cosa313 Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Its kinda of a crazy story so hopefully someone doesn't judge me by it and can help..... My girlfriend have known each other since we were 3. We have been really close friends our whole lives and didn't start dating until 2 years ago. She's been chasing me for years now and I just never gave her the chance. I've made some bad decisions and wound up on probation. I've been going to jail quite frequently for violations such as not checking in and drug use. My girlfriend and I got into heroin. Now we lost a baby together and have been through a lot but we always stayed positive and very close. We finish each others sentences and always make each other smile, it was a perfect relationship except for the drugs! I just recently did 5 months in jail and right before I was incarcerated we were into the stuff pretty heavy. We lived in las Vegas but got stuck in PA because that's where my probation is. Her family gave up and so did mine so she had no help. She moved in with our drug dealer shortly after I went to jail. At first she lied to me about staying there but soon came comfortable with telling me. I know this man, he was my friend but I knew what he did to females. He would use them to run his dope and sleep with them. She swear this never happened but every time I brought it up she defended him and got angry at me for even thinking of such a thing, she says she not into black guys but I'm Puerto Rican, she started selling drugs for him just like I thought she would. He was giving her free stuff and buying her things also! She got her stuff together and now has had 3 jobs for a couple months and we live with her parents. Since coming home though it seems like she doesn't wanna have sex with me anymore which is strange because we were always very intimate. She says she has an infection like a yeast infection but different so I asked her for the name of it and she says she doesn't remember it. She takes no medication either. We have had sex but things have changed. She likes it a different way now. She used to hate me rubbing her and now that's all that works. Also she yells at me constantly. Telling me to man up and quit being a bitch about things. She finds things to complain about. Yet her parents swear they have not seen her with anyone and they pay close attention to he, to the point they were taking her to work. She has new friends but I've seen text messages and heard phone calls, she is not lying about that. She works at a night club and just recently told me she showed her boobs for a T-shirt which is not her she is self conscious. Am I just bored and reading into things too much. Is she maybe just under stress? I'm confused and could use some insight. Also, she's always been very hard to deal with. She's a hard person. She's all or nothing and a " I'll do as I please" kind of person which makes it hard to understand what's going on. Than to anyone and everyone who helps!
Assasda Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Its because you guys were high on drugs for so long. You were codependent on each other for drugs. Then when you get off the drugs, you find out what type of people you really are. Thats the type of person she is. I hope you guys stay sober
Author cosa313 Posted June 11, 2014 Author Posted June 11, 2014 So you think that maybe she didn't cheat?
Gaeta Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 You know too well what a person could do to get their fix. If you put it all together, she lived with her dealer, she is an addict, she is no more interested in you sexually, she has developed different sexual preferences while you were absent. I think it's not so far fetch to think she was sleeping with this dealer. That being said, I think you have bigger issues to look into than this woman. She has nothing to offer you at this moment. It's time you fly on your own and work on getting your life back on track. 1
d0nnivain Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 She probably cheated. You are never going to get your life straightened out if you stay with somebody who remains on a path of self destruction. Walk away.
beach Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 So you think that maybe she didn't cheat? Sure she cheated. Drug users lie, cheat and steal. She's stealing your peace of mind right now, eh? Drugs make people do all kinds of awful things. I hope you will stay clean. Are you clean now? What are YOU ca timely doing to change EVERYTHING about your life?
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