Thewayitwas2 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 BF works with his ex. They have 1 child together. She's dating someone too. They've been divorced for years but they got back together briefly last year. Now that we are dating I told him I get jealous of some of his behavior. He's out to eat w single female tennis players.... Which is fine.. To a degree. But he spends a lot of time with his ex. He says it is for his child. But he constantly goes to her house to see him. Well just this weekend he had a tennis match. (Small league ) and the ex came with their son. Then I went to watch him today and I had to leave this evening. Now he says he's going to have dinner w ex and the boy again. His response was "wish I could be with you.." Is this excessive? I've already discussed this w him once.
Gaeta Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I thought we had went over this already? Ok so lets do this again. He is not over his ex, a child of 9 years old does not need his father to stay at his mom's house over night cause he wants dad to drive him to school, he gets to have his own room at his dad's house, especially if dad lives only 10 km away. That's what normal divorced people do. If your boyfriend does not make you feel beautiful and wanted then he should not be your boyfriend. How many times you need to hear it's not normal? It's not normal for him to stay over night there, go for dinner there, go to events and take pictures with her and put that on FB, not normal to have pictures of them on his mantel, not normal he sleeps in HER bed when she is away, not normal he takes pictures of her house and decoration and ask if you like that style...........did I forget something? Oh yeah, not normal that your boyfriend ignores everyone of your comment and constantly dismiss your feelings. Did I forget something? 2
MidwestUSA Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) Is this the bipolar drug addict? What happened? I thought you broke it off. Why are you doing this to yourself? He's not waving red flags; they're giant sails. Yes, Gaeta. You forgot the illness and addictions. But great memory! Edited June 9, 2014 by MidwestUSA
cif Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 My response about this issue in your other thread still stands. 2
Author Thewayitwas2 Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah it is totally my fault. He told me he loved me and I got reeled back in. As crazy as it sounds I think I fell in love w him. It's been 2 months but we became best friends. We have not slept together. It's been about friendship first. I so appreciate him and his values. As bad as some if this other stuff is ... He has turned a page. Back to making 900k a year. No drugs. And committed to finding love. The ex stuff sucks. But she has a bf so maybe I'm just too jealous. I dunno. But he says he loves me... And it isn't about sex.
MidwestUSA Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah it is totally my fault. He told me he loved me and I got reeled back in. As crazy as it sounds I think I fell in love w him. It's been 2 months but we became best friends. We have not slept together. It's been about friendship first. I so appreciate him and his values. As bad as some if this other stuff is ... He has turned a page. Back to making 900k a year. No drugs. And committed to finding love. The ex stuff sucks. But she has a bf so maybe I'm just too jealous. I dunno. But he says he loves me... And it isn't about sex. Well, heck! You didn't mention 900K/year before!
Author Thewayitwas2 Posted June 9, 2014 Author Posted June 9, 2014 Yeah but money is not everything. But who knows... The thing that continues to hold me is the fact that he isn't pressuring me to sleep w him. He truly seems to love me for me. It's weird, right? Almost makes me suspicious. But I mean how wrong can it be if we aren't doing that and still getting to know each other.
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