LuvsTrucks2 Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I had to break NC today and reach out to the STBXH. I so hated to call and ask if he could help with a stuck door but I don't have anyone else to call that I thought could actually help with it. I definitely can't afford a lock smith bill right now. He told me he was leaving work early because his back was hurting. I forgot myself and asked what happened to your back and he didn't answer. He said he would come by and see what he could do to fix the door. I had to swallow a lot of pride but also in a jam literally. I could have called a guy I have been seeing but I'm sensing he needs some space and didn't want to come off as needy to him.....ugh, I had to vent.
irresolute Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 You called him because you wanted to see him. Stop lying to yourself. 1
Author LuvsTrucks2 Posted June 6, 2014 Author Posted June 6, 2014 Not lying to myself, our marriage was over way before we officially ended it and it was on good terms. I called him because he knows about the door and knows how to un-jam it. I'm venting because none of my other friends have the know how to help out. I definitely didn't want to reach out to the new guy and come off as needy since he is very busy with work. I tried taking the door handle off but that didn't work. Taking it off the hinges wouldn't work either.
KaliLove Posted June 6, 2014 Posted June 6, 2014 I had to break NC today and reach out to the STBXH. I so hated to call and ask if he could help with a stuck door but I don't have anyone else to call that I thought could actually help with it. I definitely can't afford a lock smith bill right now. He told me he was leaving work early because his back was hurting. I forgot myself and asked what happened to your back and he didn't answer. He said he would come by and see what he could do to fix the door. I had to swallow a lot of pride but also in a jam literally. I could have called a guy I have been seeing but I'm sensing he needs some space and didn't want to come off as needy to him.....ugh, I had to vent. You majorly contradicted yourself here. I agree with irresolute.
Author LuvsTrucks2 Posted June 7, 2014 Author Posted June 7, 2014 Kali, No, not a contradiction, my first desire was to immediately call the new guy but since he has backed off a bit, I'm giving him his space and my calling him would have made me needy, even though I was at that time, I wasn't going to give him that satisfaction. It all worked out for the best.
Zahara Posted June 7, 2014 Posted June 7, 2014 (edited) Kali, No, not a contradiction, my first desire was to immediately call the new guy but since he has backed off a bit, I'm giving him his space and my calling him would have made me needy, even though I was at that time, I wasn't going to give him that satisfaction. It all worked out for the best. You need to learn to be self-sufficient. You can't keep calling him everytime the door jams or depend on a man when you need something fixed. When I was married, the condo had broken doors, and a host of fixings. Husband was useless. I got on the internet, went to hardware store, asked questions, and I even started collecting my own tools. The only thing I couldn't manage was electrical. Learn to start taking care of these things yourself. You knew you had that bad door for a long while, try to learn how to fix it so you don't have to ask him again. Edited June 7, 2014 by Zahara 3
confusedgirlfriend11 Posted June 9, 2014 Posted June 9, 2014 It probably sucks so much that you have to rely on him still but don't stress. I know it's rubbish breaking NC. I also did it yesterday. I desperately want to forget about him but bliming drunk fingers :-( P.S Buy yourself some WD40. May help with the door.
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