Sarcastic_aids. Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Me and my ex girlfriend were together a little under a year. I truly loved her, and we had ALOT of fun together. Unfortunately, she started to become dishonest, mainly about talking to ex boyfriends, and male co-workers, who obviously has an interest in her. I'll be honest, the last few months of the relationship were very rocky, filled with breaking up and making up...lots of things were said, and not many were nice. She finally told me " it's over, we're done, do whatever it is you need to do to get over me, I dont care if you cry in your pillow " Long story short, after a month of NC-she texted about the car she co-signed for me, after I responded, I started to casually text her, and believe it or not she would respond-she even would call me for a few minutes-so I thought MAYBE, there's a chance we could reconcile. Well, here's the bombshell. She's been dating a guy for about 2 months, told me he has a great job, and a house. She also told she's going to Florida with him, and that they have great sex. She then went on to say, she never loved me, I was only a distraction, and it was clear, that I cared for her more than she cared for me. She also said she wants me out of her life completely, and she never thinks about me. So, she went from being quite receptive to my texts, to calling me, to all of the sudden admitting she never loved me. I haven't dated anyone since her, and I dont know long it will be until I do. Is there any point in continuing to contact her?
nightrain Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) Me and my ex girlfriend were together a little under a year. I truly loved her, and we had ALOT of fun together. Unfortunately, she started to become dishonest, mainly about talking to ex boyfriends, and male co-workers, who obviously has an interest in her. I'll be honest, the last few months of the relationship were very rocky, filled with breaking up and making up...lots of things were said, and not many were nice. She finally told me " it's over, we're done, do whatever it is you need to do to get over me, I dont care if you cry in your pillow " Long story short, after a month of NC-she texted about the car she co-signed for me, after I responded, I started to casually text her, and believe it or not she would respond-she even would call me for a few minutes-so I thought MAYBE, there's a chance we could reconcile. Well, here's the bombshell. She's been dating a guy for about 2 months, told me he has a great job, and a house. She also told she's going to Florida with him, and that they have great sex. She then went on to say, she never loved me, I was only a distraction, and it was clear, that I cared for her more than she cared for me. She also said she wants me out of her life completely, and she never thinks about me. So, she went from being quite receptive to my texts, to calling me, to all of the sudden admitting she never loved me. I haven't dated anyone since her, and I dont know long it will be until I do. Is there any point in continuing to contact her? In MY opinion I think you should really stop talking to her period (its alot easier said than done I know).Just the mere fact that she is boasting about the guy she is dating and putting you down in the process as well as saying she never loved you is enough. Edited June 12, 2014 by nightrain 2
Always Pondering Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 No there's no point. She's your ex after all. After reading a decent amount of threads and posts here, you'll see that breaking NC and casually texting her does you no justice. I would just remove her from your life entirely, starting now. Follow Tara's NC guide and move on with your life to new better things! 1
Chi townD Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Is there any point in continuing to contact her? HELL NO!!!!!!!!! Wow, what an EVIL BITCH!!! 5
sooshi Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) Wow, I'm so sorry you had to go through this. She was so very cruel towards you, and clearly lacks empathy towards you (which means she very likely lacks empathy in general). I hope that this helps you move on. You deserve SO much better! Edited June 12, 2014 by sooshi 1
todreaminblue Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 (edited) Why would you want to be with a cruel and thoughtless woman who makes you feel less of a man and merely a distraction.Do you not feel you can do better?.I would never want to be a mans distraction, nor would i distract a man from finding someone who could please them more than me, and I learned that in more than just one very hard lesson,the conclusion.... that i always have deserved not to be a distraction from basically boredom of being alone and thought of a lesser woman but a woman more3 thought of that would be to be loved and treated with respect in kind, that then, i would need and desire to give more thought and time to be thought of well, to the man i was with . Thoughtless women do not make good partners relative to thoughtless men do not make good partners either and all truly do suck at making love...they honestly have no idea how to please anyome but them selves they are self serving by design attitude and actions. cruel and thoughtless people will find each other in the end and people wh always have deserved more than that will get no less you deserve more than a cruel and thoughtless woman could ever offer you in a relationship, feel blessed you arent with her now nor would be again,she has no thought of you in her head, let her go ....do not contact her...let her be less thought of in your mind so you can get more thought of in anothers mind who has the desire to think of you and no other........deb. Edited June 12, 2014 by todreaminblue
Alcatraz Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Those are awful things of her to say. Stay NC and one day soon you will come to resent her for saying such things. Stay strong!
April Moon Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Hi Op! Why would you want to continue contact with her? Are you hoping to be with her again?
Griesfootball Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 From what I've seen when people break no contact they usually find out something they didn't want to hear and wouldn't have if they stuck to it. Also you never know what she really feels some of those things she may just say to try to make it seem like she is recovering faster than you
PhillyConnection23 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 HELL NO!!!!!!!!! Wow, what an EVIL BITCH!!! Hahaha. Couldn't have said it better! Normally I'm all for the possibility of reconciling and having hope for a future together but this woman sounds sadistic. This is the type of relationship you learn from and by that I mean, you realize who the crazies are and keep your freaking distance.
KaliLove Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Me and my ex girlfriend were together a little under a year. I truly loved her, and we had ALOT of fun together. Unfortunately, she started to become dishonest, mainly about talking to ex boyfriends, and male co-workers, who obviously has an interest in her. I'll be honest, the last few months of the relationship were very rocky, filled with breaking up and making up...lots of things were said, and not many were nice. She finally told me " it's over, we're done, do whatever it is you need to do to get over me, I dont care if you cry in your pillow " Long story short, after a month of NC-she texted about the car she co-signed for me, after I responded, I started to casually text her, and believe it or not she would respond-she even would call me for a few minutes-so I thought MAYBE, there's a chance we could reconcile. Well, here's the bombshell. She's been dating a guy for about 2 months, told me he has a great job, and a house. She also told she's going to Florida with him, and that they have great sex. She then went on to say, she never loved me, I was only a distraction, and it was clear, that I cared for her more than she cared for me. She also said she wants me out of her life completely, and she never thinks about me. So, she went from being quite receptive to my texts, to calling me, to all of the sudden admitting she never loved me. I haven't dated anyone since her, and I dont know long it will be until I do. Is there any point in continuing to contact her? Only if you're a masochist...ouch! What a c u next Tuesday!! 3
destroyed4sho Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Why would you want to contact her again? Are you sadistic? Do you want to be consistently tortured by her boasting about her new man or that you meant nothing to her? I would do NC indefinitely. You deserve better than that = someone who has feelings! 1
JoeFallkon Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Shes just trying to get her ego boost. dont ever respond. you will see she ll start wondering what ever happened to you. And she ll ask about you. and when she does keep no contact. even if she says hurtful shoit, dont respond. Sometimes they just want to know youre still there.
loversquarrel Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 Don't talk to her, she's not worth your time. She isn't all that bright, after all she's being mean to someone she co-signed a loan for??? Ha! Stop making your car payments and dump on her credit rating - joke's on her!! 1
lolablue17 Posted June 13, 2014 Posted June 13, 2014 A girl who dump someone, and after the break up tell him about her great her guy, and how the sex is great with him, is wicked and evil. However if she adds that she never loved you and you were only a distraction, and it was clear, that you cared for her more than she cared for you - is a total devil in a mask of human being. Listen... You've been with her. you just dont remember how it's like to be with a decent normal girl. She is so ugly from the inside. I bet she regularly kicks small kittens on the streets... UGH!!!
sugarlove Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 Yuck so she has a habit of talking to her exes and then started talking to you again. Hmm, she seeks attention and love that she thinks she can tease guys in that way. She's so not worth your attention or time. You deserve better. 1
Sugarkane Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 I always wonder why these dumpers have no shame at all? I'd be embarrassed if I did this to someone. 1
Sugarkane Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 x1000. I wish I could've done something similar. Don't talk to her, she's not worth your time. She isn't all that bright, after all she's being mean to someone she co-signed a loan for??? Ha! Stop making your car payments and dump on her credit rating - joke's on her!!
redbaron005 Posted June 14, 2014 Posted June 14, 2014 HELL NO!!!!!!!!! Wow, what an EVIL BITCH!!! Seriously. My ex said a lot of the same 1 month post-BU, it hurts but that's probably the intention. She may or may not mean what she said, but clearly opted for the "hard landing" approach with hopes of making sure you didn't cling to her. Give her what she wants and stay away. Far away. 1
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