Ian Fleming Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 About 9 months ago I started going out with this girl who is my opposite in terms of color. I have jet black hair, brown eyes, and a middle eastern like skin tone (lets say olive). The girl has blonde hair, green eyes, and white skin with freckles. She's tall (5"10) while I am tall as well (6"2). She is outgoing and beautiful while I am outgoing and like to think of myself as attractive (I am ). She has an American accent that is sweet and sounds southern while I have a British accent due to spending most of my childhood in the UK. Now she was raised in a rich suburb and drives a nice car and I had somewhat of a similar upbringing too. She went to a private school while I went to a public school full of rich kids lol. In a few days she will be introducing me to her parents but I haven't asked this to her yet. What I have often heard from friends (who are minorities themselves) is that white parents from well off areas (suburbs and rich neighborhoods) do not tend to look at a guy from a minority background dating their daughter as a good thing. Now I have commonly heard this from my black friends but I have yet to hear any experiences when it involves white women with indian men because my girlfriend and I are the only couples I know who are like this. Am I worrying too much? Can anyone please share their experiences with this?
Bonnie Potter Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 About 9 months ago I started going out with this girl who is my opposite in terms of color. I have jet black hair, brown eyes, and a middle eastern like skin tone (lets say olive). The girl has blonde hair, green eyes, and white skin with freckles. She's tall (5"10) while I am tall as well (6"2). She is outgoing and beautiful while I am outgoing and like to think of myself as attractive (I am ). She has an American accent that is sweet and sounds southern while I have a British accent due to spending most of my childhood in the UK. Now she was raised in a rich suburb and drives a nice car and I had somewhat of a similar upbringing too. She went to a private school while I went to a public school full of rich kids lol. In a few days she will be introducing me to her parents but I haven't asked this to her yet. What I have often heard from friends (who are minorities themselves) is that white parents from well off areas (suburbs and rich neighborhoods) do not tend to look at a guy from a minority background dating their daughter as a good thing. Now I have commonly heard this from my black friends but I have yet to hear any experiences when it involves white women with indian men because my girlfriend and I are the only couples I know who are like this. Am I worrying too much? Can anyone please share their experiences with this? You probably are worrying too much. It is 2014! Just be yourself and they will love you for the man you are and not your color. 2
Assasda Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 You should start to worry so much, that when you meet her father, you totally throw up on him. Work yourself up into a nervous frenzy
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My step father was racist against black people, my family however is not and my mother has separated due to irreconcilable differences from my step father it is 2014 and racism is still here alive and kicking its dirty feet, it isnt a attitude that is defined by social or economic status.It is often inherent and is often i a learned attitude not a held belief that could ever be considered just.I have feelings for a man who is to me not definable, so therefore my family know i am often attracted to other races, when they asked me initially i had no idea where he was from, i do now and they support me whoever i date as long as the guy treats me right, i dont date races i date guys I feel you should talk to your gf she is the one to know how her family feels and if she knew they were the types to be crass, i doubt she would introduce you or let you meet them.My family respect me so therefore have to respect who i date regardless of how they feel, isnt my concern.If the guy is right for me and a good person they will warm to him regardless of what they initially feel anyway.My family like good people some times people have fixed ideas about others, luckily, getting to know a guy normally blows ideas that are not true right out of the water....so be confident and be yourself talk to your gf verify the family's stance on relationships such as yours.....good luck
Smthn_Like_Olivia Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 If she's not nervous about you meeting her parents, then you shouldn't be. I'd imagine she'd know how her folks feel about interracial dating. But discuss your concerns with her anyway and see what she says. 2
Do_The_Herp Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Just go for it, my man. Either they accept you, or not. If she still cares about you, it doesn't matter. What else can be done or said? 1
Do_The_Herp Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 it's black not african american NO, it's black american african, not african black or american african. GOD :mad:
todreaminblue Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 it's black not african american moot point he is of indian descent i believe
Author Ian Fleming Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 moot point he is of indian descent i believe and you are right
waiting4u Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 In the American south I think racism is more directed towards African-Americans and Latinos. Immigration is a huge issue there. I assume you aren't Muslim? There's a lot of bigotry regarding Muslims among Christian fundamentalists in America.
solway86 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I'm white, but I tend to lean towards women who are black, Indian, Indo-Caribbean etc. (not saying that I wouldn't date white women, I would) - but the nervous about meeting the parents for me would probably be about "will they like me" rather than "Is it because I'm white and they're XYZ?".
Ruby Slippers Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 If her parents are racist, there's nothing you can do about that. In that case, your girlfriend will have to make her own decision if they object to the union. Just be a gentleman, be friendly, and demonstrate that you're serious. That's really all you can do.
nofeelings22 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 (edited) Nobody dislikes Indians... well... except maybe some Pakistanis! You'll be fine. Your people are viewed as polite, nice, hard working and generally pleasant by everyone in the States. I'm racist, in the sense I will categorize a goup of people based on their culture. I was just thinking how awesome Indians were the other day after having had so many positive experiences with them lately, having had make out sessions with one and developing a love for chicken tikki masala that borders on obsession. Edited June 9, 2014 by nofeelings22
mrs rubble Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 I'm guessing that her parents would likely be concerned by your families Indian customs that may/may not affect their daughter.
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