marycc Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 We have been dating for almost 6 months and things are going well between us. However, there's something that I've been noticing lately... My boyfriend is constantly, CONSTANTLY, telling me he loves me and when we are apart he's always telling me how he wished he could be next to me. Also, he always says the exact same words: "I loooooove you!", "I wish I could be with you now", "I want to fill you with kisses". I know I should be happy that he seems to like me so much, and at the begining I would, but now I can't help but think that he's being "fake", saying that without no meaning. For example, in 1 hour he can repeat the same thing 2 or 3 times... It has been happening more now that we are studying for finals, sometimes I think that he doesn't know what to say (when we are studying, for example) and he decides to repeat the same old sayings, and it's always the exact same words. Sometimes I think what if he did something wrong and now he keeps telling me that so he can make sure he keeps me around/feels better about himself... It's not that I want him to stop telling me he loves, it's just that he is ALWAYS telling me that. Basically I'd like to know if you guys think this is "normal" and I'm over-analyzing this (probably due to my low self-esteem I doubt he's being true, i don't know), or is this strange?
DArtagnan2 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I dont know really. He may not know what else to say at the moment or he is not that experienced in dating or being serious with someone so he doesn't know what to say after those words came out or he thinks thats the only thing he has to say. I don't know and really wouldn't even worry about that. I'd worry about the fact you are annoyed with it and the way you think. Maybe its not the kind of relationship you are looking for.
d0nnivain Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Do you say it back? he could be looking for reassurance if you don't. Some people are simply more verbal. I say loving stuff more than my husband does.
jen_r Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 My boyfriend does the SAME thing. I wish I could show you the texts lol. He says he loves me about 20 times a day, no joke. We barely text about anything else other than him saying he misses me, wants to see me, loves me, wants me etc. I get a little annoyed with him over it and usually just say "alright babe, i get it." But, he still does it. I get how you think its "fake", more like meaningless because he just says it so often. I've actually mentioned this to my bf...but I have realized he is just realllllly lovey and loves love. I think he becomes infatuated with his girlfriends - as much as it is annoying sometimes, I think back to my ex and how he rarely showed me love -so I'm taking it! hahah
Assasda Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Saying "I love you" all the time makes its meaningless. If he says it all the time, it doesnt mean anything. Anyway he might be saying it to cover up some insecurity that he has about himself. Whatever it is, Its not attractive 1
Snakechammah Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Actions speak louder than words. When you are with him, do you feel that he truly loves you? My boyfriends says it to me all the time too, and I do as well. Between us, we say it every morning when we wake up, before we go to bed, and all the time in between. It comes naturally for us. I know he loves me not through these words, but his actions of prioritizing me and making me feel valued as a girlfriend. So if your boyfriend says a million 'I love yous', it should be an emphasis to what he is already doing to show it!
Diabloterr Posted June 11, 2014 Posted June 11, 2014 Saying something 1000 times is not nearly as impressive as living through it once. His actions will overtime speak volumes to how he truly feels about you.
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