Lyn77 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 -----OK----- We've all been there. That moment when you realize you and your partner just can't "Be Together." I've had an on/off friendship/relationship/sex life with my guy friend for a while now. *I know it's time to move on* I don't wanna go through another lengthy discussion, exchanging apologies, goodbyes, sharing regrets..etc. we already returned each other's belongings during our last "Break Up" Is it possible that some things just need to be over? Without explanation? Just "Let it go".. Who knows, his feelings may be mutual and he just hasn't said anything yet. I've always been a caring, respectful woman who appreciates closure for myself and my partner, but this time, my instincts tell me to just let it ride... Who agrees and shares this concept with me? Did it work for you?
JahnJahn Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 For me, this is the first time that I am attempting to truly let someone go. When I love someone, even when something happens, I tend to still want them in my life. Not as buddies, but just as a friend. If your gut tells you to just let it go, I believe you should. If you have reflected in your past relationship and you feel that if you keep contact or dont let go, you will be stuck in a loop, then again I would suggest letting go. For me, my gut is telling me to let go now and maybe one day we can be friends when I can be comfortable seeing my ex with someone else and If I have grown as a person. Just my suggestion, no experience in letting people go btw
stillfiguringitallou Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 I will say this. A "fade out" is only fair if the relationship was not exclusive. Will there be guilt? Yes there will Will there be regret? Yes there will Just be honest. Say - this doesn't work for me. We've tried for a while, but it isn't working. It isn't anything specifically (or if it is be honest - but no bull**** about things like how their feet stink that you've dealt with forever) And most importantly understand that it isn't your right to expect them to agree. Just because you feel this way doesn't mean they do. Take your stand and stand by it - only retract if you truly mean it and not out of lonliness
deathandtaxes Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Be an adult. Be assertive. Be honest. Tell them it's not working and you won't be contacting them. Explain as much or as little as you want. But stick to your guns regarding not contacting them. And that means not responding to contact. 1
Elle1975 Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 -----OK----- We've all been there. That moment when you realize you and your partner just can't "Be Together." I've had an on/off friendship/relationship/sex life with my guy friend for a while now. *I know it's time to move on* I don't wanna go through another lengthy discussion, exchanging apologies, goodbyes, sharing regrets..etc. we already returned each other's belongings during our last "Break Up" Is it possible that some things just need to be over? Without explanation? Just "Let it go".. Who knows, his feelings may be mutual and he just hasn't said anything yet. I've always been a caring, respectful woman who appreciates closure for myself and my partner, but this time, my instincts tell me to just let it ride... Who agrees and shares this concept with me? Did it work for you? Depends. If he's not contacting you anyways, then yes, just no explanation needed as it's already over. If not, sit him down, and break up. In your case, it will probably only take 5 min really, since you've been down that road already.
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