nofeelings22 Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 So this girl I've been seeing just said she loves me. She fell while we were talking via text before meeting. Weeks ago. We had a hell of a first date. 2 days together, 2 rounds of sex, lots of talking and fun. She is coming back for the whole summer for work. I genuinely felt all the butterflies, infatuation, lovedv the kissing. I had a huge feeling for her too, but now that she isn't here, I am talking to other girls and am losing that little spark. What the hell is love????? I think I had it with my ex wife at the point she bailed. But maybe not. I'm scared to make any moves with this new girl. She is a wonderful, wonderful person. I don't want to mess up and hurt her. She fell badly. I'm not going to be falling as fast, I don't think, plus, I don't even know what love is. :/ I like her. Enjoy spending time with her. Had great physical. We are like twins the way we think. Then there is a race thing. She is like all kinds of races in one. Kind of dark, but in a super sexy way. However, I wonder if together, me, a very white guy and her a whatever mix, will be good? Then, there is an age thing. We are 14 years apart. She is super mature and I'm super immature, so we meet in the middle. I know there areba lot of angry people on here who discriminate against inter-age relationships, so please try to overlook our decision to see each other. I prefer younger, she prefers older. Should I tell this girl I love her? I honestly don't know exactly what love is, so it's hard to say it. Didn't see any of this coming. Was just trying to get back to normal again after a divorce. You'd think this stuff would get easier as you get older!!
Assasda Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 why would you tell a girl that you dont love, that you love her. I dont know what other advice youre seeking Keep doing what youre doing 1
umirano Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 I've been with more girls outside my own race than within. Hasn't been a problem so far. Mentalities / character is more important than race. If you end up having kids genetic diversification should benefit them. A study that I do not have at hand right now shows that the further parents are apart (genetically) the more robust against diseases and the taller the offspring is (in humans). If you don't "know what love is" you aren't in love with her, I'd say. Thus you shouldn't tell her you're in love. How much time did you spend with her? Maybe it's taking you some more time. 2
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) what is love the making of by divine means hearts the breaking of hearts by human touch the taking of hearts by thoughtlessness of other human imperfect hearts who do not know that love is a gift given to a heart to survive in a union of solidarity and respect for each other.... a child comes up to you unsure uncertain, and holds her hand out and says take my heart i want to give it to you here it is i am sorry its a bit dirty i dropped it in the playground when i was only little, when this boy hurt my feelings.But i want you to have it please take it with love in your own heart that you have for me....thats pure love now is it love, if you don't see the girl child's heart as spotless and beautiful and desire to have such a heart in your life that is gifted to you so innocently and with hopes of a girl who dreamt hard about getting a gift of love herself who grew into her body and woman hood gracefully with forgiveness through all the heartache....all you see are the spots and grass and dirt then you think do i really love it nah .....i can do better maybe what is love anyway to know love....you have to be able to understand that all of us are chiildren at heart including you, dont damage children and you will not have your own heart damaged in the future or live in regret of hurting someone who could have found a love but not with you like yoru ex wife wil regret and feel guilt.... dont repeat what you know destroys another...... say no child(insert name here).....that heart is not for me, i am honored to have been considered but that love of yours is for someone who is much more able to take care of a heart such as yours...actually dont say that you will prbably get ridiculed thats my hearts voice from the naughty corner i turned her around so i wll continue writing......just say im sorry i dont beleive i love you back, i dotn even know what love is, its isnt right for us to be together i wish you many loves and much happiness always, you will always have more than i ever could so i want you to have that.... my ex told me once after we had split he was honored that i loved him he said that to the child in me....i will always care for him,,,,because he often talked straight to my heart......i am maudlin now , the child in me turns around and gives me baleful looks gonna go read her a story about a sparrow and a flight in winter that ended .o rknock her out with meds that fixes everything says the doctor to the fly......deb Edited June 10, 2014 by todreaminblue 1
Author nofeelings22 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) Hey, sorry the post was so out of order and made no sense. Literally, that's how confused I am. Here I am trying to move on and start new meaningful beginnings and I swear I don't know what love is. There's no way to fix that, is there? It's like i enjoy the challenge of getting girls interested, then when I get somewhere, I am either psyching myself out or chickening out. I assume this is some kind of cowardly reaction I'm having so I don't get hurt or put my heart out there. Damn, I'm broken. :/ Thanks for the input. I guess I'll tell her it takes me a little longer? I don't want to stop seeing her. We have fun, we are close, we share a lot of interests and she would make a great partner. Very,very cool chick too. Open minded. Yet, I have a problem inside. Not sure if I have ever been in love. Maybe I have. Who knows. But if I'm not sure what it is, how can I know if I'm in it? Think I better read To dream in blue's post again... Edited June 10, 2014 by nofeelings22
Author nofeelings22 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Now wait a second... I do feel like this... "if you don't see the girl child's heart as spotless and beautiful and desire to have such a heart in your life that is gifted to you so innocently and with hopes of a girl who dreamt hard about getting a gift of love herself who grew into her body and woman hood gracefully with forgiveness through all the heartache" She is really, really special as a person. We click. I could be happy with just her and her presence makes me feel amazing. She is pure, undamaged and refreshingly sane after my ex. Very well put together. Emotionally mature. Kind of perfect. But I also thought my ex wife was perfect. Turns out Iwas pretty off about that. lol Hmmmm..... Very, very confusing. I guess I'll stumble my way through.
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 (edited) Hey, sorry the post was so out of order and made no sense. Literally, that's how confused I am. Here I am trying to move on and start new meaningful beginnings and I swear I don't know what love is. There's no way to fix that, is there? It's like i enjoy the challenge of getting girls interested, then when I get somewhere, I am either psyching myself out or chickening out. I assume this is some kind of cowardly reaction I'm having so I don't get hurt or put my heart out there. Damn, I'm broken. :/ Thanks for the input. I guess I'll tell her it takes me a little longer? I don't want to stop seeing her. We have fun, we are close, we share a lot of interests and she would make a great partner. Very,very cool chick too. Open minded. Yet, I have a problem inside. Not sure if I have ever been in love. Maybe I have. Who knows. But if I'm not sure what it is, how can I know if I'm in it? Think I better read To dream in blue's post again... when you are in it you will know because over fear you put the child's heart out in front scared of getting that child hurt, you sacrifice your own trepidation in other words for another, done it all my life sick of it today sacrificing a hearts feelings for another so i am taking my heart dancing to rediscover a love we both share i dotn share the love she has fro another i think he actually often sucks.........i just wanna dance,my heart is an awesome dancer, unfortunately guys like that groover heart....not the one she likes though and men are plenty ...i wait for no man i chase no man...ill dance instead and share that love with another...my heart in other words...........an ignorant guy is not and arent worthy for me too wait or worthy of this heart...and i am not up myself....i just dont simper after men or am I child myself..and my loyalty is reserved fro a man who knows hsi own heart and isnt afraid or feminine by design or nature more so than me...thats just wrong............and that is what you as a man have to think about carefully, no great love deserves a moments hesitation ...moments are fleeting.....so commit to try....its liek a dance you commit to mvoe make th emove dotn stand there worried abotu breaking a leg....... or walk away and sigh at what if.....be a soldier about it.....women appreciate strength of conviction in men... a heart can be healed and can be broken and all you need is the fortitude to try ...if it gets broken so be it i get pissed at my heart when its broken again, really pissed it saps my motivation to dance....and then i get angry at the deliver of said brokenness..i am not as forgiving....but to know love for the first time, is not something you will ever forget, so allow yourself to feel it and if you cant feel it and you will know it dance and discover happiness in your own self with whatever that dance may be......god creates dancers for a reason.....to protect a heart in fragility....the best dancers love to dance, never dance to love another................and dance is relative to what you are passionate about.... Edited June 10, 2014 by todreaminblue
umirano Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Well you appreciate her traits a lot. It sounds like you do love her. I mean, you don't have to specify how exactly you love her. You love her ways and her looks and her interaction with you. That is enough to start a RS IMO. If she asks you can always specify and then it's up to her to decide whether that's enough for her. Btw, I don't really know what love is either and I doubt anyone does, and even can. I find it a useful "idea", but I don't see a logical definition of it. People can give uncounted examples of what it's like to be in a "loving RS", what someone looks or feels like if he's in love, etc. But all those examples do not define what love is at the core, they just describe how we can perceive it. But for our day to day experience it doesn't really matter. Find out how she feels about you, if you care, and give her true and honest accounts of how you feel about her, if she cares to know. Otherwise do what makes you feel good. If you like being in a RS with her, tell her so. 1
todreaminblue Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 Now wait a second... I do feel like this... "if you don't see the girl child's heart as spotless and beautiful and desire to have such a heart in your life that is gifted to you so innocently and with hopes of a girl who dreamt hard about getting a gift of love herself who grew into her body and woman hood gracefully with forgiveness through all the heartache" She is really, really special as a person. We click. I could be happy with just her and her presence makes me feel amazing. She is pure, undamaged and refreshingly sane after my ex. Very well put together. Emotionally mature. Kind of perfect. But I also thought my ex wife was perfect. Turns out Iwas pretty off about that. lol Hmmmm..... Very, very confusing. I guess I'll stumble my way through. no single "woman" on earth is pure not yet anyway....if they tell you they are they speak crap......we are all sullied and imperfect due to sin, we all sin......if you think some one is perfect you are gonna end up biting dirt hard ...face plant ahead alert alert ...land mine present....trying to help here.........find the one who you can see flawed and imperfect and say hey i see the heart i see the flaws and i love her regardless....someone famous said once forgotten who, not that it matters its words but they are not my words.........keep it simple stupid aren't we all stupid sometimes ...so relate to that side and keep it simple and then you wotn eb stupid at all....smilin.......i o wish you the best i hope you find love...however harsh my words are....i am actually a good girl....at heart....;0)....just dont piss me off.....i can be known to kick ass as a mormon..kindness aint weakness now and i think as man you have gifts to take what i say with a grain of salt........salt o the earth.........toodles......smiling large night......deb
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