Mochalatte Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 I'm new to dating so please help. Long story short, I went out on an official date with a man. We met prior to this a few times and talked. (He is someone that I have known distantly for awhile now). The date went well! Kissed, made out a small bit at the end. My job requires travel so I left for a week afterwards. He text me that night after the date, and the next day. Said he would be here when I got back...etc. He has shown true interest via text while I have been away by texting me every day. Even text to see if I made it back safely. I would honestly say texting has been initiated equally if one had not heard from the other...and not super lenghty. I realize he is busy. He does have a good bit on his plate. We have discussed doing things together this summer but I'm worried that he officially hasn't mentioned a second date yet... I just got in yesterday. Am I being overly eager? Or is he brushing me off the nice way by contact via text until disappearing?
Gaeta Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Stop the dancing around, for all you know he may be waiting for a green light from you. You are an independent adult woman so offer the second date. 3
Baller25 Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 Your fine. He's not brushing you off but probably doesn't want to seem to eager either. Although personally I'd keep texts and calls to a minimum, better to only use your phone to setup actual dates. The problem with communicating with phones (including FB) is that they make real meet ups less interesting and take away too many conversation topics. 1
Assasda Posted June 8, 2014 Posted June 8, 2014 Yeah, stop acting like a little girl. With all this "Official" stuff. If you wanna get together with him. Get together with him. If two people genuinely have fun with each other and enjoy their company, I see know reason why anything should have to be "Official" for it to go anywhere 1
Author Mochalatte Posted June 8, 2014 Author Posted June 8, 2014 (edited) I guess what I meant by official...was that I am in my late 40's, and the men I have met have been the "hanging out" type where it's I will meet you in 5 mins over a beer and you buy your own food and I Will buy mine...very casual. This was more the nervous tension type where you can't decide wth to wear, he treats you, opens the door for you and gives you an awesome goodnight kiss A date. Very new to me. I ended up sending a message telling him to have a great weekend and that I hoped to see him soon. And he replied wanting to set something up for the following week! Thanks guys. I just really like this guy...he has been like no other I've met. Baller you are so very right. Just had that same convo with a friend last night. If all goes well on the next date, I think less texting and more hearing his voice. After the last date, he said he would call and I thought it was weird bc you don't hear "I will call you" much anymore. But he ended up texting instead. So the text to call transition might not be too bad. Gaeta...it's amazing how one can freak out and lose their calm, level headed way of thinking! Exactly! I just didn't want to blow it by being too eager. Edited June 8, 2014 by Mochalatte
PegNosePete Posted June 10, 2014 Posted June 10, 2014 The problem with communicating with phones (including FB) is that they make real meet ups less interesting and take away too many conversation topics. If you're using up all your conversation topics in 160 characters a couple of times a day, then I really don't think there's much hope for the relationship long-term. In my experience, text can bring up topics which are continued in real life.
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