Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I haven't had a boat load of experience with guys but just wondering does EVERYONE get afraid of a new potential relationship? Fear of change? Of the unknown? Because I've only had one boyfriend more than a decade ago i was just wondering weather or not you've had loads of significant others or one, is dating someone new always scary or is it going to be scarier if someone hasn't had a boyfriend in a long, long time? I'm dating someone for the first time in 11 years. Wondering if it's normal to flip out from time to time
Assasda Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I dont understand being scared. Being excited about meeting someone new sounds normal. Being scared, sounds like youre just afraid of life in general
jbelle6 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I haven't had a boat load of experience with guys but just wondering does EVERYONE get afraid of a new potential relationship? Fear of change? Of the unknown? Because I've only had one boyfriend more than a decade ago i was just wondering weather or not you've had loads of significant others or one, is dating someone new always scary or is it going to be scarier if someone hasn't had a boyfriend in a long, long time? I'm dating someone for the first time in 11 years. Wondering if it's normal to flip out from time to time Not at all, it's normal to be nervous. Doesn't mean you aren't excited and doesn't mean you aren't out living life because you are going. Just have to manage that feeling. I think it will go away a bit once you've dated a bit more. I can be shy meeting new people as well.
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I haven't had a boat load of experience with guys but just wondering does EVERYONE get afraid of a new potential relationship? Fear of change? Of the unknown? Because I've only had one boyfriend more than a decade ago i was just wondering weather or not you've had loads of significant others or one, is dating someone new always scary or is it going to be scarier if someone hasn't had a boyfriend in a long, long time? I'm dating someone for the first time in 11 years. Wondering if it's normal to flip out from time to time yes it is normal and if you didnt flip out and were apthetic abotu it it means that it isn't a relationship time for you thats not a time if you dont fear and feel just apathy, because fear is where faith is held paramount and up front when you have doubt you have to break through with faith which i always do , i go in no parachute and i have faith, god has a trampoline for me to land on, for god so loved the world attitude..god will guide and sustain me in failure and success he gave his son so i might have happiness eternally so if he has someone in mind for me ill trust that ill meet and know him soon, better yet that guy will seek me out,... if the guy leaves or isnt interested in being with me,my heart and soul all i have goes into the effort so it is going to surely hurt em to have an ending of a hoped for investment for me to find complete happiness.......they have all of me....needed to be this way for me to succeed there are no half measures for successful unions its all or nothing with black and white no grey or colors thereof.......apathy is nothing.i have a desire for a guy who can parachute with faith not material things like a parachute thats cheating and who isnt apathetic about me but fears just as much as i do about losing out on them and then that guy i am with...just jumps anyway we jump together .....the rest is for gods knowledge not mine ill find out when it happens.......deb 1
SpiralOut Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well I sure hope it's normal because I've started seeing someone and I like him and he seems super into me and it is freaking me out. 1
SpiralOut Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 You should read the book Women Who Run with the Wolves. There is a chapter that talks about Skeleton Woman. It describes how we feel when we fall in love. Reading it makes me feel validated.
littleplanet Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I haven't had a boat load of experience with guys but just wondering does EVERYONE get afraid of a new potential relationship? Fear of change? Of the unknown? Because I've only had one boyfriend more than a decade ago i was just wondering weather or not you've had loads of significant others or one, is dating someone new always scary or is it going to be scarier if someone hasn't had a boyfriend in a long, long time? I'm dating someone for the first time in 11 years. Wondering if it's normal to flip out from time to time Well OP, It could have a lot to do with the lack of that boatload of experience. Dating for the first time in 11 years is bound to make someone feel a little tentative. Because it is change, and sort of an unknown, too. (You can forget a lot in 11 years!) But try not to put so much pressure on yourself.....go easy. Whatever the reason you've been away from it for so long - your date should be someone capable of being sensitive to and understanding of that. I think if I'd gone 11 years......I'd be inclined to feel a little flipped out by it too (and I'm Mr Smoothy) 1
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well OP, It could have a lot to do with the lack of that boatload of experience. Dating for the first time in 11 years is bound to make someone feel a little tentative. Because it is change, and sort of an unknown, too. (You can forget a lot in 11 years!) But try not to put so much pressure on yourself.....go easy. Whatever the reason you've been away from it for so long - your date should be someone capable of being sensitive to and understanding of that. I think if I'd gone 11 years......I'd be inclined to feel a little flipped out by it too (and I'm Mr Smoothy) not so elliptical this time but so true little planet......just love your insights so warm and true....hugs....... deb
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Thanks guys It's a little embarrasing being a single woman for so long. He was surprised, only because he thinks I'm beautiful & he's surprised I'm not married yet. I guess to most people lack of experience is very unattractive & not cute @ 30. But he surprisingly thinks it is & finds it different & refreshing. Surprisingly, that makes me feel a little more embarrassed. I'm pretty hard on myself but flipping out is a sign of embarking into the unknown & I'm quite surprised that he's more relaxed about than I am. And whoever said a bit of flipping out is normal I agree with. For anyone at any level.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 I cant say i have i was born september and he in october but a he was born a year ahead. So similar age i guess. He's like 11 months older. I'm not an astrology person. I'm a commited christian so I'm not into it per say. I do like trying to figure out the tea cup & southern cross etc... lol
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Thanks guys It's a little embarrasing being a single woman for so long. He was surprised, only because he thinks I'm beautiful & he's surprised I'm not married yet. I guess to most people lack of experience is very unattractive & not cute @ 30. But he surprisingly thinks it is & finds it different & refreshing. Surprisingly, that makes me feel a little more embarrassed. I'm pretty hard on myself but flipping out is a sign of embarking into the unknown & I'm quite surprised that he's more relaxed about than I am. And whoever said a bit of flipping out is normal I agree with. For anyone at any level. lol crap only thirty and not married....i am 45 never married dont feel bad at all.....dont flip...skip...skippings fun if you add music and are actually coordinated...i am not coordinated so i dance instead...... 1
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 All it is is something new and different. That's why it's scary. I think if we alm had great skills at relationships we either would do them.perfectly or have no need for theom at all.
Author Daisy-oliviaWentcher Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Todreaminblue curious? Aussie or Kiwi? Or belly dance! Started lessons! Very cool!
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) Todreaminblue curious? Aussie or Kiwi? Or belly dance! Started lessons! Very cool! i have adopted some kiwi girls to my family, they call me mum so ill claim them, and i am a do or die aussie i dreamt of being a polynesian once, in high school even dressed as one in the dress as a p word dance..everyone were proistitutes or pimps, pincesses or princes i came as a polynesian and no one got me in my bright silkty long orange islander dress....even when i danced like one..small country town ignorance abotu the worl din general and dislike of me........lol...smilin all aussie though mate.....hugses with vegemite attached.oooh belly dance yes have always wanted to ,ill come ill come....pick me up...lol..... i was thinking of doing a rap hip hop class for oldies though......i dont have a wheel chair yet but i can pop and lock sitting down the dougie in other words...like this ... when i lose weight ill be doin the turtle move and head spin...kidding on the head spin but i will be extremely fast on fusion and integrating floor to head high movement....you could belly dance to this song dark horse it has hip shimmy capabilities you could fusion it to another type of dance as well...talking about dance gets me excited my arms to sore tonight ...cant go out and get my fix.....i am gonna though gonna set the night alight......some time soon dencorub for now...........smilin...deb Edited June 10, 2014 by todreaminblue
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) thats it going to a local hotel friday night i am going to drink water all night and dance my ass off by myself....woot woot...cant wait arm heal please...... belly dance fusion yep its been done and youtubed.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5Gqxmwgyto lol i already do some of the moves......easy as Edited June 10, 2014 by todreaminblue
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