Alexjones1 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I am trying to get the engagement ring back and also get my phone of her cell contract and two other joint bills along with getting my things back. We have had no contact for about a month. She wanted "Space and time to think so she could come back to me and know what she could give me" Well I am reflected on the relationship and what I did wrong, learned from it and see its best we go separate ways. Because we both have done some things to hurt one another. I am able to forgive her, which i have done and forgive myself for what I did to her. So she is not responding to me about getting these loose ends tied up. I made one call, and left a message, also sent a text just saying this is all I would like to do. Still no reply. I cant figure it out, but this is part of me moving on and shes not letting me do that. damn women! Lol
Mr.Pine Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 So she is not responding to me about getting these loose ends tied up. I made one call, and left a message, also sent a text just saying this is all I would like to do. Still no reply. She's not replying because you're probably being all "miss you-hug you-kiss you" in your messages. You need to be professional and to the point. I went through a similar siutiuation with my ex when I moved out. 2 weeks after the BU and 2 weeks of NC, she emailed me, very briefly and succinctly. I responded. Business taken care of. When you ask for your ring back (I personally thing it's a gauche thing to do; she should have offered it back immediately if she was the one to do the dumping) be crystal clear and neutral. Pretend you're a lawyer sending her a letter of request. No emotion behind it. PM me and I will help you craft it. I'm good with crap like that.
Author Alexjones1 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 She's not replying because you're probably being all "miss you-hug you-kiss you" in your messages. You need to be professional and to the point. I went through a similar siutiuation with my ex when I moved out. 2 weeks after the BU and 2 weeks of NC, she emailed me, very briefly and succinctly. I responded. Business taken care of. When you ask for your ring back (I personally thing it's a gauche thing to do; she should have offered it back immediately if she was the one to do the dumping) be crystal clear and neutral. Pretend you're a lawyer sending her a letter of request. No emotion behind it. PM me and I will help you craft it. I'm good with crap like that. No there is no emotion behind it. She offered the ring back the last time we spoke, and then told me she wanted time and space.... I am actually not being all hug you kiss you.. lol strictly platonic. But send me a PM. thanks
Author Alexjones1 Posted June 10, 2014 Author Posted June 10, 2014 Alex, I tried, but was unable to. I think you need to be an established member in order to send/receive PMs. I may be wrong, but that's what it looks like. Guess you'll just have to post it here. You'll get truckloads of advice, I'm sure. Mr. Pine, Yes you are correct. I will have to do that soon. Thanks for your advice and input. I do know we all have feelings wether we are the dumper or dumpee. Some move on faster than the other and some respect the decision easier than others too. I am trying to move on, I feel that now she is the one not letting me go fully and shows me she has some emotional attachment still, I could be wrong, but knowing this person I have a hunch. Only time will tell. Its back to straight NC and some free cellular service. In my last message I told her I will wait 2 weeks to get the ring and if I dont have it back by then my attorney can handle the rest. Thanks
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