JessicaDanielleee Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 It's the first day of my break up. I was with him for a little over 2 years. We ended things over something so dumb and small & I feel like he ended things out of anger. (He's done this before). We've had plenty of little break ups that will only last a day or two but for the last couple of months I almost felt like he was going to end it & I was just waiting for it to happen. I think the last argument we had pushed him to do it but I don't know. I don't know anything he feels as he isn't really the type of person to open up about any negative feelings. Every other break up I always call him and cry and beg him to try again. I'm not doing it this time. Although it's hard to just not pick up the phone and call him. He was my best friend & we did absolutely everything together. So it's going to be hard to adjust to the change but I want to do it. I don't want things to be fixed between us, I want myself to be fixed. I am a mess right now. & I don't know how to deal with this pain. Can anyone offer some tips or help on how to keep my mind off things?
Chi townD Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Yeah, you need to keep busy. EXTREMELY BUSY! You need to block him on Facebook. You need to delete him off of every social media you have. Hard part for you is he's expecting you to call in a day or two because that's how you operated in the past. Once he realizes you're gone, he's going to come sniffing around and sending you some breadcrumbs in the form of a text or maybe a phonecall. You need to ignore them all! As of right now, he is not your boyfriend or even friend for that matter. IGNORE IT ALL!!!! DO NOT RESPOIND!!! If it happens post here instead. 1
Author JessicaDanielleee Posted June 12, 2014 Author Posted June 12, 2014 That's exactly what I was thinking. I was wondering if I should change my number so if he does decide to contact me, I wouldn't have the urge to reply or answer. I asked some other people this question and they all said it's not going to change anything because I'll probably be the one to give him my number in a desperate moment. I'm so confused. I don't want anything to do with him & I feel like if he calls me, I'll be too weak to avoid it.
biddybud Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Oh sweets I really feel for you. I've just had my heart slammed into a million pieces (I say just was over a month ago now!) But yes, getting a new number is the best thing. I had to go to the extent of getting a new phone as for some weird reason my phone managed to store his number even when I deleted it, which sucked. If you get the urge to contact him, come on here instead, post on this thread and people will respond. Wanting to contact him is entirely natural, we all do it and if you slip and do it, don't beat yourself up for it. bet just remember that it will set you back after the initial buzz and adrenaline wears off and you either get a response and it's cold or you don;t get one and are waiting in limbo to hear back. Read all the threads, they've helped me out so much. You can do this :-)
ktya Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 Can anyone offer some tips or help on how to keep my mind off things? Best way to get out of a relationship is to get under someone else. Find some guy for a casual fling. If you cant do one nighters find someone regular but keep it casual and if you get too attached pull away. After that start dating again.
d0nnivain Posted June 12, 2014 Posted June 12, 2014 If today is day one you give yourself some time to grieve & wallow. Plan a weekend of drowning your sorrows. My preferred method was ice cream. A few drinks wouldn't be the most terrible thing. By Monday however, you have to have a plan to move forward. It doesn't have to be drastic but no more climbing into a bottle. You can still enjoy comfort foods. Surround yourself with your BFFs. Lean on your family. Rearrange your living space. Get a hair cut. Get re-involved in your hobbies or take up a new one. The point is to keep busy.
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