Mjm1014 Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Maybe it's all in my head but I met a girl on tinder a few weeks ago and last weekend was our first date. Up until that point she was talking to me a lot and seemed really interested. Our date when great - she was all smiles all night and we kissed at the end of the night. Even when I thought the kiss was over she grabbed me and kept wanting to kiss. Ever since that date I've had to initiate all of the calls/texts and she doesn't respond half the time..If she does its one word answers. We made plans to hang this weekend so I sent her a text this morning basically asking if we were still on but I get the vibe she isn't really feeling this..she responded with a long text basically saying I'm acting insecure asking her if she's still into me or not and that it's unattractive because we only hung out once and said it's because we are both busy (no sh*t but I'm confused)..she never got back to me when I offered up some plans. Should I just move on at this point? I really liked her but her attitude is kind of a turn off
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 You don't have to move on yet but you do have to back off. She has already told you that you are smothering her.
Gaeta Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 ................ and she doesn't respond half the time.. You never e v e r do that. You don't send a text or make a phone call when the previous one has not been replied yet. Your texts and phone calls do not auto destruct after 24 hours. They stay there, she saw them, she just chose to not deal with them. In that case you move along to someone else. 2
askmrknowitall Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 It could be exactly what she said, you are both very busy. But I don't think that's it. After all you haven't been to busy to call and text her. Keep in mind you and she did not have a relationship, she is just someone you met on the internet.That part of you she found interesting, so the two of you continued. You then talked on the phone, she didn't find anything wrong with the way you sounded, nor you she, so the two of you continued. Then you went out on a date, meaning you saw each other, how you were dressed, your manners at dinner, what you were driving etc. . It appears that something happened during or after the two of you saw each other which turn her off. Because the two of you hardly know each other she probably doesn't feel it's necessary to waste her time telling you that it was your brown shoes that turned her off, so that you will have closure. Just move on, she not interested, for whatever reason. Keep in mind that there are people on the net who from the beginning their purpose is to get someone to take them out on a date, they have no interest in anything beyond that. But if they said that, you wouldn't do it now would you. You just have to do the best you can to figure that out ahead of time.
Assasda Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 the fact is, you are insecure, and superneedy Needy beyond belief. If someone is not calling you, do not call them. What you can do is back off, stop trying to take up all her time and stop asking her insecure questions, and maybe she'll feel more comfortable to continue on with you
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