted, it's good for 5 years at a time PLUS it altogether halts a woman's period or reduces it significantly (LOVE this!) and there are no monthly cramping or PMS symptoms! Who wouldn't love this?! The only way to go in MY book I would never advocate the use of an iud.........as i feel pregnant with one when it slipped down and fell out of place probably due to rape ro gods hands who knows..........only me right...i dont believe so....i miscarried of course at three months or mor whose to know ....had huge pain...and didnt understand why, so i went to the toilet...i birthed a three month or more old feotus with no eyes or legs looked like....i dotn know.....she had skin.......and she was curled up......and one black eye was looking at me........in the bowl with her was the iud floating next to her...she looked like an alien ...i was catatnic after that..i nearly passed out......it was a horrible day the worst i would say in my life.....i dont know what part of me took over to lift her out..... this is true please dont think i am lying..because this means a lot to me...it took em forever to get over it....and i put that foetus in the freezer until my ex found it and disceetly disposed o fher...as i sat catatonic on the lounge after telling him.....i couldnt bear to throw her away i didnt know what to do i couldnt put her in the ground .........i didnt want to set foot in a doctors office considering they put the iud in somehow wrong in the first place and told me i didnt have to worry......it was horrible and a very confusing haunting period of time for me.....i felt a lot of guilt.....with any form of contraception thee are chances of anomalys occurring and you have to be sure you are willign to take that risk regardless...i would not advocate for an iud because of my experience that still has the capacity to affect me emotionally at heart level two decades later..deb there is a trollish person on hee who posts abtuo partial birth abortions.....every time i read that i report ...because everytime he says that i see an image.. i am a multiple personality and none of who i am lifted that small unlived life out....god took over there was np aprt of me nw or then that could do it.......and yes i am passionate about destroying all iuds i would have the biggest bonfire and i would dedicate to all the anomaly's and to her...the soldier in me wants go on a stealth mission and destroy them all.....no i wont....but only if i could i would....no qualms no hesitation...........deb e Edited June 13, 2014 by todreaminblue
serial muse Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 I would never advocate the use of an iud.........as i feel pregnant with one when it slipped down and fell out of place probably due to rape ro gods hands who knows..........only me right...i dont believe so....i miscarried of course at three months or mor whose to know ....had huge pain...and didnt understand why, so i went to the toilet...i birthed a three month or more old feotus with no eyes or legs looked like....i dotn know.....she had skin.......and she was curled up......and one black eye was looking at me........in the bowl with her was the iud floating next to her...she looked like an alien ...i was catatnic after that..i nearly passed out......it was a horrible day the worst i would say in my life.....i dont know what part of me took over to lift her out..... this is true please dont think i am lying..because this means a lot to me...it took em forever to get over it....and i put that foetus in the freezer until my ex found it and disceetly disposed o fher...as i sat catatonic on the lounge after telling him.....i couldnt bear to throw her away i didnt know what to do i couldnt put her in the ground .........i didnt want to set foot in a doctors office considering they put the iud in somehow wrong in the first place and told me i didnt have to worry......it was horrible and a very confusing haunting period of time for me.....i felt a lot of guilt.....with any form of contraception thee are chances of anomalys occurring and you have to be sure you are willign to take that risk regardless...i would not advocate for an iud because of my experience that still has the capacity to affect me emotionally at heart level two decades later..deb there is a trollish person on hee who posts abtuo partial birth abortions.....every time i read that i report ...because everytime he says that i see an image.. i am a multiple personality and none of who i am lifted that small unlived life out....god took over there was np aprt of me nw or then that could do it.......and yes i am passionate about destroying all iuds i would have the biggest bonfire and i would dedicate to all the anomaly's and to her...the soldier in me wants go on a stealth mission and destroy them all.....no i wont....but only if i could i would....no qualms no hesitation...........deb e Wow, deb. hugs. That sounds incredibly painful and traumatic. I'm so sorry. I don't really know much about IUDs except my own experience, which is that my mom had one in (clearly not properly installed) when I was conceived. So a lot depends on the doctor doing it right I suppose. 3
todreaminblue Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Wow, deb. hugs. That sounds incredibly painful and traumatic. I'm so sorry. I don't really know much about IUDs except my own experience, which is that my mom had one in (clearly not properly installed) when I was conceived. So a lot depends on the doctor doing it right I suppose. the pain physical pain was significant and breath taking and not in a good way....., the emotional pain devastating,as i said catatonic, i believe i might have conceived in my tubes......thats the only logical explanation as there was no afterbirth and it was a very quick birth .......I lost four more after that.....and had three girls.......i am blessed......and during those pregnancies that carried to term i prayed a alot......i feel over in one quite badly , was rushed for a c section fro my last and nearly lost my first girl...a i sadi blessed, thank you fro believing me and sharing your own failure iud story story...i have tried most comtraception although i twouldnt seem that way .....the pill caused massive problems with my hormonal balance......i was never meant to take contraception...would i if i could have more...most definitely i woudl take the risk adn hope in god, but i honestly think my boy has just had enough adn feel that god has given me five .....ill just adopt...lol.......i make no brevity about the iud i woudl seriously light the sky up with a bonfire..... but i have cried enough tears to fill buckets.....i did want to share my story as to give definition to a choice that i know for sure no contraception is without risk or perfect in any way as it is unnatural by design..as you yourself know....human error...advocating an iud would be affronting and wrong to me......i do respect peoples choices to make their own decisions....i have effectively talked anyone i know and care about out of having a iud implanted.....and it doesnt take much of my story to do it..my daughters also advocate against having one with their friends and tell my story as well...deb
pteromom Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Twilight? Only for pussies... ...or for people who enjoy deep restful sleep. Ahhhhhhh, anesthesia. Sorry, got distracted by the thought. 4
plrs199 Posted June 15, 2014 Posted June 15, 2014 My husband got one at the age of 25. It was pretty simple. He had to lay up in bed for a couple days and there was some pain for a few weeks but after that he's been fine. We don't want any children and decided that a vasectomy was the best option.
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