somewanderersarelost Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I've been out with a guy a few times, which has left me feeling sort of stuck, and I'd like some opinions on how to proceed. I met this dude through mutual friends. We talked for a bit, but he never seemed fully engaged (would sometimes not respond to text messages for days, wouldn't seem interested, etc). I just figured I wasn't something he wanted, so I gave up. He came around, though, and we ended up going out and having a great time. We went out again the following week and had a good time then, as well. After that second date, I texted him and asked if he wanted to go out that week. He said he was really busy with an upcoming trip and asked how my next week looked. I wrote back and said I was generally free and for him to let me know what works for him. That was almost a week ago, and I haven't heard from him at all. So, I get it. He's not into me. Fine. It sucks but such is life. My problem is that this upcoming weekend is a big one for me and my friends. I will definitely see him at some point, probably more than once, and I'm unsure how to act when I see him. Should I just pretend like nothing happened? The last thing I want to do is create some dramatic atmosphere. I really just want to have fun with my friends, but I will admit I will be uneasy around him. I appreciate any insight / thoughts / comments.
mytiger22 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Depending on what he does for work, he could possibly be extremely tied up in that aspect of his life. I have a couple guy friends that find it difficult to date because their priority is work. Not always a bad thing, it shows that they are working towards goals they have set in life. Alternatively, it could also be that maybe he is dating around too, and is going out with other women. It could also be that maybe he wasn't that into you. I'm not quite sure that that is the case, because he went out on a second date with you. Most men know within the first 15 minutes of a first date, whether or not they like the girl and are interested. If you do see him out this weekend. Just act like it doesn't bother you that he hasn't gotten back to you yet. Just act like he is an old friend you haven't seen in awhile, ask him how things have been going for him etc etc. Just make it an everyday conversation. Do not ignore him, that will make it awkward. I mean, you guys have only been on 2 dates, unless you have fallen head over heels for this guy, there shouldn't be much of an issue. Just relax. Guys find it much more attractive to see a woman that is in control of her emotions, doesn't get crazy when they don't hear back from them right away, and find it intriguing when they have that sort of "I don't care if you like me or not, I'm gonna do me and there are plenty more people out there that want me" kind of attitude. Not too cocky though lol.
mangetout Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Act like you don't care without looking like you do care. If you know what I mean. That will bruise his ego.
Eternal Sunshine Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 How would you act if he was some random guy you couldn't care less about? Do that.
ExpatInItaly Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Be cordial but don't go out of your way to talk to him. Say hello if necessary, and leave it at that. If he comes up with some BS "oh, I've been meaning to call you! Was so busy! Blah blah blah!"..take it with a grain of salt.
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