ashy555 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Do any of you have snapchat? I am not sure what to do as yesterday I had a stranger add me... I was curious, so I accepted and got a snap from him some hours later. I opened it to find a man sitting in front of a massive computer screen with my face blown up in different tabs all over while masturbating:sick::sick: He even went as far as to find a blonde girl who looks like me on a porn website who is giving oral. I don't know who he is or how he found me(can only see his thighs and genitals) I got a screenshot and cannot even stand to look at it. I didn't say anything to this person, just blocked him straight away. I changed all my privacy settings on Facebook and Instagram so that absolutely nothing could be seen in public. I have also gone and filtered through my friends. It gave me a hell of a fright. I had a very sleepless night as i was scared that this person knows where I live. I just don't know how he got my snapchat and my photos and I am worried I have someone obsessing over me. I am quite embarrassed about the whole situation so have only told a few friends. Do you think I should just leave it for now unless more strange things start happening? I feel like nauseated just thinking about it :sick::sick: Btw I am 24yo not a teenager.
Snakechammah Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I'm so sorry to hear this! This is indeed very scary and disgusting! Who would have done this? Do you have any enemies? Tt doesnt have to be a guy, could also be a girl, a colleague, a relative, I dunno.. anyone!... who could hold a grudge against you and set up something like this... or worse, it could really be a psycho stalking you. The alarming thing is how PERSONAL this is. He got ahold of your pictures and this was truly intended for you. Please check your back mirrors and be extra vigilant. Tell your parents, most trusted friends, siblings, boyfriend, a person with authority, anyone trustworthy. Make sure they know your whereabouts and be contactable at all times. Are there any identifying marks in the picture? Like whose room, whose house, landmarks through the window, furniture, any telltale sign? If you can zoom into the picture, what kind of computer he is using? Find anything. My instinct would be to study the psycho. Right now, he has power over you (instilling fear) because he thinks he is anonymous. But if you research deep enough, and fight him back intellectually and find out his identity, you can nail this fear in the butt. With an identity, you can do many things to eliminate this threat (him or what he is doing). Right now, the only thing you can do is protect yourself but the threat still lingers. Stay safe. The movie 'Gone' starring Amanda Seyfried comes to mind. Take care!
lollipopspot Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 This is definitely scary - and it's meant to be. If he just wanted to attack you straight off, he would have done it. Instead he's playing with you - he wants to let you KNOW that you're being watched to freak you out. There may or may not be a follow up. Go down to your police department and see if they can give you any advice. They probably won't devote any resources to it, but may be able to walk you through how best to keep yourself safe (one hopes - there is a mishmash of training and care among officers I have found). I don't know anything about Snapchat and if there is any way to investigate the source of something like this - find out! It's a waste of your time, and it's really unfortunate some ******* men seem to want to make the lives of random women hell - I've known a number of women who were stalked, including me - but do everything you can to take your power back from this. It's meant to scare - that's part of his game. Get yourself some bear mace (let me say that should never be used on bears - they're just existing in their own environment that we're invading). Look into a self defense class, and making sure your environment is secure. Do you know where the picture he had is from - do you recognize it? Did you post it somewhere? 1
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I know my daughters have snap chat i think or somwe instant thing....they would have told me if they had experienced this without a doubt in my mind, i was abused as a child i wotn let that eb them,, my second youngest daughter she is 17 this year instantly reports any disgusting porn on facebook that pops up anything abusive towards another also like child abuse....so she told me of all the ones she has reported and she waits for them to take it down, she started to tell em about a girl who has sex with a dog after superbowl because her team lost and then another a girl eating a tampon ...and i started to retch so she stopped i got the image,she then said dont worry mum, ill stop , because i nearly hurled my eyes watered, its fake maybe my daughter is mentally impaired but is smart enough to know right from wrong and do something about it...obviously that guy doesnt or really doesnt care who snap chatted you, cant you report him, there has to be code of conduct doesnt there? My girls normally follow code of behavior my girls however tend to eb a littl ewhite knightish towards others and jump in on fights like their rmum......so their has to be one for snap chat....should research it....i dont have snapchat or would want it anyway....i wish for you resolution it was abusive and should be illegal.....deb
Trimmer Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 This is a minor point, and doesn't really address your bigger issue, but if you have the lastest update for Snapchat, there is now a "Replay" function, which lets you replay ONE snapchat per day, one time. The sender doesn't have any control over this, and cannot enable or block it - it is completely under your control. The thing is, you have to turn it on first before it will work. If you want to set this up, within Snapchat, go to "Settings," then "Additional Services, Manage", then within this window, enable "Replay". After this, once per day, you can pick a snapchat to replay - i.e. if you want/need to show something to the police or whatever. Just a small point, but if it might help...
Haydn Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Its probably someone you know. Go to the police. Tell them what you told us. Be vigilant but don't be intimidated.
janedoe67 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 All very good pieces of advice. If you still have tge invite or his user info, you can probably get his IP address. From there getting a name and address isn't too hard. Then you can get all sorts of info. In addition to the police route, document for possible civil action. Turn the tables and become an expert on him. It might come in handy. I have learned the hard way being nice or being afraid doesn't work. Be ruthless. 1
clia Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Do any of you have snapchat? I am not sure what to do as yesterday I had a stranger add me... I was curious, so I accepted and got a snap from him some hours later. I opened it to find a man sitting in front of a massive computer screen with my face blown up in different tabs all over while masturbating:sick::sick: He even went as far as to find a blonde girl who looks like me on a porn website who is giving oral. I don't know who he is or how he found me(can only see his thighs and genitals) I got a screenshot and cannot even stand to look at it. I didn't say anything to this person, just blocked him straight away. I changed all my privacy settings on Facebook and Instagram so that absolutely nothing could be seen in public. I have also gone and filtered through my friends. It gave me a hell of a fright. I had a very sleepless night as i was scared that this person knows where I live. I just don't know how he got my snapchat and my photos and I am worried I have someone obsessing over me. I am quite embarrassed about the whole situation so have only told a few friends. Do you think I should just leave it for now unless more strange things start happening? I feel like nauseated just thinking about it :sick::sick: Btw I am 24yo not a teenager. With all the social media, it's extremely easy to find people on the Internet, especially when they don't bother with privacy settings. Do you know where the pictures that he had of you came from? Were they posted on Instagram or Facebook? Were your privacy settings set to public before you changed them? If so, everything you post is available to anyone -- even creepy guys like him. There could be lots of guys out there beating off to your pictures; you just don't know it. While I agree this is disturbing, what claim do you all think she has against him at this point? She accepted his snapchat request, he's in the privacy of his own home with photos he probably found on the Internet? He hasn't tried to contact her otherwise, at as of yet. It couldn't hurt to try to find out who he is, if you are able, but other than that I'm not sure there is much you can do at this point.
XTiffanyX Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Wow, thats crazy. Im sorry to hear of your ordeal , it must be really scary. First and foremost you should alert any immediate friends , family and your boss of the recent events just to make sure that everyone is aware of you situation in case you are in any danger. You should document anything you receive from this person and report it to the policy. Stay Safe.
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